She doesn't know who she wants to have sex with, their relationship is 100% friends and I'm sure of that after reading their messages without her knowing. She wants to fuck someone random.
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Exactly- take what everyone says with a grain of salt. You are welcome to believe or not believe. If you care so much look into it and draw your own conclusions. It’s ok if they differ from mine.
yeah no matter what the money, it can't keep me in a relationship like that or justify the way he is. I couldn't believe it at first too, but his business can be clearly seen live and he lives in a house worth 6 million pounds so he is rich. That still does not justify the way he is
their opinions just aren't what you want them to be, and you've been too indoctrinated by the church to see that this man is abusive, and it won't get better because you won't stand up to him.
Do what you want at the gym, but be prepared for the fallout
Start with just an hour at a specific time of day. When its that time, tell him, and let him know he’s only to interrupt in cases of life/death emergency. And if he interrupts and it isn’t an emergency, you’ll restart the clock. Then start the clock and put in noise cancelling headphones, so he can’t just talk to you. If he waves at you to get your attention, the moment it’s clear it’s not an emergency, tell him he’ll have wait to tell you the rest until AFTER your hour is done, and the clock is being reset because he interrupted you. Put the headphones back in and start over. Do not listen to anything he says and refuse to engage until you get one full hour uninterrupted. He keeps doing it because you keep listening to him. He’ll stop if you stop actually listening and giving him attention.
My partner had sex with people that weren’t me before we got together and I don’t care, so I DEFINITELY do not care who he thought about when he was masturbating. You had never once masturbated before you started dating him at the age of 23? Am I correct in my understanding of that?
your partner willingly helps his family and has stepped up to provide for his siblings in the absence of a father figure
My thoughts exactly. He sounds like a good guy, and we are only getting one perspective here, which honestly doesn't paint him in bad light when you look at it objectively.
She used lots of strong words to describe his relationship, but in the end it just sounds like a guy who is providing for his immediate family and isn't able to prioritize his woman in the moment.
True! Like i love my husband bt if we weren't together we would still have a daughter together. I'd still tag him in things. If she had a sportsday of course id want him and his family to see the pictures we took on the day.
I hate when people get into relationships with parents and then expect them to not be parents!
To give them all their attention and then as soon as they have kids of their own. Those poor step kids are treated like trash. It pisses me off.
kinda glad I found out he was cheating, because I didn’t feel like I had a valid reason for leaving him until now.
Bad hygiene is more than enough reason to end a relationship, in fact, you don't even need a practical reason to end a relationship.
“Oh, you pour your milk before your cereal? We're done.”
“Oh, you don't know Klingon? We're done.”
“Oh, you're having a great day today? That's awesome! We're done.”
The above examples aren't meant to be taken seriously but, like, you literally have no obligation to date or keep dating someone. Now, marriage on the other hand is a different animal altogether, but don't feel you have to put up with things you hate in a relationship for any reason.
You always have permission to stop dating someone.
Yes to this. You need words of affirmation and she does not.
She doesn't know who she wants to have sex with, their relationship is 100% friends and I'm sure of that after reading their messages without her knowing. She wants to fuck someone random.
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How long to wait? There is no “wait” why on earth would you consider that? Go forth and have sex!
Exactly- take what everyone says with a grain of salt. You are welcome to believe or not believe. If you care so much look into it and draw your own conclusions. It’s ok if they differ from mine.
So no source?
yeah no matter what the money, it can't keep me in a relationship like that or justify the way he is. I couldn't believe it at first too, but his business can be clearly seen live and he lives in a house worth 6 million pounds so he is rich. That still does not justify the way he is
no dearest
their opinions just aren't what you want them to be, and you've been too indoctrinated by the church to see that this man is abusive, and it won't get better because you won't stand up to him.
Do what you want at the gym, but be prepared for the fallout
Start with just an hour at a specific time of day. When its that time, tell him, and let him know he’s only to interrupt in cases of life/death emergency. And if he interrupts and it isn’t an emergency, you’ll restart the clock. Then start the clock and put in noise cancelling headphones, so he can’t just talk to you. If he waves at you to get your attention, the moment it’s clear it’s not an emergency, tell him he’ll have wait to tell you the rest until AFTER your hour is done, and the clock is being reset because he interrupted you. Put the headphones back in and start over. Do not listen to anything he says and refuse to engage until you get one full hour uninterrupted. He keeps doing it because you keep listening to him. He’ll stop if you stop actually listening and giving him attention.
My partner had sex with people that weren’t me before we got together and I don’t care, so I DEFINITELY do not care who he thought about when he was masturbating. You had never once masturbated before you started dating him at the age of 23? Am I correct in my understanding of that?
With a different therapist. An important clarification, I think.
your partner willingly helps his family and has stepped up to provide for his siblings in the absence of a father figure
My thoughts exactly. He sounds like a good guy, and we are only getting one perspective here, which honestly doesn't paint him in bad light when you look at it objectively.
She used lots of strong words to describe his relationship, but in the end it just sounds like a guy who is providing for his immediate family and isn't able to prioritize his woman in the moment.
True! Like i love my husband bt if we weren't together we would still have a daughter together. I'd still tag him in things. If she had a sportsday of course id want him and his family to see the pictures we took on the day.
I hate when people get into relationships with parents and then expect them to not be parents!
To give them all their attention and then as soon as they have kids of their own. Those poor step kids are treated like trash. It pisses me off.
That’s what I’m doing lol. We met in 2020 and I still kinda suck compared to him but we’re getting there lol.
kinda glad I found out he was cheating, because I didn’t feel like I had a valid reason for leaving him until now.
Bad hygiene is more than enough reason to end a relationship, in fact, you don't even need a practical reason to end a relationship.
“Oh, you pour your milk before your cereal? We're done.”
“Oh, you don't know Klingon? We're done.”
“Oh, you're having a great day today? That's awesome! We're done.”
The above examples aren't meant to be taken seriously but, like, you literally have no obligation to date or keep dating someone. Now, marriage on the other hand is a different animal altogether, but don't feel you have to put up with things you hate in a relationship for any reason.
You always have permission to stop dating someone.
Question: “how do I get over it?”
Answer: “just get over it bro.”
Very helpful, thank you.
Im confused too. Like I dont know. I think just have a conversation with him and discuss how you feel