My (31M) GF (28F) just assumed I’ll sell our apartment to contribute to buying a family home…
9KI have owned my residence for 7 years. It is a 1 bedroom apartment, and a very good city centre place. It is an asset in my name only. It' ll turn out to be an asset which will appreciate as time goes on, especially with further investment decision in the city I reside in. Even within the past seven years, it has appreciated by 50% in value.
I' ve been dating our GF for 1 year – we' re just relocating together now. We' re talking about moving to another city closeby and buying a home together. We plan to do this in about 3 years or so.
We had a discussion about it tonite, and she told me that I' d probably have to market this flat to help afford in new place in the town.
My issue is this: I' ve been divorced in the past, and my ex got our other beautiful house. If I didn' t have this flat I' m residing in at that time, I would have been royally screwed.
I don' t feel comfortable selling this place. I told her that, and that it' d be best if we didn' t market this flat, since the associated with it would just appreciate as time went on.
She stated: “I just don' big t think we' re at an age where we should be getting two properties. ”
I' m unsure how to proceed well with this. I don' t want to sell this flat, but I value without doing so, we might not have to get able to afford a family house.
What do I do?
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Everything you say is nonsense and a clear coping mechanism to make yourself feel better about not being able to online the life you want.
You keep focusing on the hobby being a video game, that's not the issue, the hobby itself doesn't matter. Try replacing it with something you deem worthy and ask yourself if you wanted to do that thing with your friends for a few hours ONE night a week… Do you really think it would be reasonable for your spouse to not allow you to do it? If so then you need couples therapy
Living purely for yourself rarely results is positive outcomes. Enjoy your selfish existence until you canāt. ?
I'm gonna need evidence for this little assertion, because living my life the way I want has been pretty good and I see no end in sight. What exactly do you think will happen to stop me enjoying my life?
Let me ask you this, what are your hobbies? Do you have any?
Your bf needs to get over it.
I think the difference would be is this man thirsting in dms and is she giving him the time of day. If heās some weirdo stalking her tweets to perma like her but has zero engagement else where like comments/dms etc then itās really a you issue and you should try to evaluate why it bothers you on such a deep level.
Thank you for replying āŗļø I agree with you, this happened very recently and I am actually trying to understand what bothers me, but I donāt feel great about the whole thing. The fact that was so unexpected, I honestly wouldnāt never imagine him doing these thingsā¦ and also, I acknowledge finding people attractive is super normal, but what is odd for me is all the engagement and commenting, finding pics to post etcā¦ for more than a year. That bothers me I feel