I will try to take this into play. I need to take her off socials even today she’s opening my stories after months avoiding my stories. It feels like she’s keeping me on the hook per se. Idk. I want her to do the unfollowing as she’s in this new relationship. Maybe I’m insecure or the people I speak to also too…but everyone I’ve spoken to say it’s weird how she still has this connection to you being that she’s in a new relationship. Most agreed they wouldn’t like their person to have any sort of connection to their ex. Maybe it’s a immature way of thinking. But in terms of my healing I know it’s not helping me to have her there. I’ve only gone far to mute her so I don’t see updates or anything she posts. I’ll have to pull the trigger soon.
I would try a phone game or song but as stupid as it sounds there’s a connection because both of us were nerdy so phone games we would play together. Songs and music we would share to listen. But I need to detach myself. I did love her and still do. But I understand what you’re saying. I guess it just cements my fear in life of nothing good lasts forever. Just another relationship to put in the bag for now.
Same he really is trying to pretend like his gf is unreasonable when really he’s a child that she also has to sleep with. I feel bad for the gf cause yikes
Nooooo. Go through the phone and delete your photos. Facebook stores everything you shared with someone in a messenger chat. I just found a photo I sent 4 years ago because I'm seeing that guy again
My parents have been married for 40 years, after knowing each other for only 5 months on their wedding day. Since I can remember (I’m 32) they’ve threatened each other with divorce basically every 6 months. It’s become an easy threat to throw around. They’ve separated and reconciled and separated and reconciled, to the point that now I just wish they would get it over with.
My husband and I have been together for 12 years, dating 9, married 3. A hard line in the sand for us is: don’t threaten each other with divorce, our marriage is not a tool to use in an argument.
Don’t have my parent’s kind of marriage. It’s not fun for anyone.
You’re not the first Single mom to make things work on your own. You’re not making a rash decision. You have thought this out and made a plan. Yes, things might be tough, but don’t let your fear of the unknown stop you right now. Everybody has second thoughts when facing a new situation.
I doubt very much your parents are going to abandon your daughter. She will still have their love and support and the benefit of their gifts. I actually think you gain gratitude for the people around you when you don’t have everything at your fingertips.
And you only need to make it for one year until your boyfriend comes back. One year is nothing. It will go by so fast. And it could be the most important year of your life.
I dunno if I'm invited to a party I'll ask about food, because I don't wanna go hungry, but a lot of people might expect to be fed.
If there are amenities available, like bikes for hire, people will appreciate knowing that the birthday boy intends to hire a bike to go mountain biking, they might want to bring their own mountain bike too.
I'd like to know what kind of temperatures to expect especially up in the mountains, so I know how much clothing to bring.
Sometimes people need things spelt out to them, like it's a campsite not a swank nightclub, stiletto heels will be ruined.
Your mother is astonishingly insensitive and some more (words that'd get me banned). If it was my mother, she would have been worrying about killing these lil shits who hurt me, not about her worthless “friendships”.
Sounds like this has already been brought to her attention and she's continued to choose to disrespect your relationships and boundaries. Nobody needs a friendship like that. You're not married to her. You don't need to fix this. Just cut her off.
If you really want to keep putting effort into this, I guess you could give her one last chance. I would not sugarcoat it this time. I'd say, “you flirt with your friends' boyfriends. You don't act that way around other men. You say you don't do this. I can give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you really don't notice. But you are still responsible for your own behavior. I am asking you to reflect on this issue and show more respect for my relationship.”
I would avoid an ultimatum, instead giving her clear boundaries and then make your next choice according to how she behaves afterward.
I would also avoid offering to help her figure this out. If she really doesn't realize it, and she really wants to fix it, she can ask you to help her identify the behavior. If she doesn't ask, she doesn't care.
I will try to take this into play. I need to take her off socials even today she’s opening my stories after months avoiding my stories. It feels like she’s keeping me on the hook per se. Idk. I want her to do the unfollowing as she’s in this new relationship. Maybe I’m insecure or the people I speak to also too…but everyone I’ve spoken to say it’s weird how she still has this connection to you being that she’s in a new relationship. Most agreed they wouldn’t like their person to have any sort of connection to their ex. Maybe it’s a immature way of thinking. But in terms of my healing I know it’s not helping me to have her there. I’ve only gone far to mute her so I don’t see updates or anything she posts. I’ll have to pull the trigger soon.
I would try a phone game or song but as stupid as it sounds there’s a connection because both of us were nerdy so phone games we would play together. Songs and music we would share to listen. But I need to detach myself. I did love her and still do. But I understand what you’re saying. I guess it just cements my fear in life of nothing good lasts forever. Just another relationship to put in the bag for now.
Same he really is trying to pretend like his gf is unreasonable when really he’s a child that she also has to sleep with. I feel bad for the gf cause yikes
Nooooo. Go through the phone and delete your photos. Facebook stores everything you shared with someone in a messenger chat. I just found a photo I sent 4 years ago because I'm seeing that guy again
My parents have been married for 40 years, after knowing each other for only 5 months on their wedding day. Since I can remember (I’m 32) they’ve threatened each other with divorce basically every 6 months. It’s become an easy threat to throw around. They’ve separated and reconciled and separated and reconciled, to the point that now I just wish they would get it over with.
My husband and I have been together for 12 years, dating 9, married 3. A hard line in the sand for us is: don’t threaten each other with divorce, our marriage is not a tool to use in an argument.
Don’t have my parent’s kind of marriage. It’s not fun for anyone.
You’re not the first Single mom to make things work on your own. You’re not making a rash decision. You have thought this out and made a plan. Yes, things might be tough, but don’t let your fear of the unknown stop you right now. Everybody has second thoughts when facing a new situation.
I doubt very much your parents are going to abandon your daughter. She will still have their love and support and the benefit of their gifts. I actually think you gain gratitude for the people around you when you don’t have everything at your fingertips.
And you only need to make it for one year until your boyfriend comes back. One year is nothing. It will go by so fast. And it could be the most important year of your life.
feed themselves,
I dunno if I'm invited to a party I'll ask about food, because I don't wanna go hungry, but a lot of people might expect to be fed.
If there are amenities available, like bikes for hire, people will appreciate knowing that the birthday boy intends to hire a bike to go mountain biking, they might want to bring their own mountain bike too.
I'd like to know what kind of temperatures to expect especially up in the mountains, so I know how much clothing to bring.
Sometimes people need things spelt out to them, like it's a campsite not a swank nightclub, stiletto heels will be ruined.
Your mother is astonishingly insensitive and some more (words that'd get me banned). If it was my mother, she would have been worrying about killing these lil shits who hurt me, not about her worthless “friendships”.
Sounds like this has already been brought to her attention and she's continued to choose to disrespect your relationships and boundaries. Nobody needs a friendship like that. You're not married to her. You don't need to fix this. Just cut her off.
If you really want to keep putting effort into this, I guess you could give her one last chance. I would not sugarcoat it this time. I'd say, “you flirt with your friends' boyfriends. You don't act that way around other men. You say you don't do this. I can give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you really don't notice. But you are still responsible for your own behavior. I am asking you to reflect on this issue and show more respect for my relationship.”
I would avoid an ultimatum, instead giving her clear boundaries and then make your next choice according to how she behaves afterward.
I would also avoid offering to help her figure this out. If she really doesn't realize it, and she really wants to fix it, she can ask you to help her identify the behavior. If she doesn't ask, she doesn't care.