Thank you for telling me about your experience with this.
I wanted to ask you if you have the slightest clue why he is insistent on co-authoring with undergrads (From my knowledge, he has published them before in peer-reviewed journals. He is working with two third year undergrads now besides me. One of which is actually male and I have spoken to. The other student also has nothing bad to say about him.) Could it be the because its a humanities field? Maybe it’s different than STEM.
I’m trying to navigate all the politics of academia but there’s so much I don’t know.
that is 100% not the prevailing opinion in the comments. there are some people saying how she’s likely going through a depressive episode, which is probably true. but i’m not finding any that really excuse what she’s doing. i’m sure there are some buried deep, but the comments are almost all condemning what she’s doing, letting op know things are likely over, and telling him to lawyer up. you would get a very similar response if their genders were flipped. you’re making up a reason to be angry at something which isn’t even the point of this post.
I updated the post, they are definitely a symptom of unhappiness. At the same time I love her dearly and I feel deep down she still loves me and why she mentioned she wants to work on stuff but she mentions breaking up a lot.
We have a trip planned in middle of April and she told me she would tell me if she feels that we will work out after she sees how we interact on that trip.
In the past no, we both bottled things up and she even told me she bottled these issues up for 3 months and led to this but at the same time she told me that I should have known and she was hinting at me about things.
The business failing just made me tighten up on spending, we keep our finances separate but together. Utilities , groceries, dinner, decorations/furnishings, etc are on a shared CC
She’s not wrong to ask him to rethink his hours, she would be wrong to stay with him if he declines to do it. And he’d be wrong to stay with her.
Thank you for telling me about your experience with this.
I wanted to ask you if you have the slightest clue why he is insistent on co-authoring with undergrads (From my knowledge, he has published them before in peer-reviewed journals. He is working with two third year undergrads now besides me. One of which is actually male and I have spoken to. The other student also has nothing bad to say about him.) Could it be the because its a humanities field? Maybe it’s different than STEM.
I’m trying to navigate all the politics of academia but there’s so much I don’t know.
that is 100% not the prevailing opinion in the comments. there are some people saying how she’s likely going through a depressive episode, which is probably true. but i’m not finding any that really excuse what she’s doing. i’m sure there are some buried deep, but the comments are almost all condemning what she’s doing, letting op know things are likely over, and telling him to lawyer up. you would get a very similar response if their genders were flipped. you’re making up a reason to be angry at something which isn’t even the point of this post.
I updated the post, they are definitely a symptom of unhappiness. At the same time I love her dearly and I feel deep down she still loves me and why she mentioned she wants to work on stuff but she mentions breaking up a lot.
We have a trip planned in middle of April and she told me she would tell me if she feels that we will work out after she sees how we interact on that trip.
In the past no, we both bottled things up and she even told me she bottled these issues up for 3 months and led to this but at the same time she told me that I should have known and she was hinting at me about things.
The business failing just made me tighten up on spending, we keep our finances separate but together. Utilities , groceries, dinner, decorations/furnishings, etc are on a shared CC