Okay but how much of the housework/mental load are YOU doing? Yeah my husband spent time with the kids when he got home, but that didn't mean I could take a break. It just meant I had to do the things I couldn't do with the kids. By the time we went to bed the last thing I wanted to do was be touched by someone else, or have to give more attention to anyone. Best way for my husband to get laid was for him to sort dinner, or do the dishes/laundry/vacuuming while I went for a walk, or send me to bed on a weekend and take the boys out so it was QUIET. If she has no time to be herself, and is just mom, cook, house cleaner, social manager, etc., then there's nothing left for sex.
I (26m) have been with my girlfriend (31f) for about a year and a half. And during that time I’ve bought her gifts for her birthday, valentines and Christmas and have paid for our food pretty much every time we have gone out. And during that time she hasn’t gotten me a present for anything. I’m not saying I need someone to buy me stuff but should I be the only one paying for stuff? We have only had sex 1 time in the entire time we’ve been together. Any advice on what to do in my situation?
I'm sorry that you just learned today that you are a Sugar Daddy.
It sounds like you're looking for any excuse to blow your relationship up with your fiance so you should probably leave him.
But relationships are what you make them. I don't believe there is one magical fairy tale soulmate our there for us. You cultivate that connection and build that relationship. So if you chose to do that with your fiance then you two work together to build a good life and a devoted relationship.
But this other dude is not a good idea at all. If you leave your fiance do not run to this guy. That's insanity. If he had wanted to date you he would have made a move before now. If he was mature and needed to tell you before you were married again he would have done that like a fucking grown up.
The fact that your looking for the tiniest thing to fuck your whole life up is concerning. I think you should tell your fiance you're struggling. The wedding planning is hot and you'd like to put that on hold while you seek some help. You need to see a professional to help you understand why you're engaging in these behaviors.
You should tell your highschool ring buddy you need space and not speak to him until you figure out what YOU want to do for you. You've already let his influence mess you up enough. Plus there's slim to no chance you'd be in any way happy in a relationship with him.
Okay but how much of the housework/mental load are YOU doing? Yeah my husband spent time with the kids when he got home, but that didn't mean I could take a break. It just meant I had to do the things I couldn't do with the kids. By the time we went to bed the last thing I wanted to do was be touched by someone else, or have to give more attention to anyone. Best way for my husband to get laid was for him to sort dinner, or do the dishes/laundry/vacuuming while I went for a walk, or send me to bed on a weekend and take the boys out so it was QUIET. If she has no time to be herself, and is just mom, cook, house cleaner, social manager, etc., then there's nothing left for sex.
I (26m) have been with my girlfriend (31f) for about a year and a half. And during that time I’ve bought her gifts for her birthday, valentines and Christmas and have paid for our food pretty much every time we have gone out. And during that time she hasn’t gotten me a present for anything. I’m not saying I need someone to buy me stuff but should I be the only one paying for stuff? We have only had sex 1 time in the entire time we’ve been together. Any advice on what to do in my situation?
I'm sorry that you just learned today that you are a Sugar Daddy.
This is why we don’t get married at 22 folks
Well this relationship sounds like a toxic shit show.
My advice: individual therapy so you can learn what a healthy relationship should look like.
This ain’t it.
It sounds like you're looking for any excuse to blow your relationship up with your fiance so you should probably leave him.
But relationships are what you make them. I don't believe there is one magical fairy tale soulmate our there for us. You cultivate that connection and build that relationship. So if you chose to do that with your fiance then you two work together to build a good life and a devoted relationship.
But this other dude is not a good idea at all. If you leave your fiance do not run to this guy. That's insanity. If he had wanted to date you he would have made a move before now. If he was mature and needed to tell you before you were married again he would have done that like a fucking grown up.
The fact that your looking for the tiniest thing to fuck your whole life up is concerning. I think you should tell your fiance you're struggling. The wedding planning is hot and you'd like to put that on hold while you seek some help. You need to see a professional to help you understand why you're engaging in these behaviors.
You should tell your highschool ring buddy you need space and not speak to him until you figure out what YOU want to do for you. You've already let his influence mess you up enough. Plus there's slim to no chance you'd be in any way happy in a relationship with him.
Isn't OP posting on social media?