Best thing I could tell you is therapy that way you can get the root of your trauma and have healthy relationships I'm proud of you for breaking up with someone sleeping around on you cuz you don't deserve to be cheated on
As the oldest in my fam you'll be surprised what older siblings can get away with because usually the 1st child is the favorite being the 1st and the parents will take an oldest child's side before the young ones.
That being said, I was never like this to my brothers and sisters. Your older sister is just a bitch. If you have a phone secretly record her doing what she does to you guys on a daily basis. If your parents don't believe nude evidence they won't believe you at all.
If the comments about Charlie being rude and disrespectful are true, I don’t like him either. That said your family giving you an ultimatum is the worse. If you are with Charlie you are with him, but being with him sounds like the real conversation we need to have. Is he right for you? Would you be happier with someone else or alone?
just found out he told people things I only trusted him with, among various other things before. If I want to see if he has anything to say about it then I think that's something im entitled to.
It is normal. Especially if you have been making hurtful remarks. It seems she realises you don’t know where the line is (because you have crossed it more than once). So now you don’t get to talk about it at all.
I once told my husband’s uncle that there are no circumstances in which he should talk about a woman’s weight. Not if she is pregnant, not if she has lost weight, or gained weight. You never know what someone is going through. My mum just lost 15 kgs because she has been really sick the last 9 months. Now she might even agree that a year ago she needed to lose some weight, but not like that and not that fast or that much. I had people comment when I was pregnant saying things like “are you sure you’re not having twins?” And I’d say “no, just one baby. And their weight and mine is tracking at exactly the right growth. But thanks for making this first time mother feel insecure.”
But also, I think perhaps you might not have compatible values. So that’s worth having a conversation about. Really don’t bring up weight though. In that conversation, or in any further conversations with anyone else in the future.
You tried very hot to trap him into saying somthing negative or were fishing for compliments i'm not sure which. , he didn't bite and you are still mad.
You sound pretty manipulative as well as being a drama queen.
Lesson don't ask questions unless you are prepared to hear the answers its unfair.
Sounds like the best advice is to not be like your Mum. Ask yourself “would Mum have dine this?” And is the answer is yes, don’t do that.
Also, have these people asked for your feedback? Or do you just swan in and provide your unwanted opinion about how they are wrong, and think you aren’t being critical? Wait until your opinion is asked for. If they don’t ask, then shut your trap. Who says you suggestions actually make things better anyway?
Never let the guy cum first. I turn into an entirely different person after an orgasm. It's like someone literally yanked the concept of sex and horniness from my brain. I think post nut clarity hit and he just stop caring about sexual things.
It's weird because it feels like I have fallen out of love almost. We still have fun when together, I still enjoy her company but I've started to think about doing stuff without her for example and what it would be like if we break up (which saddens me). It's only been a few days though and the switch happened so instantaneous that I don't want to jump to any conclusion, I know we have a good thing going here and don't want to ruin it
From OP’s comments it seems he has a substantial inheritance, which is usually protected and can be reinforced with a prenup. So really the reason is just that he sucks and is crazy.
The one thing that is painfully apparent here is that you are both at very different stages in your lives.
Neither one of you is wrong, but fundamentally, you are incompatible.
He wants to settle down in the next 12 months. You want to take advantage of the modelling opportunities that are available to you now.
For what it is worth, I think it would actually be a mistake for you to to sacrifice this opportunity for a relationship. Realistically, you have an expiration date as a model (I know how horrible that sounds, sorry!), and you may not ever get a chance like this again. It would be an incredible experience to love & work overseas doing something that you enjoy. And if you don't take it, you will likely regret it forever. Even more so if you relationship fails.
It's not rare to find a good relationship. Very hot? Yes. Time Consuming? Also yes. Will you have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince? Big Fat Yes.
But to suggest you will never find a relationship as good as this one (and tbh, he has belittled you, called you names & been generally unsupportive of your plans so I fail to see what is so great about your relationship) because it is so rare? I call BS on that. You will find someone else, who will probably be even better for you than this guy.
okay lol
Best thing I could tell you is therapy that way you can get the root of your trauma and have healthy relationships I'm proud of you for breaking up with someone sleeping around on you cuz you don't deserve to be cheated on
As the oldest in my fam you'll be surprised what older siblings can get away with because usually the 1st child is the favorite being the 1st and the parents will take an oldest child's side before the young ones.
That being said, I was never like this to my brothers and sisters. Your older sister is just a bitch. If you have a phone secretly record her doing what she does to you guys on a daily basis. If your parents don't believe nude evidence they won't believe you at all.
If the comments about Charlie being rude and disrespectful are true, I don’t like him either. That said your family giving you an ultimatum is the worse. If you are with Charlie you are with him, but being with him sounds like the real conversation we need to have. Is he right for you? Would you be happier with someone else or alone?
just found out he told people things I only trusted him with, among various other things before. If I want to see if he has anything to say about it then I think that's something im entitled to.
It is normal. Especially if you have been making hurtful remarks. It seems she realises you don’t know where the line is (because you have crossed it more than once). So now you don’t get to talk about it at all.
I once told my husband’s uncle that there are no circumstances in which he should talk about a woman’s weight. Not if she is pregnant, not if she has lost weight, or gained weight. You never know what someone is going through. My mum just lost 15 kgs because she has been really sick the last 9 months. Now she might even agree that a year ago she needed to lose some weight, but not like that and not that fast or that much. I had people comment when I was pregnant saying things like “are you sure you’re not having twins?” And I’d say “no, just one baby. And their weight and mine is tracking at exactly the right growth. But thanks for making this first time mother feel insecure.”
But also, I think perhaps you might not have compatible values. So that’s worth having a conversation about. Really don’t bring up weight though. In that conversation, or in any further conversations with anyone else in the future.
You tried very hot to trap him into saying somthing negative or were fishing for compliments i'm not sure which. , he didn't bite and you are still mad.
You sound pretty manipulative as well as being a drama queen.
Lesson don't ask questions unless you are prepared to hear the answers its unfair.
Sounds like the best advice is to not be like your Mum. Ask yourself “would Mum have dine this?” And is the answer is yes, don’t do that.
Also, have these people asked for your feedback? Or do you just swan in and provide your unwanted opinion about how they are wrong, and think you aren’t being critical? Wait until your opinion is asked for. If they don’t ask, then shut your trap. Who says you suggestions actually make things better anyway?
You should’ve came clean to your fiancé when you were communicating with your ex in the first place. You are still going to have to tell her about your conversations still.
Never let the guy cum first. I turn into an entirely different person after an orgasm. It's like someone literally yanked the concept of sex and horniness from my brain. I think post nut clarity hit and he just stop caring about sexual things.
It's weird because it feels like I have fallen out of love almost. We still have fun when together, I still enjoy her company but I've started to think about doing stuff without her for example and what it would be like if we break up (which saddens me). It's only been a few days though and the switch happened so instantaneous that I don't want to jump to any conclusion, I know we have a good thing going here and don't want to ruin it
Yeah I guess
I'm not an abusive women tho it was one soft slap
From OP’s comments it seems he has a substantial inheritance, which is usually protected and can be reinforced with a prenup. So really the reason is just that he sucks and is crazy.
Stop treating him that way. Simple. If you want this to end, YOU'RE the reason it's happening. You're treating him badly.
Don't want him to shut down? Don't treat him badly. Do better.
The one thing that is painfully apparent here is that you are both at very different stages in your lives.
Neither one of you is wrong, but fundamentally, you are incompatible.
He wants to settle down in the next 12 months. You want to take advantage of the modelling opportunities that are available to you now.
For what it is worth, I think it would actually be a mistake for you to to sacrifice this opportunity for a relationship. Realistically, you have an expiration date as a model (I know how horrible that sounds, sorry!), and you may not ever get a chance like this again. It would be an incredible experience to love & work overseas doing something that you enjoy. And if you don't take it, you will likely regret it forever. Even more so if you relationship fails.
It's not rare to find a good relationship. Very hot? Yes. Time Consuming? Also yes. Will you have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince? Big Fat Yes.
But to suggest you will never find a relationship as good as this one (and tbh, he has belittled you, called you names & been generally unsupportive of your plans so I fail to see what is so great about your relationship) because it is so rare? I call BS on that. You will find someone else, who will probably be even better for you than this guy.
I powered through, though. It doesn't get better.