Get his address, break up then call the police to do a wellness check. He’s extremely dysfunctional. If you’re not ready to end it (please please do) consider this. Healthy conflict resolution is where each person’s feelings are treated as just as important, not more than, not less than, but just as important. So one side shares their perspective, receives validation, then the other side shares and gets the same. After that, solutions that WORK FOR BOTH are explored and then implemented.
This is in contrast with what your partner does. What they do is guilt trip you, to the EXTREME!!!!!!! So google “7 Ways to Get Out of Guilt Trips.” It’s a great article that helps shut guilt trips down. So whatever you decide to do you might want to check that article out, it’ll help you deal with guilt trippers better. Either the current one or future ones so you don’t get sucked in. Because that’s what happened, everytime he guilts you, it works to get him what he wants, so he keeps doing it even more the next time you resist. Each time you feel bad and give in just enables him more. And he dies NOT respect your boundaries, if he did he wouldn’t be guilt tripping you.
only if he does it in front of you
Get his address, break up then call the police to do a wellness check. He’s extremely dysfunctional. If you’re not ready to end it (please please do) consider this. Healthy conflict resolution is where each person’s feelings are treated as just as important, not more than, not less than, but just as important. So one side shares their perspective, receives validation, then the other side shares and gets the same. After that, solutions that WORK FOR BOTH are explored and then implemented.
This is in contrast with what your partner does. What they do is guilt trip you, to the EXTREME!!!!!!! So google “7 Ways to Get Out of Guilt Trips.” It’s a great article that helps shut guilt trips down. So whatever you decide to do you might want to check that article out, it’ll help you deal with guilt trippers better. Either the current one or future ones so you don’t get sucked in. Because that’s what happened, everytime he guilts you, it works to get him what he wants, so he keeps doing it even more the next time you resist. Each time you feel bad and give in just enables him more. And he dies NOT respect your boundaries, if he did he wouldn’t be guilt tripping you.
“I found condoms in your drawer, why are they there?”
are they gay too?
OP it sounds like mental illness runs in your family. What would happen if your “fiancée” has a child with God forbid schizophrenia? Your mom and your sister have mental illness. Doesn’t sound like your fiancée is prepared for that possibility. Again I’m not impressed by your fiancé’s reaction. And judging by how many people sympathize with the fiancée… if your sister had God forbid cancer and your fiancée reacted this way people would be more outraged. I’m not impressed by her reaction. There are people who they may be few but who would for you helping your sister and helping with you rather than giving ultimatums.
I think it s the right approach .. I got so used to YOU SHOULD STAY FOR THE KIDS
Yes if you like to be a doormat.
Grow some spine, I honestly dont know how you even consider it.