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Yeah, I mean lots of people deal with those issues and don't crush on their relatives partners though. It could be nothing I guess but in my experience that points to some pretty unhealthy relationships with boundaries. She could probably use your support more than anything.
If she's not willing to do IVF, she should tell him that. They can then discuss what their next steps are – will they seek out treatment for him only, will they adopt, will they divorce? If she's not willing to do IVF, she should tell him that and if he keeps pressuring her she should tell him to knock it the fuck off or she's leaving. Do you think she's done that?
I'm talking about really advocating for herself and communicating how she's feeling. At the end of the day, she has autonomy over her own body and needs to be clear with her husband on where she stands.
As someone else on the spectrum with an anxiety disorder…. I don’t have a single clue what to tell you here. Do they typically have issues understanding things when they’re said point blank like this? They don’t have a trigger but do they not fully understand what a trigger is?
Oh bull. His mental health will be affected? What about yours? What about your physical health too? If his mental health is going to be affected that badly he should find someone with those same interests he wants, rather than forcing someone to have an invasive operation when they do not want one, forcing someone into something in general while knowing they don’t want to, manipulating and guilt tripping their partner because they have reproductive issues, etc. Just because he wants it, doesn’t mean he gets to force you into it.
Like I wouldn’t want to be with someone if they were to do that to me. That’s so disgusting and it feels like he only sees you as a baby carrier. Like he sees you as something at his disposal, he wants to use your body for something he wants, and is going to manipulate you if he doesn’t get his way by saying you’re hurting his mental health. You were already willing to give that to him but unfortunately as circumstances will have it, it can’t happen naturally because he has reproductive problems. It’s sad, but he doesn’t get to bully you because of it.
He doesn’t care how he’s already affecting you, your mental health is already suffering, but does he care about that? No. Sounds like you might not even be at a good place to have kids altogether. Your mental health is suffering, it’s going unnoticed, he’s expecting you to sacrifice your body, your feelings, your boundaries, because he unfortunately has reproductive problems. But that’s not your responsibility to solve his issues, if it means doing something you don’t want done.
He needs counseling. Because he is trying to compensate for his own problems by forcing you into something that you’ve clearly expressed not wanting to do it and get physically sick over. He needs to understand that you aren’t in a relationship for you to be sacrifice your boundaries and feelings just so he can avoid swallowing the pill that maybe biological birth isn’t going to happen. Expecting you to go a route you don’t want to go to have a child is already bad because you aren’t on the same page, and he’s fine with sacrificing you to get what he wants.
Thats not an equal power dynamic. That’s not healthy. And him not giving a shit that he’s manipulating and coercing his wife, someone he is supposed to love and care about more than anyone, into something she has clearly stated she doesn’t want, and it’s making her mentally and even physically sick is really bad. He shouldn’t even want to bring this up at all, knowing how you’re sick over this and have said you aren’t comfortable with that.
i’m saying that my comment above is how she could feel about cosmetic procedures, im not saying it is for sure. you’re just being so condescending when talking about her, you’re basically saying “no, i’m right and you’re insecure.” but you aren’t in her brain and you don’t know anything for sure, so stop saying it like it’s a fact.
also since when is crying not healthy? and a bad haircut is definitely something to cry over, just because you don’t understand it doesn’t mean you have to dismiss it and say it’s wrong…
like i said, regardless, you aren’t compatible and should break up. the way you talk about her is gross, i can’t imagine ever talking about my partner that way.
The cheating stuff is definitely a deal breaker. Though I think we need more clarity on if it was exclusive at each of these moments.
However the sex talk and even saying she’s in it for sex isn’t that big of a deal to me. I know it hurts to read, but it’s not a crime for her to not have viewed you as a serious relationship candidate at the start. Women are allowed to hook up for the fun of it only. Everyone is. Plenty of my friends have hooked up with guys they viewed as casual and then grew to realize it could be something more. In that same vein, she’s allowed to talk about her sex life with friends. Honestly I think that’s pretty normal to do and if anything, it shows that you two have communicated and grown in that area if it didn’t stop her from continuing to date you.
I do think I need therapy, I should've gotten it a long time ago and probably this post wouldn't have existed because I'd be a sane person and entertaining the idea of getting rid of my dog wouldn't be a possibility. That's what I kept telling him, we all have a past. As shitty as mine was, it is the past and I grew as a person. I did get rid of everything that reminded me of my ex, but I can't even imagine getting rid of my dog.
Yeah, I mean lots of people deal with those issues and don't crush on their relatives partners though. It could be nothing I guess but in my experience that points to some pretty unhealthy relationships with boundaries. She could probably use your support more than anything.
NDAs can include a clause to forbid mentioning their very existence, can't they?
If she's not willing to do IVF, she should tell him that. They can then discuss what their next steps are – will they seek out treatment for him only, will they adopt, will they divorce? If she's not willing to do IVF, she should tell him that and if he keeps pressuring her she should tell him to knock it the fuck off or she's leaving. Do you think she's done that?
I'm talking about really advocating for herself and communicating how she's feeling. At the end of the day, she has autonomy over her own body and needs to be clear with her husband on where she stands.
I was thinking it, you said it lmao. But honestly I do appreciate getting a guys perspective. Even if their comment seems to be a bit angry. ?♀️
As someone else on the spectrum with an anxiety disorder…. I don’t have a single clue what to tell you here. Do they typically have issues understanding things when they’re said point blank like this? They don’t have a trigger but do they not fully understand what a trigger is?
Oh bull. His mental health will be affected? What about yours? What about your physical health too? If his mental health is going to be affected that badly he should find someone with those same interests he wants, rather than forcing someone to have an invasive operation when they do not want one, forcing someone into something in general while knowing they don’t want to, manipulating and guilt tripping their partner because they have reproductive issues, etc. Just because he wants it, doesn’t mean he gets to force you into it.
Like I wouldn’t want to be with someone if they were to do that to me. That’s so disgusting and it feels like he only sees you as a baby carrier. Like he sees you as something at his disposal, he wants to use your body for something he wants, and is going to manipulate you if he doesn’t get his way by saying you’re hurting his mental health. You were already willing to give that to him but unfortunately as circumstances will have it, it can’t happen naturally because he has reproductive problems. It’s sad, but he doesn’t get to bully you because of it.
He doesn’t care how he’s already affecting you, your mental health is already suffering, but does he care about that? No. Sounds like you might not even be at a good place to have kids altogether. Your mental health is suffering, it’s going unnoticed, he’s expecting you to sacrifice your body, your feelings, your boundaries, because he unfortunately has reproductive problems. But that’s not your responsibility to solve his issues, if it means doing something you don’t want done.
He needs counseling. Because he is trying to compensate for his own problems by forcing you into something that you’ve clearly expressed not wanting to do it and get physically sick over. He needs to understand that you aren’t in a relationship for you to be sacrifice your boundaries and feelings just so he can avoid swallowing the pill that maybe biological birth isn’t going to happen. Expecting you to go a route you don’t want to go to have a child is already bad because you aren’t on the same page, and he’s fine with sacrificing you to get what he wants.
Thats not an equal power dynamic. That’s not healthy. And him not giving a shit that he’s manipulating and coercing his wife, someone he is supposed to love and care about more than anyone, into something she has clearly stated she doesn’t want, and it’s making her mentally and even physically sick is really bad. He shouldn’t even want to bring this up at all, knowing how you’re sick over this and have said you aren’t comfortable with that.
Me calling you a rapist is based on your comments. Your baseless name calling drops like a feather.
i’m saying that my comment above is how she could feel about cosmetic procedures, im not saying it is for sure. you’re just being so condescending when talking about her, you’re basically saying “no, i’m right and you’re insecure.” but you aren’t in her brain and you don’t know anything for sure, so stop saying it like it’s a fact.
also since when is crying not healthy? and a bad haircut is definitely something to cry over, just because you don’t understand it doesn’t mean you have to dismiss it and say it’s wrong…
like i said, regardless, you aren’t compatible and should break up. the way you talk about her is gross, i can’t imagine ever talking about my partner that way.
The cheating stuff is definitely a deal breaker. Though I think we need more clarity on if it was exclusive at each of these moments.
However the sex talk and even saying she’s in it for sex isn’t that big of a deal to me. I know it hurts to read, but it’s not a crime for her to not have viewed you as a serious relationship candidate at the start. Women are allowed to hook up for the fun of it only. Everyone is. Plenty of my friends have hooked up with guys they viewed as casual and then grew to realize it could be something more. In that same vein, she’s allowed to talk about her sex life with friends. Honestly I think that’s pretty normal to do and if anything, it shows that you two have communicated and grown in that area if it didn’t stop her from continuing to date you.
Tell him you're done. Give him notice to move out. Legally if need be. He's using you.
Updateme!
I do think I need therapy, I should've gotten it a long time ago and probably this post wouldn't have existed because I'd be a sane person and entertaining the idea of getting rid of my dog wouldn't be a possibility. That's what I kept telling him, we all have a past. As shitty as mine was, it is the past and I grew as a person. I did get rid of everything that reminded me of my ex, but I can't even imagine getting rid of my dog.
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