Perhaps you calling off the wedding has created an indicator that this isn't the person for you. Unfortunately you gravely changed your relationship when you called off the wedding and I'm not sure your gf will ever feel that security again and it sounds like she isn't handling it well. Perhaps this isn't the relationship you thought it was/ is
Explain that you are not comfortable spending that much on a car, nor can you guys afford it and that you'd only be willing to split the price of a car that you both agree on. If he doesn't listen it sounds like he doesn't respect your worries and boundaries.
So you’re just owning the lies when she finds them out? That’s not how you “work on it”.
That’s just you STILL lying because you won’t own the biggest shittiest lie of all.
You have no right to date anyone until you can own every fucking lie you’ve told any of your girlfriends, past and present.
She's not “right” she's also not “wrong.” She suggested something – it is a little weird but she sounds like she was trying to help?
All you have to do is say “no thanks we're not going to do that” and move on. Your husband reassured you. That should be that!
Perhaps you calling off the wedding has created an indicator that this isn't the person for you. Unfortunately you gravely changed your relationship when you called off the wedding and I'm not sure your gf will ever feel that security again and it sounds like she isn't handling it well. Perhaps this isn't the relationship you thought it was/ is
Explain that you are not comfortable spending that much on a car, nor can you guys afford it and that you'd only be willing to split the price of a car that you both agree on. If he doesn't listen it sounds like he doesn't respect your worries and boundaries.