I get where you’re coming from and understand your insecurity/feelings. My wife sprung a “friend” on me who was a dude who asked her out on a date and thought she declined the date, they still hung out late at night and I wasn’t comfortable with it.
I told my wife that if the roles were reversed, she’d have a problem with it so she can either understand where I’m coming from and accept that I’m not comfortable with her hanging out with dudes who obviously like her, or we can fight about it. She doesn’t talk to him anymore and hasn’t done that since.
It’s okay and healthy to set boundaries and not be okay with something. Just don’t be a dick and if she doesn’t respect your boundaries, have a serious conversation with her about them.
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Dude, the beginning to all relationships are vague and confusing. You can’t get mad at her for not being exclusive when you two guys first met. Everyone’s lives are so complicated and a lot of times there are hang ups from the previous relationship. The fact that she would just Netflix and chill with this guy but wanted to take it slow with you shows that she likes you and didn’t want to mess your relationship up.
Also, she was 20! It’s ancients history. Take it from someone who has been burnt badly before, this is something you can move on from.
Yeah, you are absolutely right. My own personal life is kind of a shitshow aswell rn and normally I wouldn't feel this upset. That's why I also posted it in here. I appreciate the honesty! Thank you!
I think you've got the message but just to reinforce what has already been said – do not respond. There is nothing that will drive a narcissist as crazy as being ignored.
And there is no message that you can compose that will give you the kind of satisfaction you are after. That will only come from leaving him in your past and living well.
Because I can ask.
You can't make her love you. She sounds like she's trying to figure out what she wants.
I get where you’re coming from and understand your insecurity/feelings. My wife sprung a “friend” on me who was a dude who asked her out on a date and thought she declined the date, they still hung out late at night and I wasn’t comfortable with it.
I told my wife that if the roles were reversed, she’d have a problem with it so she can either understand where I’m coming from and accept that I’m not comfortable with her hanging out with dudes who obviously like her, or we can fight about it. She doesn’t talk to him anymore and hasn’t done that since.
It’s okay and healthy to set boundaries and not be okay with something. Just don’t be a dick and if she doesn’t respect your boundaries, have a serious conversation with her about them.
Bad deal!
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Dude, the beginning to all relationships are vague and confusing. You can’t get mad at her for not being exclusive when you two guys first met. Everyone’s lives are so complicated and a lot of times there are hang ups from the previous relationship. The fact that she would just Netflix and chill with this guy but wanted to take it slow with you shows that she likes you and didn’t want to mess your relationship up.
Also, she was 20! It’s ancients history. Take it from someone who has been burnt badly before, this is something you can move on from.
Yeah, you are absolutely right. My own personal life is kind of a shitshow aswell rn and normally I wouldn't feel this upset. That's why I also posted it in here. I appreciate the honesty! Thank you!
Get a new boyfriend. This is such a weird thing to suddenly develop
You're going to make him feel bad no matter what so just get it over with and tell him you've changed your mind due to the rental conditions.
All you can do is just be honest and upfront, theres no way to make this easier to go down besides explaining your reasoning clearly.
I think you've got the message but just to reinforce what has already been said – do not respond. There is nothing that will drive a narcissist as crazy as being ignored.
And there is no message that you can compose that will give you the kind of satisfaction you are after. That will only come from leaving him in your past and living well.