I would say that not only do you not know what to do anymore, but you never knew. Sounds like both of you have quite a bit of growing up to do. I would get divorced immediately before you breed.
Thats true it isnt healthy, he has history with his cheating exes causing him to have trust issues. Plus i have no problem for him going though my phone.
So was my partner. But the thing is, they didn’t get married. Life worked out just so you two could be together! He realized he was looking for something else and, based on the fact that you’re dating, he believes he’s found that potential with you. This is nothing. Go and make him realize you’re the one that deserves the ring and the happy ever after!
He's sounds fine, but he also sounds like someone playing the part of a boyfriend. Maybe you're right and he's a bit on the spectrum and this is a very elaborate type of masking.
But ultimately you're not engaged. You might not find someone who ticks the boxes he does but ticks a combination you can live! with. To me being curious is essential. Maybe it is to you.
But he's saying he won't take me to nice places for dinner either. That is not “professional appearance” related. And I work in a professional setting, my look is not unprofessional, he has outdated views on it. As I am seeing many people do since they can't get past that to answer the real questions I asked. I didnt ask is he right to feel my hair doesn't belong at these events. That would be asking for a judgement call which is against the rules and it's not even what I would want to ask.
Also roots with dyed hair was a big trend before. At this point my hair could be considered natural color with dyed tips. But again this is not the point of the post. It's not to pass judgement on whether you think it is professional, it's the fact that my partner is embarrassed about my hair and clothing to the point he doesn't want to be seen with me in public and the manner in which he brought it up. I am asking whether it's worth talking this out with him and how I should approach it.
I'm coming here for advice on my partner bashing my hair and you decide you want to also bash my hair? Nice.
Let your gf leave. Your kid comes first but do yourself a huge favor and avoid dating people with BPD. Go to r/BPDLOVEDONES and read the stories of people who made that mistake, it’s terrifying.
Girl, you're already screwing up your life by dating a guy who is almost old enough to be your dad (and there's something wrong with a man in his 30s who pursues a teenager).
You aren't ready for motherhood, a baby won't make him stay and the hypothetical child deserves better than to be brought into the world to serve as a pawn concieved for the purpose of manipulation.
Can you ask your gf if her sister goes all the way on a first date?
There is no perfect way to do this.
My advise is just tell him. He at least deserves to know the truth and what you want. It doesn't matter if he's feeling down or up, just tell him.
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I would say that not only do you not know what to do anymore, but you never knew. Sounds like both of you have quite a bit of growing up to do. I would get divorced immediately before you breed.
It won’t feel like it tomorrow but this is a blessing in disguise. Cancel the wedding and walk away from this man. He’ll never put you before his brother and his brother will never leave him in peace. You are dodging a bullet for a lifetime of suffering. Enjoy the party. Go on vacation with your friends and forget about your ex-fiancé.
Thats true it isnt healthy, he has history with his cheating exes causing him to have trust issues. Plus i have no problem for him going though my phone.
This seems both inappropriate and a bit fishy. She seems to have a surplus of emotion invested in his presence. Are you sure nothing is going on here?
So was my partner. But the thing is, they didn’t get married. Life worked out just so you two could be together! He realized he was looking for something else and, based on the fact that you’re dating, he believes he’s found that potential with you. This is nothing. Go and make him realize you’re the one that deserves the ring and the happy ever after!
He's sounds fine, but he also sounds like someone playing the part of a boyfriend. Maybe you're right and he's a bit on the spectrum and this is a very elaborate type of masking.
But ultimately you're not engaged. You might not find someone who ticks the boxes he does but ticks a combination you can live! with. To me being curious is essential. Maybe it is to you.
But he's saying he won't take me to nice places for dinner either. That is not “professional appearance” related. And I work in a professional setting, my look is not unprofessional, he has outdated views on it. As I am seeing many people do since they can't get past that to answer the real questions I asked. I didnt ask is he right to feel my hair doesn't belong at these events. That would be asking for a judgement call which is against the rules and it's not even what I would want to ask.
Also roots with dyed hair was a big trend before. At this point my hair could be considered natural color with dyed tips. But again this is not the point of the post. It's not to pass judgement on whether you think it is professional, it's the fact that my partner is embarrassed about my hair and clothing to the point he doesn't want to be seen with me in public and the manner in which he brought it up. I am asking whether it's worth talking this out with him and how I should approach it.
I'm coming here for advice on my partner bashing my hair and you decide you want to also bash my hair? Nice.
Let your gf leave. Your kid comes first but do yourself a huge favor and avoid dating people with BPD. Go to r/BPDLOVEDONES and read the stories of people who made that mistake, it’s terrifying.
GOD I hope this is an April Fools post!
Girl, you're already screwing up your life by dating a guy who is almost old enough to be your dad (and there's something wrong with a man in his 30s who pursues a teenager).
You aren't ready for motherhood, a baby won't make him stay and the hypothetical child deserves better than to be brought into the world to serve as a pawn concieved for the purpose of manipulation.