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Him struggling with the boundaries you set is already a red flag. But what the FUCK?! That’s extremely fucked up of your boyfriend. I would leave if I knew my partner was good friends with someone who abused a 14 year old, what the fuuuck
this is one of the fakest stories i’ve read in a while
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… I thought about becoming a Catholics priest in order to become more attracted to my girlfriend who looks like a little boy…
That was horrific to read, so I can't even begin to imagine what that must have been like to experience, I honestly can't think of any constructive advice to give except therapy and a divorce. That whole incident reads more like a violent sexual assault than any type of consensual exploration within a loving environment.
I (35F) learned this just two weeks ago in therapy. I'm an adult now. I don't need “mommy's love” like a child does. As an adult, I can have a healthy adult love relationship with my spouse/SO.
Even though he and I have been married for seven years, emotional issues with my mom kept creeping back into my life– and my marriage. I've put a stop to it since coming to understand the difference.
My mother's love was transactional. I never knew unconditional love and acceptance. I had to ask for affection. It was never given freely or even offered. I was parentified and used as my mom's emotional support crutch for many, many years.
I'm the oldest of three in what was a single-parent household. I was making my own lunch and doing laundry at eight. I started dinners, was in charge of making sure homework and housework were done by the time I was 11. I was also very mature and looked older than my age. So much so that people started asking me to babysit their kids. Kids who were only a few years younger then me.
The lasting, ripple effect of this upbringing is still unraveling itself and stirring up things emotionally. I have a focus for therapy this year, as I know I want to not only heal this issue, I want to break the generational trauma that Was passed down to me.
My mom was my late grandmother's “little helper”; she was my late grandfather's favorite. She was sent out to greet and “soften” him up so as to hopefully prevent upheaval upon his entrance home. She, along with her siblings (who were significantly abused as she witnessed) would clean the house to try and appease both parents. Highly, highly dysfunctional all around.
I'm the end point in all this. It stops with me. My kids (5F and 3M) know love and cuddles and silliness and I don't require any stupid extras from them. I love and accept them for who they are, as they are. They still are expected to do age-appropriate things like clear their plates from the table, put their folded laundry away, and clean up after themselves, but I would never love them less for any reason.
As someone who's maternal relationship is skewed, I HIGHLY recommend therapy to learn boundaries and to heal before you and your bf ever consider having kids.
You sound like a bright and capable woman. I wish only the best as you navigate these issues.
I'm quite sure it's not, at least I don't think it is… but we are talking about him, not me.
I think too much has happened here to make this a successful relationship. Cut your losses and move on.
so why not just take that line out?
Break up with him just in case he's abusive, you know just as a precaution against him mentally abusing you, keeping you aeay from your friends etc
To be clear he decided to cheat because he wanted to. If he was loyal to you he wouldn't have cheated twice in the time you were apart. There is no “just in case”, you were away, he wasn't getting laid, he wanted to get laid, he cheated to get laid.
What advice would you give one of your friends on the ski trip who told you your story?
Because her entire adult life this girl has a had a creepy older man involved in it who had feelings for her. That’s gross. She broke up with her fiancé a week ago, her confessing her love for you in this moment isn’t a good sign for you. You’ve already disrespected your wife in the past, why should anyone offer advice on how to do it now?
I really appreciate a message like this.
I want to talk to her a bit more so I can understand perhaps what she thinks is missing so that we have a point to work forward from.
Yeah there's some work ahead, but I'm 100% committed to using this as a basis to try and make our marriage better.
Thank you so much for your kind words and reassuring. I am more aware now, and more collected. I can see where you go with the cycle thing. I will try to work on shutting down that little voice in therapy! I will try to heal and get better at spotting the red flags -and then cutting off these kind of people- in order to not repeat the cycle. Thank you so much.
Not really. He's expecting you to pay your half. Which just means you'll have to broach him taking his share too x
All she tells me is they are really friendly and there is nothing more. I dont think he is abusing his position if she is doing all this with consent no?
We are 31F and 33M been together about 14 years the tldr is he insists on making breakfast in bed for me and it's exclusively food that makes me sick.
“Im sorry but I can't eat any of that. I appreciate the effort I just can't eat X,Y, and Z right now. Could you please put that away?”
Primarily it's because I don't eat in the morning. He knows this.
I would be a lot less polite about it after the third time. “Listen, you already know Im nauseous in the morning and can't eat anything. Do I need to say it again or have The idea literally makes want to throw up. So you're being a moron right now. If you want to make me lunch in the afternoon that might be great. Don't do this again, please. And don't look at me that way.”
like pulls me from a cold dead sleep at fuck ass a.m. in the morning to make me a hot breakfast in bed
I'd be pretty fucking pissed. This is some passive-aggressive type shit.
“Have you lost your mind? It's dark:30 in the morning. put that back in the kitchen, let me go back to sleep. Im sorry I don't care, take it away now.”
His ego is extraordinarily fragile
So, when's the last time he protected your sense of self, or your particular sensitivities?
Good actual question, right there. That kind of empathy needs to go both ways. Just saying.
Since he knows what is actually fucking wrong with what he's doing already, it's long past the point of caring about this ego. If he wants to ignore what you've told him multiple times before then you need not protect him from the emotional consequences of what he chose.
and I was raised in a hell hole of 0 tolerance for feedback and unclean plates
Also probably a fair amount of passive-aggressive tactics.
On top of this I am the only one who cleans.
Why?
He already knows I don't take my coffee this way and that these things make me sick so I honestly don't know why he keeps doing it unless he just doesn't care that I'm sick
He's punishing you in a passive-aggressive way. This doesn't sound innocent or clueless. It sounds malicious and manipulative. It's his smug way of making him feel like you were obliged to suck up to him.
Financially we really can't afford for me to just not eat it or throw it away.
Eat it later.
Don’t be the clueless naive doormat you sound like. Grow a backbone and set boundaries that you are willing to walk away for good over. Never allow anyone to walk all over your boundaries.
I tried telling her this but she almost started crying again and now isn’t talking to me.
I am her first girlfriend so I can’t really compare this with anything