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Dude you need to block her number and where possible try to avoid crazies like this in the future. Don’t enable her likely emotional abuse of her child and attempt to manipulate you. The kid will hopefully be better off if the narcissistic mom realizes that is not ok/doesn’t work, as cold as that sounds.
The difference between communicating about sex and communicating about other things is that a person can force themselves to do more laundry, wash the dishes more often or step up in other ways beneficial to the relationship whereas sex is really an either you want it or you don't proposition. A woman might be able to use a lot of lube and just try to fake it. But for a guy to get an erection itnhas to involve actual desire. You might be able to coax him into oral sex more often but it would be something he's just forcing himself to do for you. So be very clear about what you're asking for here. Libido is usually set by nature and there's often not a lot you can do about it.
no more than what you’d put in soup and for three days he didn’t eat at all, I just find it concerning that after a week of dieting something like this happened
You’re too young to waste your time on a relationship like this.
He sounds extremely enmeshed with his mother, who has basically made it so that he feels like he HAS to be with her, or else things will fall apart. There’s a huge sense of guilt and obligation there, perhaps. I’ve been there, and I feel for him, but you have to look out for yourself. You can’t allow yourself to also get enmeshed like him. You have yourself and your mom to take care of.
It’s only been six months. I understand feeling like you want to get into a serious relationship as you enter your late twenties, and investing more in relationships, but you really haven’t invested that much yet – you simply can’t in 6 months. Just accept that your goals are incompatible and end it. It doesn’t sound like anybody is the bad person in this situation, but sometimes relationships just don’t work.
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Dude you need to block her number and where possible try to avoid crazies like this in the future. Don’t enable her likely emotional abuse of her child and attempt to manipulate you. The kid will hopefully be better off if the narcissistic mom realizes that is not ok/doesn’t work, as cold as that sounds.
Not really.
His problems are only yours if you allow them.
Well you could tell him this that you have told me.
Two things will happen if you can trust.
He will say he had a change of heart or you can both have a laugh about how bad he is at reading the room.
The difference between communicating about sex and communicating about other things is that a person can force themselves to do more laundry, wash the dishes more often or step up in other ways beneficial to the relationship whereas sex is really an either you want it or you don't proposition. A woman might be able to use a lot of lube and just try to fake it. But for a guy to get an erection itnhas to involve actual desire. You might be able to coax him into oral sex more often but it would be something he's just forcing himself to do for you. So be very clear about what you're asking for here. Libido is usually set by nature and there's often not a lot you can do about it.
no more than what you’d put in soup and for three days he didn’t eat at all, I just find it concerning that after a week of dieting something like this happened
You’re too young to waste your time on a relationship like this.
He sounds extremely enmeshed with his mother, who has basically made it so that he feels like he HAS to be with her, or else things will fall apart. There’s a huge sense of guilt and obligation there, perhaps. I’ve been there, and I feel for him, but you have to look out for yourself. You can’t allow yourself to also get enmeshed like him. You have yourself and your mom to take care of.
It’s only been six months. I understand feeling like you want to get into a serious relationship as you enter your late twenties, and investing more in relationships, but you really haven’t invested that much yet – you simply can’t in 6 months. Just accept that your goals are incompatible and end it. It doesn’t sound like anybody is the bad person in this situation, but sometimes relationships just don’t work.