There is absolutely no way for a man to truly know how to get his woman off without honest feedback.… obviously, this should go both ways in an intimate relationship… the bedroom is not a place to be shy. There is nothing shy about someone else shoving a body part inside of you, so speak up. Sex is the ultimate intimate act so if you don’t feel comfortable, even talking to the person you’re having sex with in my opinion, you should not be having sex with that person.
Does anyone have any advice that doesn't involve just leaving him?
Nope.
Has anyone dealt with this before?
Yep.
My advice is to leave. You've sunk literal years into this battle and nothing has changed. It's not going to. Sorry. That's the truth. He. Won't. Change. You're wasting your breath and fighting a losing battle. You realize the solution is as simple as him setting an alarm on his phone to go off every few days to remind him about the litter box / garbage. I mean, we're talking next-to-zero effort here and in 6 -8 freaking years he hasn't even managed that.
He has successfully made you his mommy-bang-maid. It works for him. It's been years now and nothing has changed other than now he's added the extra-bonus of pretending he has improved. So now you get to argue about what he's not doing and argue about his perception of what he's not doing. So not only has your situation not improved in the 6 – 8 years you've given it, it's gotten worse.
Stick around if you really want to but just know that every time you need to ask, remind, beg, plead, just do it yourself is going to kill a little piece of you and a little piece of your love for him. You will eventually leave but you'll be so full of anger and resentment by then that you won't even be able to enjoy your freedom until that dissipates. And it'll take longer than you think.
Call him when he supposed to be at the meal, if he doesn't answer , say I know where you are and I would class this as cheating, so when you are home I would like to sort out our finances and go our separate ways.
I don't think it's appropriate for a committed man to have a meal alone with the opposite sex, but that's me,
And the fact he hasn't told you is a other red flag,
Try calling him around dinner time Friday, he said he has no plans
Maybe say seeing as he away and you miss him you want to have a virtual dinner date Friday where you both sit eat and talk on video call.
See if he says oh I can't I'm doing xyz Friday,
Say yeah I know exactly what your doing , and I class this as cheating.
I’m worried if something isn’t said we’ll never see our cousin again. She ignores our calls and texts. She hides from us when we visit. And I may not know the whole story with my grandparents but I do know all the issues we have with her is all on her. She already goes out of her way not to let me visit. With my uncle gone I don’t think we’ll ever be allowed to see them again. I just don’t know what to do at this point.
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There is absolutely no way for a man to truly know how to get his woman off without honest feedback.… obviously, this should go both ways in an intimate relationship… the bedroom is not a place to be shy. There is nothing shy about someone else shoving a body part inside of you, so speak up. Sex is the ultimate intimate act so if you don’t feel comfortable, even talking to the person you’re having sex with in my opinion, you should not be having sex with that person.
Does anyone have any advice that doesn't involve just leaving him?
Nope.
Has anyone dealt with this before?
Yep.
My advice is to leave. You've sunk literal years into this battle and nothing has changed. It's not going to. Sorry. That's the truth. He. Won't. Change. You're wasting your breath and fighting a losing battle. You realize the solution is as simple as him setting an alarm on his phone to go off every few days to remind him about the litter box / garbage. I mean, we're talking next-to-zero effort here and in 6 -8 freaking years he hasn't even managed that.
He has successfully made you his mommy-bang-maid. It works for him. It's been years now and nothing has changed other than now he's added the extra-bonus of pretending he has improved. So now you get to argue about what he's not doing and argue about his perception of what he's not doing. So not only has your situation not improved in the 6 – 8 years you've given it, it's gotten worse.
Stick around if you really want to but just know that every time you need to ask, remind, beg, plead, just do it yourself is going to kill a little piece of you and a little piece of your love for him. You will eventually leave but you'll be so full of anger and resentment by then that you won't even be able to enjoy your freedom until that dissipates. And it'll take longer than you think.
Call him when he supposed to be at the meal, if he doesn't answer , say I know where you are and I would class this as cheating, so when you are home I would like to sort out our finances and go our separate ways.
I don't think it's appropriate for a committed man to have a meal alone with the opposite sex, but that's me,
And the fact he hasn't told you is a other red flag,
Try calling him around dinner time Friday, he said he has no plans
Maybe say seeing as he away and you miss him you want to have a virtual dinner date Friday where you both sit eat and talk on video call.
See if he says oh I can't I'm doing xyz Friday,
Say yeah I know exactly what your doing , and I class this as cheating.
I’m worried if something isn’t said we’ll never see our cousin again. She ignores our calls and texts. She hides from us when we visit. And I may not know the whole story with my grandparents but I do know all the issues we have with her is all on her. She already goes out of her way not to let me visit. With my uncle gone I don’t think we’ll ever be allowed to see them again. I just don’t know what to do at this point.