have her sign a post nup before leaving, tell her she can have her two weeks in france, and a set time after, and have her commit to full disclosure and trasnparency and std tests upon return. Tell her that you will have to re-discover her upon her return too
If it’s not the 40 minutes it’s not worth it to smoke. Smoking inside someone else’s property very likely violates their housing agreement. It’s also fucking disgusting. You blatantly disrespected a clear boundary and are now dealing with the aftermath. She’s done with you so leave her alone.
IMO you're going to have to be adamant about talking to her, maybe get her in a car ride or in a public place so that she will HAVE to listen and then proceed to tell her that you want her there but not her bf, if she gets pissed and says then she wont be there either than so be it, this is YOUR day and YOU get to choose who can come and who cannot and no one else, period.
Or she’ll literally crawl on top of me and stare until I wake up and acknowledge her.
Your girlfriend is weird and controlling. None of this is acceptable.
There is some underlying issue here that she demands your time. She needs therapy, and you need sleep.
If she’s not willing to work on these issues, then you need to leave her.
have her sign a post nup before leaving, tell her she can have her two weeks in france, and a set time after, and have her commit to full disclosure and trasnparency and std tests upon return. Tell her that you will have to re-discover her upon her return too
If it’s not the 40 minutes it’s not worth it to smoke. Smoking inside someone else’s property very likely violates their housing agreement. It’s also fucking disgusting. You blatantly disrespected a clear boundary and are now dealing with the aftermath. She’s done with you so leave her alone.
Yeah, it just takes off a layer of potential conflict.
It would be different if one of us were stay at home parents or something and had no income at all. But that’s not our situation. ?♀️
IMO you're going to have to be adamant about talking to her, maybe get her in a car ride or in a public place so that she will HAVE to listen and then proceed to tell her that you want her there but not her bf, if she gets pissed and says then she wont be there either than so be it, this is YOUR day and YOU get to choose who can come and who cannot and no one else, period.