I was married to someone similar. I left that marriage a shell of a person. Biggest lesson I learned: don't light yourself on fire to keep othes warm. I left him about 6 years ago, I check in a couple times a year and he has not changed. People like him and your BF… the chances of change are slim. He will (unintentionally or not) keep dragging you down with him and it's ok to want to save yourself.
I was married to someone similar. I left that marriage a shell of a person. Biggest lesson I learned: don't light yourself on fire to keep othes warm. I left him about 6 years ago, I check in a couple times a year and he has not changed. People like him and your BF… the chances of change are slim. He will (unintentionally or not) keep dragging you down with him and it's ok to want to save yourself.
Definitely talk to your therapist about this, but I donβt think his behavior was right. Sorry you went through something like this
Sounds like you also kinda hate your girlfriend (hopefully for her ex)