I’m honestly a little floored by these comments. I don’t think you’re really overreacting considering you just heard about it.
I’m gonna say this, I think you have every right to be upset at the fact HE TOLD A CHILD and he didn’t apologize or acknowledge your feelings. If he laughed about it even after you brought it up, that’s not great.
I would communicate more to him about the situation and take it from there. and the fact he tells his sexual life to a child is also something to be concerned about…
Pressuring someone for sex is skeevy but it's not rape. If an adult is incapable of saying no and removing themselves from an intimate situation they shouldn't have been in in the first place then they're not mature enough to be in a relationship regardless. She cheated on you. Full stop. There are no parts of her story that change or justify that.
Now it's up to you to decide how you want to move forward and whether or not that will include her.
Cold feet. Everyone goes through this with their first kid. He’s just nervous, all parents go through it when they don’t feel prepared enough for parenthood. It’s also realizing it’s now not just talking about pregnancy, it’s really happening and he thought he had more time. But be blinked and it’s now 16 weeks in instead of only a few weeks when it just started.
Does he have any friends that have a kid and can talk to them about first time parent fears?
It’ll be far easier if he had even one guy friend that’s a dad and can talk him off this ledge.
she is not pushing me or anything and I usually like it. It is the fact that she had those things if she didn't then I wouldn't have any problems but she had and it reminds me thos disgusting people. She is not forcing me she doesn't even know I have this concern.
Exactly what I just commented to some woman on here claiming it was no big deal. The levels ppl will go to delude themselves when passing judgement is astonishing.
From the comments I see on this thread, most people agree that it is normal.
Everyone I know has some kind of memento from a past relationship, and many still keep in contact with exes to varying degrees. There is nothing nefarious or suspicious about it.
I think you are so caught up in the age gap issue that you are determined to make this a red flag for the relationship, when it isn't.
I’m honestly a little floored by these comments. I don’t think you’re really overreacting considering you just heard about it.
I’m gonna say this, I think you have every right to be upset at the fact HE TOLD A CHILD and he didn’t apologize or acknowledge your feelings. If he laughed about it even after you brought it up, that’s not great.
I would communicate more to him about the situation and take it from there. and the fact he tells his sexual life to a child is also something to be concerned about…
Pressuring someone for sex is skeevy but it's not rape. If an adult is incapable of saying no and removing themselves from an intimate situation they shouldn't have been in in the first place then they're not mature enough to be in a relationship regardless. She cheated on you. Full stop. There are no parts of her story that change or justify that.
Now it's up to you to decide how you want to move forward and whether or not that will include her.
Much appreciated!
Cold feet. Everyone goes through this with their first kid. He’s just nervous, all parents go through it when they don’t feel prepared enough for parenthood. It’s also realizing it’s now not just talking about pregnancy, it’s really happening and he thought he had more time. But be blinked and it’s now 16 weeks in instead of only a few weeks when it just started.
Does he have any friends that have a kid and can talk to them about first time parent fears?
It’ll be far easier if he had even one guy friend that’s a dad and can talk him off this ledge.
she is not pushing me or anything and I usually like it. It is the fact that she had those things if she didn't then I wouldn't have any problems but she had and it reminds me thos disgusting people. She is not forcing me she doesn't even know I have this concern.
Don't it feel like you're riding on a down-bound train.
Exactly what I just commented to some woman on here claiming it was no big deal. The levels ppl will go to delude themselves when passing judgement is astonishing.
Block and delete
Thank you
From the comments I see on this thread, most people agree that it is normal.
Everyone I know has some kind of memento from a past relationship, and many still keep in contact with exes to varying degrees. There is nothing nefarious or suspicious about it.
I think you are so caught up in the age gap issue that you are determined to make this a red flag for the relationship, when it isn't.