I can talk to the commander. But that requires a lot of formal work. When this stuff happens they put the marks on you like your guilty, but you are not till the board decides. I just want the next month to go by so they decide guilty or not. I tried to claim bias investigation from day two, but it will probably not help.
This is great feedback. And itâd be even better if everybody was a great communicator and said exactly what they thought and felt.
But you know thatâs not the case. Not only with this guy but with almost everyone, even OP.
When she said she was going to date other people, what she really meant was that she felt rejected and hurt and she wanted to punish the guy for making her feel that way.
Thatâs what was really going on. It doesnât take a genius to understand that.
Think about your own life.
How many times have you struggled to articulate your feelings?
How many times have you been caught on the back foot and responded defensively?
If language is important, shouldnât we take the time to understand each other well?
No, I wouldnât. Try not to think of ending things as a waste because of how long you have been together, thatâs how people stay in incompatible relationships for too long. You said it yourself, this isnât what you envisioned and it makes you feel distant.
Iâve been with my husband 23 years and I have his passwords and can ask him for his phone and go through it if I ask. How many times have I ever done so? Zero! I only have used his phone if I couldnât use mine (if itâs dead or I left it at home, etc). This is very unreasonable to me and an invasion of your privacy and that of your group chat. What if I friend texted you someone in confidence of a sensitive matter?
i know it wont đ i see financial hardship if i continue the relationship
I can talk to the commander. But that requires a lot of formal work. When this stuff happens they put the marks on you like your guilty, but you are not till the board decides. I just want the next month to go by so they decide guilty or not. I tried to claim bias investigation from day two, but it will probably not help.
31 and 21
Oh another one….
Well you know what to do obviously. Get a divorce.
You were preyed upon at 18. Get out and on-line a life. Nothing left to say.
This is great feedback. And itâd be even better if everybody was a great communicator and said exactly what they thought and felt.
But you know thatâs not the case. Not only with this guy but with almost everyone, even OP.
When she said she was going to date other people, what she really meant was that she felt rejected and hurt and she wanted to punish the guy for making her feel that way.
Thatâs what was really going on. It doesnât take a genius to understand that.
Think about your own life.
How many times have you struggled to articulate your feelings?
How many times have you been caught on the back foot and responded defensively?
If language is important, shouldnât we take the time to understand each other well?
Regardless, I appreciate what youâre saying.
Heâs so full of crap. Itâs a toad throw it back!
No, I wouldnât. Try not to think of ending things as a waste because of how long you have been together, thatâs how people stay in incompatible relationships for too long. You said it yourself, this isnât what you envisioned and it makes you feel distant.
Iâve been with my husband 23 years and I have his passwords and can ask him for his phone and go through it if I ask. How many times have I ever done so? Zero! I only have used his phone if I couldnât use mine (if itâs dead or I left it at home, etc). This is very unreasonable to me and an invasion of your privacy and that of your group chat. What if I friend texted you someone in confidence of a sensitive matter?