I can speak on this with some experience. And there is some blatant honesty here about myself to go along for the ride.
We hit the room mate phase a few years ago. I was getting the constant feeling of rejection, I had a much higher sex drive than her (and always have had) and she sometimes used sex as a bargaining tool or a way of controlling me. This didn't sit right with me and I went through a stage of depression. I made the decision that I would no longer let sex control me, or let her use it to control me and I basically stopped initiating.
Then I made a huge mistake. I got some attention from a mutual friend (texting at first, but then that lead to an opportunistic kiss). Behaviour in ashamed off and disgusted in myself for. She found out (not through me, her husband found the texts).
What happened next is nothing short of incredible. We talked, and talked, and talked. All completely open and honest. What we discovered was that monogamy doesn't really work for us. We opened things up with the conditions of absolute honesty and transperancy.
Our love for eachother went to a whole new level of connection and trust. We both find joy in eachother's happiness and share in it on an amazing level.
Our sex life has gone from 0 to 100. We have new found levels of connections in our shared kinks, and this connection has extended out of the bedroom to our day to day lives.
I'm not saying that opening your relationship is going to have the same effect. What I am recommending here is that you are honest and communicate. Have the tough discussions. Be honest to yourself and to your partner and incredible things can evolve from that. Lies and pretending to either yourself or to them achieves nothing.
I also don’t like that she’s trying to become close with my girlfriends we’re all from one hometown and she moved to our city recently and it just feels really strange and my girlfriends are warning me that she’s got bad vibes and is trying to take my identity in the group in some way, maybe it’s to create a sense of belonging for herself in a new town.
We were already suppose to go on a little study date but then I wanted to clear the air and ask how he really feels about me because he’ll say things like he wishes we could be together but then say other things like he’s not in the right mindset to be consistent with me right now.
What in the world.
Married at a young age, dude is takin no responsibility and what part of his 0 engagement screams “good dad” to ya.
Girl you ain't married you're trapped.
You can do better and you can do better for yourself. Leave this close to a human adult of child.
He's not joking. Dump him.
I can speak on this with some experience. And there is some blatant honesty here about myself to go along for the ride.
We hit the room mate phase a few years ago. I was getting the constant feeling of rejection, I had a much higher sex drive than her (and always have had) and she sometimes used sex as a bargaining tool or a way of controlling me. This didn't sit right with me and I went through a stage of depression. I made the decision that I would no longer let sex control me, or let her use it to control me and I basically stopped initiating.
Then I made a huge mistake. I got some attention from a mutual friend (texting at first, but then that lead to an opportunistic kiss). Behaviour in ashamed off and disgusted in myself for. She found out (not through me, her husband found the texts).
What happened next is nothing short of incredible. We talked, and talked, and talked. All completely open and honest. What we discovered was that monogamy doesn't really work for us. We opened things up with the conditions of absolute honesty and transperancy.
Our love for eachother went to a whole new level of connection and trust. We both find joy in eachother's happiness and share in it on an amazing level.
Our sex life has gone from 0 to 100. We have new found levels of connections in our shared kinks, and this connection has extended out of the bedroom to our day to day lives.
I'm not saying that opening your relationship is going to have the same effect. What I am recommending here is that you are honest and communicate. Have the tough discussions. Be honest to yourself and to your partner and incredible things can evolve from that. Lies and pretending to either yourself or to them achieves nothing.
Just skip the crap in between and break up now. Polly and open can absolutely work but this situation is neither of those.
I also don’t like that she’s trying to become close with my girlfriends we’re all from one hometown and she moved to our city recently and it just feels really strange and my girlfriends are warning me that she’s got bad vibes and is trying to take my identity in the group in some way, maybe it’s to create a sense of belonging for herself in a new town.
We were already suppose to go on a little study date but then I wanted to clear the air and ask how he really feels about me because he’ll say things like he wishes we could be together but then say other things like he’s not in the right mindset to be consistent with me right now.