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Establish a naked boundary. She can have your mom or you and the kids- but not both. You need to be willing to stand up for it. If someone in my husbands family had abused him the way your mom abused you I wouldn’t want to be around them period. Idc if “she’s family”
So he refuses to believe you didnt cheat and turns around and starts sleeping with others whilst still in the process of divorcing you?
Girl no, he has 0 respect for you. I can't even see why you'd be around him at this point? For the kids? Dig a little on reddit you'll find dozens of posts talking about how much of a bad idea it is to stay because of kids.
Leave. Leave leave leave.
You were raped. Seek help with Law Enforcement and get a gun if your place of residence allows it. Then again, you sound like sympathetic to your husband.
I guess this is what I’m worried about though, it will be easy for him to keep up the act for a while, it will take ages to see if he’s changed
Crap, just wrote a novel in the wrong thread (see above). Meant to answer OP in this one.
Communication is irrelevant here. It's not some puzzle that you have to solve so he starts cleaning, he's a highly educated human who knows exactly what you're asking him to do, he's just choosing not to do it. He even knew he should do it before you asked him, he's just decided not to now.
If he doesn't care enough about you or have enough self respect to take care of his home, what more do you think you can say? And why are you taking responsibility for all of this. Why isn't he taking care of the relationship as well? Why isn't he trying to figure out a way to pull his weight? Why isn't he concerned with how his behaviour is affecting you?
Life is full of ups and downs, and yes partners should support each other, but that doesn't mean he gets to just dump everything on you every time he's stressed. What happens if you're both stressed at the same time? And do you think he will pick up all the housework if it's you that's busy? I doubt it. You need to recongnise that you're being used and taken advantage of by someone who is not interested in being an adult with adult responsibilities.
Disrespecting you relationship would be him continuing to hassle her go hang out after she'smade it clear she's not interested. Sounds like he didn't even know she had a partner. There is nothing for you to do, 'your woman' has it handled.
at 36 he is like a petulant child.
I suggest you do it to him, lets see how he feels like.
Refuse him & stop talking to him/ignore him & just do whatever makes you happy. He needs his own “medicine” thrown back at him. what a jackass!
You should not be pleasing everyone or you will become a doormat. You should take care of yourself first.
My story is pretty similar to yours. Mom died when I was a teenager. Dad remarried. I had challenges with them as I grew up. Left home and went Low / No contact until I got married. At that point things slowly started to change for the better. To the point where we see each other fairly often.
I was angry at them for a long time. I was angry at my dad for not having my back and not setting better boundaries with my Step mom. I was angry with her for pushing the relationship she wanted with a complete disregard for how I felt. In a way I am still angry at both of them because I got the label as the bad kid when all I was trying to do was be the adult in the relationship and communicate how fucked up the situation was and how they as the adults needed to do something different to have a better relationship. Instead I was ignored and told that as the adult they made the decisions. This was all wrapped up in grief and the pain of loss. Making my teenager years an ongoing toxic conflict.
It's up to you about if you want a relationship with your dad and his wife. Where our situations are different is my parents respected my boundaries. Mine never pushed for a relationship. Mine certainly never showed up at my door without an invitations. THAT'S A RED FLAG.
You don't need to have a relationship with them. But I would strongly encourage you to continue therapy to work through your feelings on the matter. You carry that weight with you and it will have an impact on the relationship you have with your kids. Working through your own pain and so that pain doesn't impact the life you have built is by far the most important task you have in front of you. Lastly, Even if you don't agree with your therapist you should understand why they think you should have relationship with them.
If you consider having a relationship with them, I would start by treating them as individuals. Relationship require work from both parties. Part of what infuriated me with my step mom was that she wanted to title of Mom but didn't want to put in the work. She wanted that respect but didn't give it. What I realized is the titles are meaningless. She can call herself your mom, but she isn't if you don't have a relationship. She can call herself Grandma all she wants but if she never meets your kids, they will never run up to an hug her like a Grandma if she doesn't have a relationship. They can call themselves whatever they want, that doesn't entitle them to have that relationship. They have to earn it.
If they want a relationship, What do you want from them? Acknowledgement. To be heard. Respect. If you met with your Dad, what do you want him to hear from you? If you met with his Wife, what would you want to tell her? I'd tell them for you to have a relationship with them: 1) It needs to start as a blank slate. Not as parent to child but simply as 1 adult to another. 2) You want to find a therapist (different than your individual therapist) to go to therapy sessions with them (one on one and the three of you). 3) Failing to follow the boundaries set will result in no contact and a restraining order.
I hear your anger and your pain. With the red flag, your parents may still be as toxic in an adult relationship has they were when you were a child. Whatever the outcome of this, your goal is to take care of yourself, your family and the life you have built. Separate,