I know what i want.. what I don't know is how to end this FWB arrangement with J. I love him but he is never gonna change. I don't know how to tell him that i don't want to see him anymore. I tried doing this like 10 weeks ago and that ended with us making out, which is his usual approach to avoid any difficult conversation.
Huh? She got drunk and got assaulted. You think she’s not incurred life changing trauma from this? She’s going to on-line with a lot of pain because she didn’t limit herself to getting drunk to the point she can still command her body. You live in a delusion, and I hate people who throw that word around but on one hand you acknowledge the world isn’t perfect and this happens but on the other you still wanna * I wanna I wanna I wanna * and hubby BETTER not blame you if it happens and meanwhile you’re picking up the pieces of yourself off the ground. You just really need to be right huh?
24 years old dating a 16 year old is breaking the law
No, at least not in the UK.
Dating a 16 year old as 24 year old is still completely legal.
Even if they have sex, at least in UK it's perfectly legal.
Predators is where I draw the line. A 16 year old is dating a 24 year old? First of all, that isn't dating. It's grooming and it's an imbalance of power in relationships.
No it isn't, they're just dating. You're making a mountain out of a tiny hill.
And when you protect them, you talk to them about how none of it is their fault, you teach them about brain development, about consent, boundaries, respect (we started these conversations very young) etc.
Honestly at 16 you're capable of consenting to sex, and the legal system reflects that.
So at that point, it's whatever for me. I'd just say if you need help, come to me.
Damn, for real?! That's not enough time to get to know someone properly! I know of a friend's friend who HAD to get married before she was 30. Guy she was dating got given her grandma's ring for him to propose at “some point” (no pressure). Long story short, they got married before she was 30 and they got divorced by the time she was 30 because apparently he was a douche and they were not compatible……
Anyway, if that's the goal of your exes and your current one, I wouldn't do it unless you reeealllly want to.
I was waiting for him to invite himself over lol context he’s my first sexual partner and first “relationship” so I’m still learning to communicate my desires
Honestly asking, if she didn’t want anymore children after the 3rd, why didn’t she just tie her tubes during her last delivery? My mom was exhausted after birthing her 7th child, so the doctor asked if she wanted to tie her tubes immediately afterward. She agreed, and it was done “while they were already down there”. My mom was only 30 at the time and comes from a very fertile blood line (11-13 children per generation), so if she hadn’t done that, I’d probably have 3-4 more siblings! Lol
Anyway, outside of that opportunity, tying her tubes becomes a stand-alone separate surgery and comes with the same risks as a vasectomy procedure. Neither of you should be coerced into modifying your bodies against your will.
I (44F) honestly don’t see anything wrong with your suggestion since you’re not pushing her to get her tubes tied, nor making your reconciliation contingent upon it. She’s the one trying to force you to do something you don’t want to. So it may be time to agree to disagree and call it quits for good.
Draw a pretty face on a paper bag. Sit her down. Give her the bag n tell her to try it on. Let her know u really like her mind n spirit n that u know she’ll have no problem getting used to this. Lay down some ground rules so she knows how shits gonna be from here on out like: When I’m around, bag on. I know 100% she’ll appreciate your devotion to the relationship.
Na girl don't worry about it. All those red flags are non-issues if you just don't think about them. You should keep doing whaglt you're doing, you clearly know best. Plus the dick good, why worry?
I know what i want.. what I don't know is how to end this FWB arrangement with J. I love him but he is never gonna change. I don't know how to tell him that i don't want to see him anymore. I tried doing this like 10 weeks ago and that ended with us making out, which is his usual approach to avoid any difficult conversation.
Just don’t tell him “don’t worry it was only physical” because that makes it worse
Huh? She got drunk and got assaulted. You think she’s not incurred life changing trauma from this? She’s going to on-line with a lot of pain because she didn’t limit herself to getting drunk to the point she can still command her body. You live in a delusion, and I hate people who throw that word around but on one hand you acknowledge the world isn’t perfect and this happens but on the other you still wanna * I wanna I wanna I wanna * and hubby BETTER not blame you if it happens and meanwhile you’re picking up the pieces of yourself off the ground. You just really need to be right huh?
Buy yourself a new iPhone and perhaps something else you wanted. Join a gym. Eat out for lunch at work.
Put the house off for a few years. She’s the only one who thinks she is rich. You should live! it up too.
24 years old dating a 16 year old is breaking the law
No, at least not in the UK.
Dating a 16 year old as 24 year old is still completely legal.
Even if they have sex, at least in UK it's perfectly legal.
Predators is where I draw the line. A 16 year old is dating a 24 year old? First of all, that isn't dating. It's grooming and it's an imbalance of power in relationships.
No it isn't, they're just dating. You're making a mountain out of a tiny hill.
And when you protect them, you talk to them about how none of it is their fault, you teach them about brain development, about consent, boundaries, respect (we started these conversations very young) etc.
Honestly at 16 you're capable of consenting to sex, and the legal system reflects that.
So at that point, it's whatever for me. I'd just say if you need help, come to me.
typically within 2-7 months
Damn, for real?! That's not enough time to get to know someone properly! I know of a friend's friend who HAD to get married before she was 30. Guy she was dating got given her grandma's ring for him to propose at “some point” (no pressure). Long story short, they got married before she was 30 and they got divorced by the time she was 30 because apparently he was a douche and they were not compatible……
Anyway, if that's the goal of your exes and your current one, I wouldn't do it unless you reeealllly want to.
Must be a troll.
Or the worst human on earth. If this is even remotely real leave her alone you've done enough damage. You're a monster and don't deserve forgiveness.
I was waiting for him to invite himself over lol context he’s my first sexual partner and first “relationship” so I’m still learning to communicate my desires
Honestly asking, if she didn’t want anymore children after the 3rd, why didn’t she just tie her tubes during her last delivery? My mom was exhausted after birthing her 7th child, so the doctor asked if she wanted to tie her tubes immediately afterward. She agreed, and it was done “while they were already down there”. My mom was only 30 at the time and comes from a very fertile blood line (11-13 children per generation), so if she hadn’t done that, I’d probably have 3-4 more siblings! Lol
Anyway, outside of that opportunity, tying her tubes becomes a stand-alone separate surgery and comes with the same risks as a vasectomy procedure. Neither of you should be coerced into modifying your bodies against your will.
I (44F) honestly don’t see anything wrong with your suggestion since you’re not pushing her to get her tubes tied, nor making your reconciliation contingent upon it. She’s the one trying to force you to do something you don’t want to. So it may be time to agree to disagree and call it quits for good.
Draw a pretty face on a paper bag. Sit her down. Give her the bag n tell her to try it on. Let her know u really like her mind n spirit n that u know she’ll have no problem getting used to this. Lay down some ground rules so she knows how shits gonna be from here on out like: When I’m around, bag on. I know 100% she’ll appreciate your devotion to the relationship.
My thoughts exactly.
Na girl don't worry about it. All those red flags are non-issues if you just don't think about them. You should keep doing whaglt you're doing, you clearly know best. Plus the dick good, why worry?