I mean, I’d just tell her. Her cheating is much worse than you snooping, especially since she already cheated before you snooped, which gives you a pretty valid reason to do so in my opinion.
I cannot fathom the casual cruelty with which he has treated you, OP. There's something not right with someone who can act like that towards someone who hasn't done something major to hurt him first. He seems like he just uses people for what they can do for him, then discards them without a second thought once he decides he wants something different. They way he treats people isn't normal. I know it doesn't feel like it right now, and it's not really any comfort, but in time you'll realise that you have dodged a huge bullet here. I would feel sorry for his affair partner for having to deal with this guy in the future but, well, she's made her bed and she can lie in it.
So you know better than her how she should communicate when upset?
You blocking her is the equivalent of giving her the silent treatment because that is her preferred method to talk when she’s upset because of her speech impediment
Y’all needs couple counselling because the healthy communication is non existent
If you're going to throw those catholic middle school definitions around, you should be willing to accept that people grow up with different life experiences than you, and interpret language and their faith differently from you.
You MUST be paid for any shifts you worked. It is illegal to retaliate by withholding payment. Give 2 weeks' notice and apologize- tell them you didn't realize how overloaded you would be with work as a full-time student and you appreciate the opportunity but cannot continue working this job long-term.
Do people really work out every single facet of their child's life before even considering whether they want to get pregnant?
We divide housework fairly enough — she tends to the bills, appointments, and shopping while I take care of our 3 pets, maintain/fix various technology (computers, network, smart devices), and do minor home repairs. Sometimes I do the shopping, sometimes she takes care of the pets. We share the same values, religious beliefs, and social lives (we don't do much). We both love each other's family, and both families have said they would want to be involved in our child's life including providing regular childcare. I said I'd change diapers and wouldn't get mad if she laughed at me reflexively gagging (and I'd probably laugh too). We both believe in science. We both work from home and I think we could pretty easily take turns monitoring a baby, but I have enough income that she could either quit or work part time. When we were thinking of moving a few years ago, school systems were high up on the list of considerations.
These conversations have happened over the course of years, which is why I've held out hope that she might come around.
Leave him alone. You crushed him. He vented to his friend who (wrongly), in turn, took up arms against you on his friends behalf. You're still the same person until you work through your own relationship issues. He doesn't deserve having to work through yours as well as work on any of his own he may have.
His name isn't on the land because it's her brothers land and from my understanding it was also intentionally left off the land. According to her she made it concrete they were done in December. But she caught him cheating 2 months prior. Her explanation as to why he's still there is because she wants to wait until he finds somewhere else. And that she doesn't want to be “shitty” just because he was. We've been seeing each other steady since January 6th.
Lol they would absolutely not investigate. I cannot emphasize enough how little cops care about pet/cat ownership. They’re not making a report for ‘my husband rehomed our cat’
I mean, I’d just tell her. Her cheating is much worse than you snooping, especially since she already cheated before you snooped, which gives you a pretty valid reason to do so in my opinion.
I cannot fathom the casual cruelty with which he has treated you, OP. There's something not right with someone who can act like that towards someone who hasn't done something major to hurt him first. He seems like he just uses people for what they can do for him, then discards them without a second thought once he decides he wants something different. They way he treats people isn't normal. I know it doesn't feel like it right now, and it's not really any comfort, but in time you'll realise that you have dodged a huge bullet here. I would feel sorry for his affair partner for having to deal with this guy in the future but, well, she's made her bed and she can lie in it.
So you know better than her how she should communicate when upset?
You blocking her is the equivalent of giving her the silent treatment because that is her preferred method to talk when she’s upset because of her speech impediment
Y’all needs couple counselling because the healthy communication is non existent
I assume the embryos have your DNA so she would need your consent regardless
Oral sex is sex so she's not a virgin anymore
If you're going to throw those catholic middle school definitions around, you should be willing to accept that people grow up with different life experiences than you, and interpret language and their faith differently from you.
You MUST be paid for any shifts you worked. It is illegal to retaliate by withholding payment. Give 2 weeks' notice and apologize- tell them you didn't realize how overloaded you would be with work as a full-time student and you appreciate the opportunity but cannot continue working this job long-term.
Stay away. If he had really changed, he would have understood why contacting you again was a horrible idea.
Yea
Do people really work out every single facet of their child's life before even considering whether they want to get pregnant?
We divide housework fairly enough — she tends to the bills, appointments, and shopping while I take care of our 3 pets, maintain/fix various technology (computers, network, smart devices), and do minor home repairs. Sometimes I do the shopping, sometimes she takes care of the pets. We share the same values, religious beliefs, and social lives (we don't do much). We both love each other's family, and both families have said they would want to be involved in our child's life including providing regular childcare. I said I'd change diapers and wouldn't get mad if she laughed at me reflexively gagging (and I'd probably laugh too). We both believe in science. We both work from home and I think we could pretty easily take turns monitoring a baby, but I have enough income that she could either quit or work part time. When we were thinking of moving a few years ago, school systems were high up on the list of considerations.
These conversations have happened over the course of years, which is why I've held out hope that she might come around.
OP, your BF sounds lovely and your friend sounds awful
Leave him alone. You crushed him. He vented to his friend who (wrongly), in turn, took up arms against you on his friends behalf. You're still the same person until you work through your own relationship issues. He doesn't deserve having to work through yours as well as work on any of his own he may have.
my ex was like that. he was “too busy” and i “didnt understand “ Lol
my mom later remarried and my step dad is very much like my dad. he treats me well.
pays for my school, car, everything.
they have 2 kids …
His name isn't on the land because it's her brothers land and from my understanding it was also intentionally left off the land. According to her she made it concrete they were done in December. But she caught him cheating 2 months prior. Her explanation as to why he's still there is because she wants to wait until he finds somewhere else. And that she doesn't want to be “shitty” just because he was. We've been seeing each other steady since January 6th.
Lol they would absolutely not investigate. I cannot emphasize enough how little cops care about pet/cat ownership. They’re not making a report for ‘my husband rehomed our cat’
Sounds like it might be “all of the above”, honestly. He's pulling out all the stops in an attempt to avoid it