He didn’t have many pictures. Maybe 20, so it didn’t take much to see all of them. It could possibly be the oldest first but it doesn’t explain the fact that he put the effort to save and send that picture over but hasn’t bothered to save a single one of us.
I wouldn’t even waste your time with this girl. “Hm ok” is her reply to you saying “I love you.” Even if she’s not ready to say it back or something, she could at least be a little nicer. That response seems quite rude to me. She seems to be entertaining another guy and is being all secretive when she otherwise wouldn’t be. I can only think of two things: First, she’s interested in this guy and just keeping you around as a backup (I know that stings to here, I’ve been there) Second, she’s trying to make you jealous for the attention, or as some sort of test. You don’t wanna deal with either of those situations. I’d say go ahead and cut your losses, go out there and find a girl that cares.
This is one of the most insane posts I've seen on here. Your wife has a mentally unstable amount of control and self esteem issues. Accusing you of incest multiple times? What the fuck man, leave
am not a fan of this additional drama that never had to exist
Exactly this. Tina completely threw you under the bus here (typed this whilst reading and just seen you used the same analogy, analogy five!) ) So many non-dramatic ways to nope out of a weekend activity. You should be able to trust your partner in a rant, especially when it's a shared rant from all you said.
Putting the relationship aside, if anyone confides in a partner or friend, it should remain between them. That's what confide means. It also sucks on the flipside when you confide personal information to a friend and they go share it with their partner.
Now you've got an atmosphere to deal with going forward that may never go away.
Anything we can say is guesswork. I’ll add one alternative guess to one of his behaviours. The “amusement” might not be actual “amusement” (Tho, it’s possible if he’s a sociopath or just super damaged and at the end of his rope I guess) Has he ever delivered horrible news with a smile? Talked about trauma or tragedy with a smile?
I was so conditioned to minimise my own pain that I would (and sometimes still do) talk about horrible pain by seemingly smiling and joking. “So then XYZ happened and it was really awful haha”. It’s a defense mechanism, but also it’s a weird way to attempt to soften the blow for others. I didn’t know how to handle my own hurt and didn’t want to hurt anyone else. Not saying this is absolutely what’s happened, but it’s a possibility.
I don't think this is a big deal at all. Guys LOVE it when a girl they like expresses their love like that. I wouldn't make it a bigger deal by talking about it. Just move on with your relationship and I'm sure he'll say it back to you soon enough
We’ve already slept together plenty of times. And funnily enough I have gotten her pregnant. It was after our first time. And my first time ever. We didn’t keep it, but what an experience I’ve had for my first relationship huh? It just became another thing for her to use to keep me intertwined “you got me pregnant before so we can never not be together” and I believed her. I’m planning on doing it tomorrow when I wake up. I just need to get it over with.
As someone who was in your position, I would tell you that you will regret not picking the school of your choice.
I went to an in-state college to stay with my boyfriend and we broke up two months after our first semester ended. We’d been together since our sophomore year. I gave up a full-ride to an out-of-state school because I wanted to stay with my boyfriend.
Some couples your age stay together and go the distance, but most don’t. College may have you wondering what else is out there! I’m not saying you should break up, but you should pick YOU. You don’t want to do something you’ll regret for a relationship that doesn’t last. Good luck!!
The phone thing is weird because its not normal. People like to destroy/manipulate evidence to cause even more confusion to the party that's trying to piece things together. Trust your gut here imo
This. Op, women have posted on here that their husband of 10+ years was caught recording their niece in the bathroom. That’s a decade of marriage. You’re in a brand new relationship.
You’re still at the point where you’re both showing off your best sides to each other. You don’t actually know him deep down yet.
Sadly, this is just another manipulation tactic and he isn't going to divorce you. You should definitely divorce him though, you deserve so much better
He didn’t have many pictures. Maybe 20, so it didn’t take much to see all of them. It could possibly be the oldest first but it doesn’t explain the fact that he put the effort to save and send that picture over but hasn’t bothered to save a single one of us.
Any chance he’s her father ? My sons father never told anyone we have a child. He would have been 22 when she was born. It’s a reasonable explanation.
What, exactly, does she say she sees in you? What does she say makes you special?
I wouldn’t even waste your time with this girl. “Hm ok” is her reply to you saying “I love you.” Even if she’s not ready to say it back or something, she could at least be a little nicer. That response seems quite rude to me. She seems to be entertaining another guy and is being all secretive when she otherwise wouldn’t be. I can only think of two things: First, she’s interested in this guy and just keeping you around as a backup (I know that stings to here, I’ve been there) Second, she’s trying to make you jealous for the attention, or as some sort of test. You don’t wanna deal with either of those situations. I’d say go ahead and cut your losses, go out there and find a girl that cares.
This is one of the most insane posts I've seen on here. Your wife has a mentally unstable amount of control and self esteem issues. Accusing you of incest multiple times? What the fuck man, leave
am not a fan of this additional drama that never had to exist
Exactly this. Tina completely threw you under the bus here (typed this whilst reading and just seen you used the same analogy, analogy five!) ) So many non-dramatic ways to nope out of a weekend activity. You should be able to trust your partner in a rant, especially when it's a shared rant from all you said.
Putting the relationship aside, if anyone confides in a partner or friend, it should remain between them. That's what confide means. It also sucks on the flipside when you confide personal information to a friend and they go share it with their partner.
Now you've got an atmosphere to deal with going forward that may never go away.
Anything we can say is guesswork. I’ll add one alternative guess to one of his behaviours. The “amusement” might not be actual “amusement” (Tho, it’s possible if he’s a sociopath or just super damaged and at the end of his rope I guess) Has he ever delivered horrible news with a smile? Talked about trauma or tragedy with a smile?
I was so conditioned to minimise my own pain that I would (and sometimes still do) talk about horrible pain by seemingly smiling and joking. “So then XYZ happened and it was really awful haha”. It’s a defense mechanism, but also it’s a weird way to attempt to soften the blow for others. I didn’t know how to handle my own hurt and didn’t want to hurt anyone else. Not saying this is absolutely what’s happened, but it’s a possibility.
We have been together for 2 years with xer, xhe is the most beautiful and caring person I have met in my life. I am not going to leave xer.
I don't think this is a big deal at all. Guys LOVE it when a girl they like expresses their love like that. I wouldn't make it a bigger deal by talking about it. Just move on with your relationship and I'm sure he'll say it back to you soon enough
We’ve already slept together plenty of times. And funnily enough I have gotten her pregnant. It was after our first time. And my first time ever. We didn’t keep it, but what an experience I’ve had for my first relationship huh? It just became another thing for her to use to keep me intertwined “you got me pregnant before so we can never not be together” and I believed her. I’m planning on doing it tomorrow when I wake up. I just need to get it over with.
Each one of those things are absolutely a big deal. All together? Yikes.
As someone who was in your position, I would tell you that you will regret not picking the school of your choice.
I went to an in-state college to stay with my boyfriend and we broke up two months after our first semester ended. We’d been together since our sophomore year. I gave up a full-ride to an out-of-state school because I wanted to stay with my boyfriend.
Some couples your age stay together and go the distance, but most don’t. College may have you wondering what else is out there! I’m not saying you should break up, but you should pick YOU. You don’t want to do something you’ll regret for a relationship that doesn’t last. Good luck!!
The phone thing is weird because its not normal. People like to destroy/manipulate evidence to cause even more confusion to the party that's trying to piece things together. Trust your gut here imo
Leave and ghost. Just block him EVERYWHERE and never give a single explanation.
This. Op, women have posted on here that their husband of 10+ years was caught recording their niece in the bathroom. That’s a decade of marriage. You’re in a brand new relationship.
You’re still at the point where you’re both showing off your best sides to each other. You don’t actually know him deep down yet.
Sadly, this is just another manipulation tactic and he isn't going to divorce you. You should definitely divorce him though, you deserve so much better