First and foremost, you need to share this with him in a direct manner to ensure he understands your side. Some sort of compromise would be best. And it sounds like this isn't only inconsiderate, but financially wasteful. Do you have different upbringings and therefore different perspective on money? If his whole family is like this, he's learned that there's no downside of being late and spontaneous his entire life. Perhaps you could show him that there is a price to pay or that there is an opportunity cost – the upside he'll never experience due to the last minute planning.
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First and foremost, you need to share this with him in a direct manner to ensure he understands your side. Some sort of compromise would be best. And it sounds like this isn't only inconsiderate, but financially wasteful. Do you have different upbringings and therefore different perspective on money? If his whole family is like this, he's learned that there's no downside of being late and spontaneous his entire life. Perhaps you could show him that there is a price to pay or that there is an opportunity cost – the upside he'll never experience due to the last minute planning.
The reality is that a lot of couples make the mistake that you're making, they stop making an effort and the magic dies.
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Someone has to take control over the stupid behaviour and clearly she won’t
I remember once my step-dad told me that if you wanna knock a dude off his socks, get him flowers.
Every time i have done this for a guy, they were both equally embarrassed and over the moon. It's a special kind of joy ?
No baking cookies because your late wife used to do that… what next, No driving them to school? No tucking them in at night? No watching certain movies they used to watch together?
What would your late wife think about the way you are acting?
I mean this in a nice way – You and your late wife are not the most important people in this story. Your kids are. As a parent you have to go to therapy so you can maturely manage your grief. It is your responsibility to provide a healthy nurturing environment for your kids.
No, SHE is. her parents don’t decided he gets to live with her. SHE does.
What's the matter? Can't handle it? I'm tired of these half ass stories. A man doesn't just shut out his woman for no reason.