All else aside, I weep for humanity if 14 year old experience such abusive and traumatic romantic relationships (with peers I hope!) that they struggle for a decade to come.
You pestered, he gave in. Congratulations, you got what you wanted.
If you want to have a fighting chance, both of you should get into individual counseling and start developing yourselves independently of the relationship. These are still your formative years. If you don’t know who you’re growing into outside of the relationship, you will have a huge problem making it work.
You don't think it's hurtful to be threatening violence on her friend, guest, or lover? Words hurt. Your intent to tell her such terrible thing is hurtful. She can't win in your eyes. Neither can you. You gave up being a grownup who can manage relationship basics. Take the L and move on. Please.
If you didn't notice while traveling together and presumably staying in the same room, I'd bet he was off meds. Its all too common for people to start feeling better (the meds are working!) And then stop taking them (as if they're cured)
So many guys still have to become sexually mature. Tisk tisk
All else aside, I weep for humanity if 14 year old experience such abusive and traumatic romantic relationships (with peers I hope!) that they struggle for a decade to come.
You pestered, he gave in. Congratulations, you got what you wanted.
If you want to have a fighting chance, both of you should get into individual counseling and start developing yourselves independently of the relationship. These are still your formative years. If you don’t know who you’re growing into outside of the relationship, you will have a huge problem making it work.
….ok….and you used the word “over-protective” at least three times
in your post. I assume you know the actual meaning of the word, but I
wonder if you appreciate some of the implications for your acquaintance?
Commonly, what you're labelling as “over-protective” parents can be
characteristicly Intrusive, Judgemental and Punitive. If this is even
remotely possible, I can safely guarentee that your partner in no way,
shape or form wants to have that can of worms opened. In situations
such as this, what is simply read as “shyness” or “introvert” is simply
a person struggling to “stay under the radar” knowing what awaits
if the “secret” gets out.
Your communication to your partner needs heavy overtones of safety,
respect and confidentiality to help her with her angst. Just sayin……
You are not compatible anymore.
You don't think it's hurtful to be threatening violence on her friend, guest, or lover? Words hurt. Your intent to tell her such terrible thing is hurtful. She can't win in your eyes. Neither can you. You gave up being a grownup who can manage relationship basics. Take the L and move on. Please.
If you didn't notice while traveling together and presumably staying in the same room, I'd bet he was off meds. Its all too common for people to start feeling better (the meds are working!) And then stop taking them (as if they're cured)