i use men’s deodorant (the only type that works for me specifically as i sweat a lot) and it broke her out into hives. she also breaks out from most scented things ; the dove deodorant is mostly what works best for now. and i feel so silly ; i didn’t understand there was a difference of antiperspirant and deodorant. i will 100% be speaking with her about specifically getting a combo one. i think mostly it’s a soap issue. she can scrub and scrub with the soaps that work for her and immediately after the shower her armpits still stink. which i understand is just what she’s using isn’t breaking down the bacteria. but she breaks out with my body wash as well.
My heart goes out to both of you. This really does fall on both of you. You didn't see how he was struggling with taking a caretaker role with you and it doesn't seem like he sat you down and really let you know the extent of what he was feeling before he got to the end of his rope. It seemed like this could have been worked on with more open communication from the beginning and less of a “she's going through a lot I don't want to burden her with how I'm feeling, things will get better on their own” mentality on his part. But that can't be changed now and as mean as it might sound he is probably finally feeling free and light for the first time in a long time and no one is going to give that up.
I really hope you seek professional help to learn coping mechanisms to deal with any more depressive episodes that come. Here's to hoping you're both happier in the next chapter of your life.
I know how it is, health care worker and parent with chronic pain. But if the love is going away between them all the other problems hold a higher weight
You sound like a good dad and you’ve dealt with the situation well. You’re taking in advice here really well. Good on you! Keep up the good work and I’m sure your son appreciates you.
You handle this by leaving. If he treats his mom like that how he treats you will get worse. If you have children with him he will treat them like that as well. Is that the life you picture for yourself?
I guess I forgot to explain that, but she isn't going for other guys. We spent most of our days together, and when we aren't, we are constantly sending snaps, so I pretty much know what she's up to at all times. She doesn't really have the capacity to feel romantic things right now I guess. If she was getting with someone else, trust me I would know.
If anyone could respond that would be great.
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i use men’s deodorant (the only type that works for me specifically as i sweat a lot) and it broke her out into hives. she also breaks out from most scented things ; the dove deodorant is mostly what works best for now. and i feel so silly ; i didn’t understand there was a difference of antiperspirant and deodorant. i will 100% be speaking with her about specifically getting a combo one. i think mostly it’s a soap issue. she can scrub and scrub with the soaps that work for her and immediately after the shower her armpits still stink. which i understand is just what she’s using isn’t breaking down the bacteria. but she breaks out with my body wash as well.
My heart goes out to both of you. This really does fall on both of you. You didn't see how he was struggling with taking a caretaker role with you and it doesn't seem like he sat you down and really let you know the extent of what he was feeling before he got to the end of his rope. It seemed like this could have been worked on with more open communication from the beginning and less of a “she's going through a lot I don't want to burden her with how I'm feeling, things will get better on their own” mentality on his part. But that can't be changed now and as mean as it might sound he is probably finally feeling free and light for the first time in a long time and no one is going to give that up.
I really hope you seek professional help to learn coping mechanisms to deal with any more depressive episodes that come. Here's to hoping you're both happier in the next chapter of your life.
OP, I will tell you a sad fact about Human Beings that you need to start
warming up to.
1.) About 80% of the Human Race are no smarter than a High School graduate.
Half of those people are not even smart enough to make it into and through grade
school.
2.) As a result of #1, most people have a Death-grip on their Illusions or how they
Believe the World works. These Illusions don't have to be healthy or productive….
just extant.
3.) It is almost impossible to get people to change their Illusions
and thoses who try will readily find themselves nailed to a Cross.
4.) NIH documents that less than 50% of folks attending therapy report
relief and only about 25% actually express a meaningful change in their behaviors.
5.) Human Being have always, do Now and Will only Talk a better game
than they play.
6.) People who do not fall into #5 will be marginalized from the mainstream
as “abberrant”.
Now that you have read the whole thing go back and
read Numbers 1, 2 and 3
but substitute the word “bigotry” for the word “illusions”.
Any Questions?
Because she’s a broken woman who has made her misery her entire identity. It’s sad. And it’s not her sons fault. Poor OP.
I'd divorce you. You sound like a horrible wife
I know how it is, health care worker and parent with chronic pain. But if the love is going away between them all the other problems hold a higher weight
He doesn’t want it on paper so he can marry someone else and not get in trouble
The fuck you are.
You sound like a good dad and you’ve dealt with the situation well. You’re taking in advice here really well. Good on you! Keep up the good work and I’m sure your son appreciates you.
Could do an eyepatch and say you had some eye surgery.
Im 40 & force myself to go to sleep by 6a. Lol
Well do you actually like him? That’s an important piece. Or was it just for fun?
Troll post. Check the user history.
You handle this by leaving. If he treats his mom like that how he treats you will get worse. If you have children with him he will treat them like that as well. Is that the life you picture for yourself?
I guess I forgot to explain that, but she isn't going for other guys. We spent most of our days together, and when we aren't, we are constantly sending snaps, so I pretty much know what she's up to at all times. She doesn't really have the capacity to feel romantic things right now I guess. If she was getting with someone else, trust me I would know.