Boyfriend = friend + extra loyalty, physical intimacy, possibly living together, possibly joint finances, possible marriage plans, possibly kids and so on.
If you can tell friend, you should be easily able to tell bf (other way around not necessarily).
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Sounds like you guys might need to have a discussion about boundaries… clearly this is something she doesn’t view as cheating, but if it was over the line for you that’s a valid response. The gender of the third person is irrelevant here.
Sounds like for whatever reason he might be coming around to their way of thinking. Without knowing why, there's no way to offer any insight but you definitely need to let him know what you're feeling. His response to that should tell you all you need to know.
As you imply, there are a lot of different scenarios. Honestly too many to list. I’m a home body, he loves to go out for drinks, clubbing. I love to cook, but he has an extremely restrictive diet that over the last 4 years have completely exhausted my love for cooking to the point where I rarely do it anymore. I am career orientated, he is not sure what he wants to do with his life. Most of the problem lies in the fact that he leans heavily on me for his day to day activities. We’ve discussed that he makes friends that he can share and do things with, he doesn’t like the idea (he is from a different country so doesn’t have many friends). He is very religious, whilst I am not at all. Even our sense of humour and political viewpoints are different which occasionally ends up with one of us being very offended. There is a lot more but it is difficult to really put it all in words. Over the last 4 years I have tried to work through these and integrate them into my life but the longer we are together, the more I see. Sometimes it gets a-bit overwhelming.
Is it his culture to not shower/have BO?
Is he depressed?
Boyfriend = friend + extra loyalty, physical intimacy, possibly living together, possibly joint finances, possible marriage plans, possibly kids and so on.
If you can tell friend, you should be easily able to tell bf (other way around not necessarily).
When your ready! Today! Tomorrow!
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Sounds like you guys might need to have a discussion about boundaries… clearly this is something she doesn’t view as cheating, but if it was over the line for you that’s a valid response. The gender of the third person is irrelevant here.
Sounds like for whatever reason he might be coming around to their way of thinking. Without knowing why, there's no way to offer any insight but you definitely need to let him know what you're feeling. His response to that should tell you all you need to know.
Are you sure he’s the person you’d want to do this with? Or that he’d even be a good parent?
If you were to get pregnant right now it’ll be known as a geriatric pregnancy. If I were you I’d move on and do it on my own with donor sperm
Nopeeeeee but she brings it up
“forced the backdoor even while I sobbed”.
Is that consent to you?
Oh you're right. Ugh that's such a shame.
As you imply, there are a lot of different scenarios. Honestly too many to list. I’m a home body, he loves to go out for drinks, clubbing. I love to cook, but he has an extremely restrictive diet that over the last 4 years have completely exhausted my love for cooking to the point where I rarely do it anymore. I am career orientated, he is not sure what he wants to do with his life. Most of the problem lies in the fact that he leans heavily on me for his day to day activities. We’ve discussed that he makes friends that he can share and do things with, he doesn’t like the idea (he is from a different country so doesn’t have many friends). He is very religious, whilst I am not at all. Even our sense of humour and political viewpoints are different which occasionally ends up with one of us being very offended. There is a lot more but it is difficult to really put it all in words. Over the last 4 years I have tried to work through these and integrate them into my life but the longer we are together, the more I see. Sometimes it gets a-bit overwhelming.
Am I under any moral obligation to let his wife know?
Under the moral obligation of being a decent human being, yes.