If you donβt have any money to buy groceries, why are you buying him expensive clothes and shoes. Being able to eat is more important than your boyfriend looking fancy.
Also why move in with a man after only 2 months? Especially without discussing finances first
Your bf doesn't want a child now. Even if it were only because he's emotionally unavailable, that's enough for him to know he's not ready for parenthood. Remember that it happens also in seasoned couples, with children: one can still not want a child. And a child has a right to fully committed parents. If you want to go ahead with the pregnancy, by all means do so, knowing that your bf might just provide financial support. It's also possible that an abortion might end the relationship, you might feel forced to go through it, doubt his commitment to you, etc. If that happens, like it often does after a miscarriage or the loss of a child, it's sad, but it's what it is
I can understand your boyfriend not intervening initially because he trusts you, but you should get them to at least help you communicate and enforce boundaries with the roommate. Maybe if you reach out to your boyfriend with first draft of what you'll say to the roommate he'll understand the severity of the situation and take care of things from there.
All things considered I think you're handling this with as much care as you can, and it's okay to expect help in such potentially touchy situations. Your boyfriend may just worry of being the one to start those conversations out of respect for your agency and fear of upsetting his friend. Simply asking an open ended question to him might be all you really need, like “what do you think I should say to roommate to make this boundary clear without unnecessary hurting them?” or “how can we work together on this?”
If you donβt have any money to buy groceries, why are you buying him expensive clothes and shoes. Being able to eat is more important than your boyfriend looking fancy.
Also why move in with a man after only 2 months? Especially without discussing finances first
Your bf doesn't want a child now. Even if it were only because he's emotionally unavailable, that's enough for him to know he's not ready for parenthood. Remember that it happens also in seasoned couples, with children: one can still not want a child. And a child has a right to fully committed parents. If you want to go ahead with the pregnancy, by all means do so, knowing that your bf might just provide financial support. It's also possible that an abortion might end the relationship, you might feel forced to go through it, doubt his commitment to you, etc. If that happens, like it often does after a miscarriage or the loss of a child, it's sad, but it's what it is
You have a job. Move out.
You go through is phone, clearly don't trust him, and confide in male friends about your relationship.
He cheats on you.
I don't want to give the typical Reddit answer but it's probably best you go your seperate ways at this point…
I can understand your boyfriend not intervening initially because he trusts you, but you should get them to at least help you communicate and enforce boundaries with the roommate. Maybe if you reach out to your boyfriend with first draft of what you'll say to the roommate he'll understand the severity of the situation and take care of things from there.
All things considered I think you're handling this with as much care as you can, and it's okay to expect help in such potentially touchy situations. Your boyfriend may just worry of being the one to start those conversations out of respect for your agency and fear of upsetting his friend. Simply asking an open ended question to him might be all you really need, like “what do you think I should say to roommate to make this boundary clear without unnecessary hurting them?” or “how can we work together on this?”