Unless she’s incredibly stupid, why would you wear the shirt of someone you’re having an affair with, in front of your husband? Most people would do anything to hide cheating.
I assumed that she said it because she didn't want to get asked out in the circumstances we were in at the time. If she said no after I asked her then I'd take it as a no but “not like that” as a response to “do you not want me to ask you out for a date” seemed to indicate yes but not like that. I may just be looking too far into it though and being hopeful can have a negative impact on perception. Either way I decided not to use the bet, if I do ask her out it'll be better not to put any unnecessary pressure that might put her in a tight spot.
Yeah, that’s cheating. Even the intention of nothing actually occurred is very hurtful. I’m going through something similar in which my wife is talking to another married man. They aren’t sexting but what they are saying to each other hurts me. It sounds like you guys dodged a bullet but the trauma of almost getting shot is very hot to deny
he said he got the vid off the internet and would send it to people just to see their reactions, i told him that was kind of creepy and weird. but then i shrugged it off because he said he's changed. he gave no context except “thats not a real person btw”
Secondly, honestly, sit down with her and be up front and honest about it all. Apologise for not updating her during the flat tire night (that's a freebie saying “I really should have updated you sooner, I'm so sorry”) and then tell her exactly what's happening with your ex.
If you want this to work, open honesty is the way, and working with her to bring that trust back.
Very true, just for the record. We are currently on ft. She ftd me randomly 30 min ago after I said we need to finalize our decision and if we break up I want no contact. She’s calling me bub again, acting normal and a lot more calm and clear headed. Should I let this happen or break it off?
I know, I read this bit and I laughed at first because it sounds like a kid telling another kid on the playground that they'll tattle on them lmao.
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OP don't be hiding behind your wife bro, she helped prop you up now you gotta do the rest.
You seem smart. Follow your dreams, not your man.
Unless she’s incredibly stupid, why would you wear the shirt of someone you’re having an affair with, in front of your husband? Most people would do anything to hide cheating.
I assumed that she said it because she didn't want to get asked out in the circumstances we were in at the time. If she said no after I asked her then I'd take it as a no but “not like that” as a response to “do you not want me to ask you out for a date” seemed to indicate yes but not like that. I may just be looking too far into it though and being hopeful can have a negative impact on perception. Either way I decided not to use the bet, if I do ask her out it'll be better not to put any unnecessary pressure that might put her in a tight spot.
Going by her replies here I think they deserve each other.
Yeah, that’s cheating. Even the intention of nothing actually occurred is very hurtful. I’m going through something similar in which my wife is talking to another married man. They aren’t sexting but what they are saying to each other hurts me. It sounds like you guys dodged a bullet but the trauma of almost getting shot is very hot to deny
he said he got the vid off the internet and would send it to people just to see their reactions, i told him that was kind of creepy and weird. but then i shrugged it off because he said he's changed. he gave no context except “thats not a real person btw”
Firstly, PARAGRAPHS DUDE!
Secondly, honestly, sit down with her and be up front and honest about it all. Apologise for not updating her during the flat tire night (that's a freebie saying “I really should have updated you sooner, I'm so sorry”) and then tell her exactly what's happening with your ex.
If you want this to work, open honesty is the way, and working with her to bring that trust back.
Very true, just for the record. We are currently on ft. She ftd me randomly 30 min ago after I said we need to finalize our decision and if we break up I want no contact. She’s calling me bub again, acting normal and a lot more calm and clear headed. Should I let this happen or break it off?