If you’re gonna put up with this weird behaviour you may as well go outside, lie down next to your front door and fully commit to your role as a doormat
I'm probably going to get downvoted into oblivion here, but if you don't have $1200 extra to cover a surprise expense, you probably shouldn't have gone to Disneyland yet in the first place.
Now if you didn't want to pay to fix her car because public transportation is a thing and she's a grown adult who can figure out other ways to get to and from her job and needs to learn how to do that(and needs to learn how to save money so she can fix her own car), I get it.
But hiding behind “we can't afford it” if you really mean “you're a grown woman, you need to learn how to do these things for yourself” is only going to feed her resentment of you and your new family. Because that 1000% is coming off as prioritizing them over her.
Telling her that she's an adult and needs to start acting like one will likely not go over well either, but at least it's less favoritism and more “you need to learn to be independent at some point”.
Seriously why not make the very simple decision to stay away from criminals?
You want him to 'sit his wife down' (holy fuck that is terrifying) and have a discussion? Well the 'sit her down' part is certainly up his alley but he cannot conceive of having a discussion because he believes he had one when he informed her that he was exposing her children to a criminal stranger against her will.
There seems to be two problems here. One is definitely the girlfriend she saw $$$$$$$$ and got stars in her eyes. Not good.
The other one is, honesty prior would have been good. Also, while it's good to be wise with your money no one likes to be lied to. If you have THAT much money you shouldn't really be trying to pretend to not have that much.
You should conservatively spend portions of it. She's a teacher and that's an exhausting and underpaid job. If you could afford to take her on vacation and you didn't i could understand why she has reacted that way. A small nice vacation would barely make a dent. $6000 out of $24 million twice a year is a bat of the eye.
Lawyer first. One thing to note is you said they’re going into high school first right? Meaning he hasn’t been in their lives for more than ten years? Might be something to bring up to the lawyer because custody would be a breeze for you if he has abandoned them for that long. Do not engage with anyone besides the lawyer and see what the advice is, then talk to your husband and then your kids.
He's getting angry and pissy with her like her saying yes when he wants sex isn't enough. Why?
Why do you make it seem like the idea of one's partner desiring them is foreign to you? How are you not getting this?
I don't know about you but I don't want my partner to begrudgingly have sex with me or never feel or express interest in me sexually. You're literally arguing that OPs partner should accept and be happy with this and if he isn't ok with it it's rapey.
You do understand that sex is more than a physical act right? Like there's a huge emotional component for a lot of people that's clearly lacking here.
Hey I'm in a relationship, maybe I can help you out in pm 🙂
If you’re gonna put up with this weird behaviour you may as well go outside, lie down next to your front door and fully commit to your role as a doormat
I'm probably going to get downvoted into oblivion here, but if you don't have $1200 extra to cover a surprise expense, you probably shouldn't have gone to Disneyland yet in the first place.
Now if you didn't want to pay to fix her car because public transportation is a thing and she's a grown adult who can figure out other ways to get to and from her job and needs to learn how to do that(and needs to learn how to save money so she can fix her own car), I get it.
But hiding behind “we can't afford it” if you really mean “you're a grown woman, you need to learn how to do these things for yourself” is only going to feed her resentment of you and your new family. Because that 1000% is coming off as prioritizing them over her.
Telling her that she's an adult and needs to start acting like one will likely not go over well either, but at least it's less favoritism and more “you need to learn to be independent at some point”.
Why?
Seriously why not make the very simple decision to stay away from criminals?
You want him to 'sit his wife down' (holy fuck that is terrifying) and have a discussion? Well the 'sit her down' part is certainly up his alley but he cannot conceive of having a discussion because he believes he had one when he informed her that he was exposing her children to a criminal stranger against her will.
Sorry this guy sucks, there is no other interpretation. He ignored your birthday deliberately.
There seems to be two problems here. One is definitely the girlfriend she saw $$$$$$$$ and got stars in her eyes. Not good.
The other one is, honesty prior would have been good. Also, while it's good to be wise with your money no one likes to be lied to. If you have THAT much money you shouldn't really be trying to pretend to not have that much.
You should conservatively spend portions of it. She's a teacher and that's an exhausting and underpaid job. If you could afford to take her on vacation and you didn't i could understand why she has reacted that way. A small nice vacation would barely make a dent. $6000 out of $24 million twice a year is a bat of the eye.
Lawyer first. One thing to note is you said they’re going into high school first right? Meaning he hasn’t been in their lives for more than ten years? Might be something to bring up to the lawyer because custody would be a breeze for you if he has abandoned them for that long. Do not engage with anyone besides the lawyer and see what the advice is, then talk to your husband and then your kids.
He's getting angry and pissy with her like her saying yes when he wants sex isn't enough. Why?
Why do you make it seem like the idea of one's partner desiring them is foreign to you? How are you not getting this?
I don't know about you but I don't want my partner to begrudgingly have sex with me or never feel or express interest in me sexually. You're literally arguing that OPs partner should accept and be happy with this and if he isn't ok with it it's rapey.
You do understand that sex is more than a physical act right? Like there's a huge emotional component for a lot of people that's clearly lacking here.
didn't know you were an expert on my dick.