The best case scenario is that she's just feeling like you take her for granted. She dangled a carrot in front of the ex, and told you about it, hoping to revive some of your competitive spirit.
Your two best options are (1) to take offense at the implied threat, and dump her, or (2) to accept the challenge and win her back. If the second option seems best, you should have all the advantages. It probably isn't even going to be a real competition. She probably only hopes you will give her some attention, and generally up your game until her little moment of doubt has passed.
What you should absolutely not do is to start treating her badly, and confirm her doubts about the relationship. It would be better just to dump her. So don't start ordering her around, making false accusations, and acting suspicious of everything she does. That just makes you an unpleasant person to be involved with.
I'm on the spectrum and I learned from a young age that anyone who triggers you over and over on purpose does not love you. I've had to cut many friends out of my life for purposefully triggering me because “it's funny” or “it's cute”. They are using you for their own enjoyment, and while they might get along with you and like you otherwise, they do not respect you as a person. With both of the serious partners I've had, theres been a few incidents where they had purposefully triggered me and called the reaction cute, and I made sure to shut that shit down immediately. I made it clear it is a very hot line that should not be crossed, and if it happens again, I'm leaving.
I don't blame you for hitting him, sure it isn't the best response, or a healthy one, but you tried everything else and he was harassing you. It wasn't like you punched him in the face and broke his nose, you did not injure him, and afterwards he got the point. In fact, he should be apologizing to you for purposefully triggering and harassing you. This is not a healthy dynamic, and you should look into doing some work setting boundaries. I find it's harder to do when on the spectrum and depending on how you were raised, but it's worth it to feel secure in your relationships.
That’s a super weird reaction, what you said was absolutely normal. Your boyfriend is displaying some insane controlling and possessive tendencies, and furthering this relationship will only make those rear their ugly heads more. I’d cut my losses, personally
So he doesn’t on-line there but treats your home like it’s his? Get the locks changed and dump the guy who treats your home like his personal club house for him and his friends.
Tbh I wouldn’t be worried at all. I do the occasional coke (once every couple months) and the fentanyl being cut with it is scary but that’s what friends are for! (I only buy out of their personal stash that they are actively using). I don’t do it more often because I’ve seen people go down the road of addiction, so I also have a rule about it not keeping it in my house. I’ve been doing it a little bit more often than her for several years now and have never had an issue.
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The best case scenario is that she's just feeling like you take her for granted. She dangled a carrot in front of the ex, and told you about it, hoping to revive some of your competitive spirit.
Your two best options are (1) to take offense at the implied threat, and dump her, or (2) to accept the challenge and win her back. If the second option seems best, you should have all the advantages. It probably isn't even going to be a real competition. She probably only hopes you will give her some attention, and generally up your game until her little moment of doubt has passed.
What you should absolutely not do is to start treating her badly, and confirm her doubts about the relationship. It would be better just to dump her. So don't start ordering her around, making false accusations, and acting suspicious of everything she does. That just makes you an unpleasant person to be involved with.
I'm on the spectrum and I learned from a young age that anyone who triggers you over and over on purpose does not love you. I've had to cut many friends out of my life for purposefully triggering me because “it's funny” or “it's cute”. They are using you for their own enjoyment, and while they might get along with you and like you otherwise, they do not respect you as a person. With both of the serious partners I've had, theres been a few incidents where they had purposefully triggered me and called the reaction cute, and I made sure to shut that shit down immediately. I made it clear it is a very hot line that should not be crossed, and if it happens again, I'm leaving.
I don't blame you for hitting him, sure it isn't the best response, or a healthy one, but you tried everything else and he was harassing you. It wasn't like you punched him in the face and broke his nose, you did not injure him, and afterwards he got the point. In fact, he should be apologizing to you for purposefully triggering and harassing you. This is not a healthy dynamic, and you should look into doing some work setting boundaries. I find it's harder to do when on the spectrum and depending on how you were raised, but it's worth it to feel secure in your relationships.
That’s a super weird reaction, what you said was absolutely normal. Your boyfriend is displaying some insane controlling and possessive tendencies, and furthering this relationship will only make those rear their ugly heads more. I’d cut my losses, personally
So he doesn’t on-line there but treats your home like it’s his? Get the locks changed and dump the guy who treats your home like his personal club house for him and his friends.
They told him to not come to the room, asked if they could get his confidence, and told him to behave well cuz he act childish sometimes.
Easy answer is that you find someone who actually respects you and treats you how you deserve to be treated.
Block her back and move on.
Tbh I wouldn’t be worried at all. I do the occasional coke (once every couple months) and the fentanyl being cut with it is scary but that’s what friends are for! (I only buy out of their personal stash that they are actively using). I don’t do it more often because I’ve seen people go down the road of addiction, so I also have a rule about it not keeping it in my house. I’ve been doing it a little bit more often than her for several years now and have never had an issue.