Do Not Cave!!! He wants to stand his ground?? Then tell him the truth – every time he wants to have sex or even hug you all you see and think about is he STINKY SHIT SWIRLING AROUND in the toilet instead of his face. Him wanting you to APOLOGIZE for being DISRESPECTFUL and DEFIANT?!?!?! Has he looked in the F**KING MIRROR?!?!
The bar for this relationship is in hell. Stink Shit Based Hell. RAISE THE BAR at least for your own children if not for yourself!!! J! C!
There are some unfortunate statistics about abusive behavior starting after big commitments, like marriage or pregnancy.
I don't mean to smear your fiancee with the above statement, but for me this would be an immediate dealbreaker. If it was emotionally irrational behavior I might consider couple's and individual therapy, but him hitting surfaces and physically destroying objects is a level of physical aggression I would never accept from a partner. Not even once.
This might have never happened before, but are you willing to risk this behavior continuing or even escalating after you two are legally bound to each other ?
What if he does this around your children ?
What if he manages to guilt-trip you into a cycle of outbursts and apologies that slowly wear you down and damage your children irreparably ?
Those are all real risks that have now come to play with his aggressive and violent behavior, exacerbated by his past issues with alcohol.
Worst case scenario is that you spend even more money on the wedding and honeymoon, his behavior continues after you've officiated your unity, and you have to spend even more money on therapy and divorce down the line.
If he honestly thinks it's an addiction, then he should see a therapist who specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to work on this issue.
You have to decide for yourself how much of a boundary this behavior is for you. Some people would consider what he's doing to be cheating, and others would say it's just masturbation, or interactive pornography.
If you find it unacceptable and can't be in a relationship with someone who does this, then you should give him an ultimatum and tell him he needs to see a therapist to learn how to stop this, or else you're getting a divorce.
I think it’s really nice
So when your family member with Alzheimer’s wants to leave the house and walk to the next city or state, be sure to honor their wishes.
Do Not Cave!!! He wants to stand his ground?? Then tell him the truth – every time he wants to have sex or even hug you all you see and think about is he STINKY SHIT SWIRLING AROUND in the toilet instead of his face. Him wanting you to APOLOGIZE for being DISRESPECTFUL and DEFIANT?!?!?! Has he looked in the F**KING MIRROR?!?!
The bar for this relationship is in hell. Stink Shit Based Hell. RAISE THE BAR at least for your own children if not for yourself!!! J! C!
She’s definitely super needy and acting ridiculous. You would think she gave birth with the expectations she has.
There are some unfortunate statistics about abusive behavior starting after big commitments, like marriage or pregnancy.
I don't mean to smear your fiancee with the above statement, but for me this would be an immediate dealbreaker. If it was emotionally irrational behavior I might consider couple's and individual therapy, but him hitting surfaces and physically destroying objects is a level of physical aggression I would never accept from a partner. Not even once.
This might have never happened before, but are you willing to risk this behavior continuing or even escalating after you two are legally bound to each other ?
What if he does this around your children ?
What if he manages to guilt-trip you into a cycle of outbursts and apologies that slowly wear you down and damage your children irreparably ?
Those are all real risks that have now come to play with his aggressive and violent behavior, exacerbated by his past issues with alcohol.
Worst case scenario is that you spend even more money on the wedding and honeymoon, his behavior continues after you've officiated your unity, and you have to spend even more money on therapy and divorce down the line.
If you live in America you CAN get the police involved to subdue him if he won’t let you get your stuff
If he honestly thinks it's an addiction, then he should see a therapist who specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to work on this issue.
You have to decide for yourself how much of a boundary this behavior is for you. Some people would consider what he's doing to be cheating, and others would say it's just masturbation, or interactive pornography.
If you find it unacceptable and can't be in a relationship with someone who does this, then you should give him an ultimatum and tell him he needs to see a therapist to learn how to stop this, or else you're getting a divorce.
I see, well if it were me I would simply confront her with the discovery. Say exactly what you were doing, and you discovered this by accident.