I'm willing to bet her responses either going to be gaslighting or admitting it because she's Petty and upset about the whole rent thing. Add record if you can legally or have it sent through texts as proof for the future
Why can’t you? Please look up what is a “sunk cost fallacy”, you are basically reluctant to leave the relationship because you have already spent 7 years in it, even though it would benefit you in the long term to end it now.
Hm. Maybe saying he lacks remorse is the wrong way to put it. I believe he truly fears the idea of you leaving him and he probably knows that he is doing things wrong, so he has regrets about those things. But he is unwilling to change, and he showed you that by making promises and not keeping them.
I have to go to sleep, but I really do hope you’ll read all the comments here and get all that you can out of them. My question for you is this: do you want 60 more years of being told your emotions are less important than your partner’s? That you have to understand him but he doesn’t have to understand you? Do you want 60 more years of promises that won’t be kept? And if you don’t want 60, then why put up with one when you could be using that time to live a happier life where you are your first priority? He’s right that you deserve better. So go and get it!
You grew up in a violent household is why you've put up w it so long. We all do. You already know, your kid will remember.
Either break the cycle of abuse now and get full custody or admit that your kids will make the same poor choices after they've been desensitized to violent outbursts from their mom.
Violence from my dad was so normal that I missed every red flag in past partners because what was a red flag, was just normal behavior.
Update?
I'm willing to bet her responses either going to be gaslighting or admitting it because she's Petty and upset about the whole rent thing. Add record if you can legally or have it sent through texts as proof for the future
No. Closure isn't a thing you get from other people anyway. It doesn't really exist like that in the real world.
The answer to this question is always yes.
You're gonna be alright kid
Why can’t you? Please look up what is a “sunk cost fallacy”, you are basically reluctant to leave the relationship because you have already spent 7 years in it, even though it would benefit you in the long term to end it now.
We have an emergency fund just fine. We have a savings, our bills are paid, we pay a portion if hers.
I was not going to dip into emergency or savings,qnd what I had in “free money” was intended to be spending money for Disney.
Hm. Maybe saying he lacks remorse is the wrong way to put it. I believe he truly fears the idea of you leaving him and he probably knows that he is doing things wrong, so he has regrets about those things. But he is unwilling to change, and he showed you that by making promises and not keeping them.
I have to go to sleep, but I really do hope you’ll read all the comments here and get all that you can out of them. My question for you is this: do you want 60 more years of being told your emotions are less important than your partner’s? That you have to understand him but he doesn’t have to understand you? Do you want 60 more years of promises that won’t be kept? And if you don’t want 60, then why put up with one when you could be using that time to live a happier life where you are your first priority? He’s right that you deserve better. So go and get it!
You grew up in a violent household is why you've put up w it so long. We all do. You already know, your kid will remember.
Either break the cycle of abuse now and get full custody or admit that your kids will make the same poor choices after they've been desensitized to violent outbursts from their mom.
Violence from my dad was so normal that I missed every red flag in past partners because what was a red flag, was just normal behavior.
You should have called the cops.
Clearly she prioritized a quick fuck over your entire life together. Remember that.
I mean if you don't mind sharing him then go back.
Your in your 50s and you said he's pretty great otherwise.