But vasectomies aren’t as reversible as people on Reddit make it seem.
You’re free to do whatever you want.
My point was you may change your mind, which there is also nothing wrong with, but again with vasectomies you may not have the option to reverse it and it is very expensive to try.
Maybe he will get over his embarrassment if you tell him that you see therapy as the only chance you have of repairing your relationship – and even then it's not a sure thing. I'd actually tell him that his behavior has permanent consequences, and that his apology doesn't change how his initial outburst affected you and changed your feelings for him.
And from everything I've read on Reddit or heard from friends: children growing up with happy divorced parents are usually better-adjusted than children growing up in an abusive household with two parents who dislike each other and are on permanent warfare.
That really depends on the context. Like: how long did it last? A one-time thing can be just a seriously stupid mistake. But if it's an actual affair, that's not a mistake, that's a strategized, well-planned deception, which to me is on a whole different level and makes the person way less trustworthy.
How was her relationship? Did she cheat bc she was bored, or just not feeling it, or bc cheating itself excites her (the feeling of the Forbidden Fruit)? Or did she do it because the relationship was abusive or bad and she felt like this was a way to slowly disentangle herself from it? Again, completely different levels of integrity. If she happens to cheat when she's bored/horny, then yeah she will most likely cheat on you too. Why wouldn't she? If she cheated because of some unexpected, dramatic circumstances, then I would be more forgiving, since shit happens and sometimes we do our best but still make mistakes.
Some people say that “she could change” but I'm really not a fan of this type of thinking. It's best to expect the type of behavior that already happened before, and judge people on the merits of what they actually do/are NOW, not some future, theoretical “change” that may happen.
If someone gets turned on by cheating, bc it's an exciting secret, or just lacks loyality, it's unlikely that they will change. But if the cheating happened due to some terrible circumstances, or honestly happened only once – there is a more realistic chance it will not happen again.
Think about why he would do this…? He told you, she kept her mouth shut. So you already know from Steve, and it seems as if she cleared you in your mind but you're playing this drama game in which you're testing her for NOT telling you? But you already know? That's drama on your part, dude. “Hey, just so you know, I know about the accusations against me. Steve told me. Why didn't you tell me?”
You made it a “bad” thing for her to do. You even want to ban it. That’s why she lies. You have shamed her for using it even though you have an active sex life and you have sex every day.
First thing I thought of too!!
And there are shelters that are specifically set up to help women like her.
Thank you ❤️
Sue. Him.
Nothing wrong with not wanting kids.
But vasectomies aren’t as reversible as people on Reddit make it seem.
You’re free to do whatever you want.
My point was you may change your mind, which there is also nothing wrong with, but again with vasectomies you may not have the option to reverse it and it is very expensive to try.
Yea, she’s legit.
This person needs to be told how they are being perceived and they need a view from outside of themselves.
Treat them the same way you do the people who want to clean your heating ducts.
You’ve already typed out your truths here, so what’s to convince? You’ve put it into words, accept your own words, then move forward.
I'd view it as a form of emotional cheating.
“The silent treatment” is abuse and should not be the go-to behavior of an adult in a relationship.
OP needs to do 2 things:
Leave her abusive, insecure boyfriend
Never lie to her SO again, whoever that person is.
Tell him you’re flattered but have a girlfriend so thanks but no thanks.
One of the dogs actually belong to me and him in name tho. My parents take care of it but we support it financially
Maybe he will get over his embarrassment if you tell him that you see therapy as the only chance you have of repairing your relationship – and even then it's not a sure thing. I'd actually tell him that his behavior has permanent consequences, and that his apology doesn't change how his initial outburst affected you and changed your feelings for him.
And from everything I've read on Reddit or heard from friends: children growing up with happy divorced parents are usually better-adjusted than children growing up in an abusive household with two parents who dislike each other and are on permanent warfare.
That really depends on the context. Like: how long did it last? A one-time thing can be just a seriously stupid mistake. But if it's an actual affair, that's not a mistake, that's a strategized, well-planned deception, which to me is on a whole different level and makes the person way less trustworthy.
How was her relationship? Did she cheat bc she was bored, or just not feeling it, or bc cheating itself excites her (the feeling of the Forbidden Fruit)? Or did she do it because the relationship was abusive or bad and she felt like this was a way to slowly disentangle herself from it? Again, completely different levels of integrity. If she happens to cheat when she's bored/horny, then yeah she will most likely cheat on you too. Why wouldn't she? If she cheated because of some unexpected, dramatic circumstances, then I would be more forgiving, since shit happens and sometimes we do our best but still make mistakes.
Some people say that “she could change” but I'm really not a fan of this type of thinking. It's best to expect the type of behavior that already happened before, and judge people on the merits of what they actually do/are NOW, not some future, theoretical “change” that may happen.
If someone gets turned on by cheating, bc it's an exciting secret, or just lacks loyality, it's unlikely that they will change. But if the cheating happened due to some terrible circumstances, or honestly happened only once – there is a more realistic chance it will not happen again.
>>Steve asked me not to let her know he told me
Think about why he would do this…? He told you, she kept her mouth shut. So you already know from Steve, and it seems as if she cleared you in your mind but you're playing this drama game in which you're testing her for NOT telling you? But you already know? That's drama on your part, dude. “Hey, just so you know, I know about the accusations against me. Steve told me. Why didn't you tell me?”
You made it a “bad” thing for her to do. You even want to ban it. That’s why she lies. You have shamed her for using it even though you have an active sex life and you have sex every day.