You can’t make him go away. First you need to understand that.
Second, you need to protect yourself. Speak with your work and landlord so they have a heads up someone might try to make you look bad, reach out to family (assuming they aren’t also abusive), consider moving back home (same thing), get a new number on a new phone (keep the old but put on do not disturb so you still get what he sends; DO NOT LOOK AT IT). Lock down or even delete all social media. Get cameras for inside your apartment/home and outside if allowed.
Third: take your old phone with all his insane ramblings with you to the police. Get a restraining order. Get a taser and or mace depending on what is legal in your area. Get self defense classes. If you cannot get a restraining order, leave. Just straight up move to a new city or back home. As long as he is trying to contact you, and probably for a while after that always have your location traceable by someone you trust (Life360 is used in my family but I haven’t don’t a lot of research into it). Utilize the resources I’m positive someone will share (shelters, legal aid, therapy, etc)
Yeah I guess you guys just wait a little longer telling me don't want to borrow the money from his brother. He probably doesn't have any intention of paying his brother back. You're sitting here obsessing about it and he's probably just assuming his brother is going to forgive the loan because their family. I would hold off buying a house first of all pricing is crazy right now so as long as you wait more time you can save up more money as can he. And why hasn't he saved up more money you might want to think about that? Is he a spend Thrift or does he like the just buy things for his own personal pleasure like nice cars and stuff like that and not playing for the future? Does he have a 401k account or IRAs? So you might want to think about the financial aspect of your fiance?
You can’t make him go away. First you need to understand that.
Second, you need to protect yourself. Speak with your work and landlord so they have a heads up someone might try to make you look bad, reach out to family (assuming they aren’t also abusive), consider moving back home (same thing), get a new number on a new phone (keep the old but put on do not disturb so you still get what he sends; DO NOT LOOK AT IT). Lock down or even delete all social media. Get cameras for inside your apartment/home and outside if allowed.
Third: take your old phone with all his insane ramblings with you to the police. Get a restraining order. Get a taser and or mace depending on what is legal in your area. Get self defense classes. If you cannot get a restraining order, leave. Just straight up move to a new city or back home. As long as he is trying to contact you, and probably for a while after that always have your location traceable by someone you trust (Life360 is used in my family but I haven’t don’t a lot of research into it). Utilize the resources I’m positive someone will share (shelters, legal aid, therapy, etc)
Yeah I guess you guys just wait a little longer telling me don't want to borrow the money from his brother. He probably doesn't have any intention of paying his brother back. You're sitting here obsessing about it and he's probably just assuming his brother is going to forgive the loan because their family. I would hold off buying a house first of all pricing is crazy right now so as long as you wait more time you can save up more money as can he. And why hasn't he saved up more money you might want to think about that? Is he a spend Thrift or does he like the just buy things for his own personal pleasure like nice cars and stuff like that and not playing for the future? Does he have a 401k account or IRAs? So you might want to think about the financial aspect of your fiance?