Came here to say this. As a non-practicing Muslim woman myself….you don't get to pick and choose which parts of the religion to follow. She sounds like a lying POS, another thing thats definitely against Islam (and safe to say most other religions too).
I guess you and I are alone in feeling this way, but I think it's strange. You brought up marriage as a one-day goal to emphasize that you're not looking for a casual encounter. He brought money, contracts, and “corporate judges” (huh?) into it. Imagine if he said that one day he'd like to be married and you replied that a six-figure wedding is non-negotiable.
There's a time and place for that conversation and that wasn't it. It's not the prenup that's wrong or the expensive wedding that's wrong; it's that that was his first reaction. You're not in marriage/wedding negotiation.
There's being direct and straightforward and then there's jumping the gun.
I don't know if I'd call it a red flag exactly, but I'd be put off.
The audacity of that woman, wanting to spend time and do “relationship” type things, shame on her for being so selfish. Wake up and listen to yourself. From the sounds of it you don t have time , nor does it sound like you really want a relationship. You mention ” multiple” bands, are these actual working bands that you derive income from?
You need to decide if you really want to be in a relationship at this time , don't fault her thats just wrong, stay the course you re on she'll find the door on her own.
I just want to be sure that I'm not blaming you. I could easily see someone saying, “you're doing this and that and that's why he'd rather be on his phone.”
Have you ever seen him do the same thing around other people, like his family? You might be dealing with a simple case of phone addiction, which I don't think the DSM V actually recognizes as an actual addiction yet. Still, it's an obvious behavioral problem.
If there are no other issues going on, your first task will be to get him to recognize that it's a real problem. Then you'll have to convince him to get into individual therapy. And it will probably be wise for you two to get into couple counseling. Basically, he's neglecting you. That's a problem in couples that goes waaaaay back. Certainly, before smartphones existed.
I haven't given you an easy answer, AND I might be wrong, but I hope it helps.
Once there is not connection or you are no longer “flowing” and in tune with ya man. It’s over. It’s very sad but the connection is dead.
Well then he's shit out of luck. Either he moves out or stops complaining.
Came here to say this. As a non-practicing Muslim woman myself….you don't get to pick and choose which parts of the religion to follow. She sounds like a lying POS, another thing thats definitely against Islam (and safe to say most other religions too).
Glad OP dumped her sorry @s$.
I guess you and I are alone in feeling this way, but I think it's strange. You brought up marriage as a one-day goal to emphasize that you're not looking for a casual encounter. He brought money, contracts, and “corporate judges” (huh?) into it. Imagine if he said that one day he'd like to be married and you replied that a six-figure wedding is non-negotiable.
There's a time and place for that conversation and that wasn't it. It's not the prenup that's wrong or the expensive wedding that's wrong; it's that that was his first reaction. You're not in marriage/wedding negotiation.
There's being direct and straightforward and then there's jumping the gun.
I don't know if I'd call it a red flag exactly, but I'd be put off.
The audacity of that woman, wanting to spend time and do “relationship” type things, shame on her for being so selfish. Wake up and listen to yourself. From the sounds of it you don t have time , nor does it sound like you really want a relationship. You mention ” multiple” bands, are these actual working bands that you derive income from?
You need to decide if you really want to be in a relationship at this time , don't fault her thats just wrong, stay the course you re on she'll find the door on her own.
I just want to be sure that I'm not blaming you. I could easily see someone saying, “you're doing this and that and that's why he'd rather be on his phone.”
Have you ever seen him do the same thing around other people, like his family? You might be dealing with a simple case of phone addiction, which I don't think the DSM V actually recognizes as an actual addiction yet. Still, it's an obvious behavioral problem.
If there are no other issues going on, your first task will be to get him to recognize that it's a real problem. Then you'll have to convince him to get into individual therapy. And it will probably be wise for you two to get into couple counseling. Basically, he's neglecting you. That's a problem in couples that goes waaaaay back. Certainly, before smartphones existed.
I haven't given you an easy answer, AND I might be wrong, but I hope it helps.
Unless you know that a particular person is a narcissist, let's be kind and assume the latter.
but sister in law brings an innocent partner into a harsh environment.
Nice victim blaming my guy
I would if we weren't on a lease together, I'm going to try to dissolve it due to emotional abuse though.