My gf has access to my phone and i trust her with that and she trust me with her's but it's not cool to be snooping people's private conversations, i would feel awful if she did that
Boyfriend could have been raised in an abusive environment and have very little clue how to form healthy relationships. He may have been forced to learn how to be evasive because he could not escape his abusive parents.
Block his friends, I hope you have done that already, you should not leave yourself open to their opinions. Do not secretly leave those lines of communication open so that he can find you, he knows how.
You just need to find something to occupy your mind. You already have school so can you learn an instrument? Find a fun hobby? Watch cooking videos and make something for your family? Or he neighbors?
I really think going backwards in this chain (with your comments) is how you explain this to her. Setting the stage (which she might already know from your other comments) before informing her of your decision could help.
I mean as long as I can afford it, i’m ok to give my brother anything…real talk, I literally gave my sibling 3k each month for a year when he was not working which was just 1k short of what i would keep for myself…
It’s family, if we don’t look out for each other, who will?
I love her dearly and feel pretty confident she has not and will not physically cheat on me. There's only one friend she has I am uncomfortable with and we have fought about because I found out they share a mutual interest in each other. Despite the arguments and upset I don't want to leave someone I built a life with for over a decade, I want a way to express to her that how I feel about the subject matters as much as the habits she has developed.
My gf has access to my phone and i trust her with that and she trust me with her's but it's not cool to be snooping people's private conversations, i would feel awful if she did that
Boyfriend could have been raised in an abusive environment and have very little clue how to form healthy relationships. He may have been forced to learn how to be evasive because he could not escape his abusive parents.
Don’t waste time on people like that
Block his friends, I hope you have done that already, you should not leave yourself open to their opinions. Do not secretly leave those lines of communication open so that he can find you, he knows how.
You just need to find something to occupy your mind. You already have school so can you learn an instrument? Find a fun hobby? Watch cooking videos and make something for your family? Or he neighbors?
Choose between him and the baby? Get him the hell out! Unreal.
It will get so much worse if they tie the knot.
You attract more bees with honey than with vinegar.
At 26 you are just entering prime marriage age and there are a lot of guys out there looking.
when you put it like that… there's one option that sticks out as a “fuck no.”
I really think going backwards in this chain (with your comments) is how you explain this to her. Setting the stage (which she might already know from your other comments) before informing her of your decision could help.
So you're saying she'd totally intentionally cheat.
I mean as long as I can afford it, i’m ok to give my brother anything…real talk, I literally gave my sibling 3k each month for a year when he was not working which was just 1k short of what i would keep for myself…
It’s family, if we don’t look out for each other, who will?
I love her dearly and feel pretty confident she has not and will not physically cheat on me. There's only one friend she has I am uncomfortable with and we have fought about because I found out they share a mutual interest in each other. Despite the arguments and upset I don't want to leave someone I built a life with for over a decade, I want a way to express to her that how I feel about the subject matters as much as the habits she has developed.