You say you acknowledge that the family dynamics you find normal, your wife finds uncomfortable and disrespectful. But what have you actually done to fix it?
Here’s how I read your post: Your parents are constantly disrespectful of your wife and also a little bit racist towards her, and all you do is make excuses for your parents’ behavior. You blame the environment they grew up in and tell your wife that you don’t think they were trying to be offensive, so therefore she shouldn’t be offended.
What did you get married for if you weren’t going to prioritize your wife? Why don’t you stick up for her and ask your parents to do better and stop alienating her? You’re actively making the situation worse by making up excuses to your parents and not telling them the real reason your wife is avoiding them. You need to be honest with your parents and hold them to a higher expectation of behavior.
I love how everyone is glossing over the fact this job is either a 17 hour move or an across country move. OP neglects to mention family situations or what even kind of city it is. A “good” career opportunity doubling your salary might not be so good if you're going from low cost of living to say San Francisco. Really too much left out for solid advice on this situation. But reddit will be reddit and only focus on the go for career and slay girl aspect. Fiance has know about this opportunity for awhile but it's only been 30 hours since he learned said opportunity means completely drop everything and change your life. He already has a semi messed up resume when it comes to firings and quitting. I don't think him dropping this training right as it starts will do him any favors unless he plans on working retail or fast food the rest of his life.
it you reversed the genders and he was going into her room when she was hot and straddling her people would shout sexual predator.
I think he probably means that he is not “just a friend”, he is your “boyfriend”…or in other words, “more than a friend”.
You say you acknowledge that the family dynamics you find normal, your wife finds uncomfortable and disrespectful. But what have you actually done to fix it?
Here’s how I read your post: Your parents are constantly disrespectful of your wife and also a little bit racist towards her, and all you do is make excuses for your parents’ behavior. You blame the environment they grew up in and tell your wife that you don’t think they were trying to be offensive, so therefore she shouldn’t be offended.
What did you get married for if you weren’t going to prioritize your wife? Why don’t you stick up for her and ask your parents to do better and stop alienating her? You’re actively making the situation worse by making up excuses to your parents and not telling them the real reason your wife is avoiding them. You need to be honest with your parents and hold them to a higher expectation of behavior.
Probably not until the end of the school year for the kiddos
Oh fuck you. That’s low. Insult me and say I have low standards as a parent. That’s fucked up.
Definitely not the side chick.. Only recently LDR. But I stayed at his and met his mum many times.
Doing coke off someone’s tits before shagging them is mild?
Not yet. I assumed that after a while she'd automatically offer to split, but it's been 2 months and I'm starting to question things.
I love how everyone is glossing over the fact this job is either a 17 hour move or an across country move. OP neglects to mention family situations or what even kind of city it is. A “good” career opportunity doubling your salary might not be so good if you're going from low cost of living to say San Francisco. Really too much left out for solid advice on this situation. But reddit will be reddit and only focus on the go for career and slay girl aspect. Fiance has know about this opportunity for awhile but it's only been 30 hours since he learned said opportunity means completely drop everything and change your life. He already has a semi messed up resume when it comes to firings and quitting. I don't think him dropping this training right as it starts will do him any favors unless he plans on working retail or fast food the rest of his life.