I wouldn't think you need to tell her. 17 & 20 isn't a significant age gap, and since you're not attracted to minors now that you're older, you're in the clear. But if you feel the need to tell her, then tell her.
If the asshole does press charges for assault and battery against the BF, then the BF is gonna be in a lot of trouble, because the asshole has literal proof
PLUS, the GF isnāt even pressing charges for sexual assault. So the police arenāt even going to investigate that allegation of SA because no one is pressing charges anyways
Should you be controlling what she does and when she goes out? Also no. Sheās her own person and sheās 19, she is going to want to party with her friends. Thereās nothing wrong with that. You make it sound like sheās going out with the sole purpose of cheating on you or something. She was just enjoying herself.
āJust the fact that my gf was out at 3am without me or basically anyone else makes me feel anxious and badā – Iām afraid youāre going to need to let that go in future if youāre going to have successful trusting relationships. Why does the mere fact of her going out make you uncomfortable? I would understand if she was going with a group of guys and hiding it from you, or if sheād cheated in the past, but literally just the fact of her going out without you makes you uncomfortable? Thatās controlling.
You have boundaries in your relationship and she overstepped them. I understand why you want to break up. But I would challenge you to assess WHY you are uncomfortable with her going out without you. Most women youāll date in future will want to go out without you from time to time. It kind of sounds like you want a woman who has no social life outside of your relationship, which is not healthy.
If you do break up with her, IMO it should be because of the lie, not because she went out. You cannot control other people living their lives, and the more you try the more they will push against you.
Heās not that bad. Heās fucking awful.
I wouldn't think you need to tell her. 17 & 20 isn't a significant age gap, and since you're not attracted to minors now that you're older, you're in the clear. But if you feel the need to tell her, then tell her.
She was 98 and on blood thinners for diabetes, and they just put her back in her shit smelling room because she seemed okay
She had cluster headaches for days afterwards
I agrƩe with you, but there is no proof. The SA happened 2 years ago and the only corroboration is hearsay
If the asshole does press charges for assault and battery against the BF, then the BF is gonna be in a lot of trouble, because the asshole has literal proof
PLUS, the GF isnāt even pressing charges for sexual assault. So the police arenāt even going to investigate that allegation of SA because no one is pressing charges anyways
Because he told her that he didnāt know any other guys who would be okay with their GF doing this.
Itās almost like some men donāt realize that is women have a super power where donāt just trip and fall on a dick because one is present. ?
Just tell her. Unless she has something major going on in her life, thereās really no wrong time.
āHey..Iāve been really enjoying our conversations. Iād love to take you out for a date next time youāre in town.ā
She is sexually coercing you. This is literally a major red flag and Iād leave asap.
Honestly, I would text him that he need to go somewhere else until he's ready to talk.
Ok. Should she have lied? No.
Should you be controlling what she does and when she goes out? Also no. Sheās her own person and sheās 19, she is going to want to party with her friends. Thereās nothing wrong with that. You make it sound like sheās going out with the sole purpose of cheating on you or something. She was just enjoying herself.
āJust the fact that my gf was out at 3am without me or basically anyone else makes me feel anxious and badā – Iām afraid youāre going to need to let that go in future if youāre going to have successful trusting relationships. Why does the mere fact of her going out make you uncomfortable? I would understand if she was going with a group of guys and hiding it from you, or if sheād cheated in the past, but literally just the fact of her going out without you makes you uncomfortable? Thatās controlling.
You have boundaries in your relationship and she overstepped them. I understand why you want to break up. But I would challenge you to assess WHY you are uncomfortable with her going out without you. Most women youāll date in future will want to go out without you from time to time. It kind of sounds like you want a woman who has no social life outside of your relationship, which is not healthy.
If you do break up with her, IMO it should be because of the lie, not because she went out. You cannot control other people living their lives, and the more you try the more they will push against you.
No. Not the comment. Itās up at the top where he really list all the things wrong with the relationship.