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WE NEED TO NORMALIZE SAYING NO WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY!!!!!
YOU were too tired to go. IT WAS DOOMED FROM THE START. And granted, something could have happened to you on your way to pick him up!!!
GIRL…..JUST BREAK UP.
Date when you have the time and energy to be in a committed relationship. AND PLEASE WORK ON BOUNDARIES. Some dude not wanting to pick you up WHEN YOU EXPRESSED YOU WORKED FOR 24 HOURS STRAIGHT IS AN AUTOMATIC ???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
And why would you think that? Do you know how much a one bedroom costs in high COL areas? I've cohabitated with two partners where we both had well paying jobs and we could still only afford a one bedroom. Around here, they go for anywhere from $1900 to $3000+/mo, depending on the neighborhood.
Again, you don't know her job or where she lives, or any other context, so this is just assumption.
Maybe. It’s not likely that the next guy will love your child like the dipping guy who calls you too much. Guys do grow by the way, especially when our kids are born. We suddenly get more responsible. I’m speaking from experience. He’s probably calling you because he’s excited to make a family with you. It sounds like he really cares for you. Foster that; it’s kinda rare. He may not be perfect, but he doesn’t need to be.
Stop being afraid for yourself. Be excited and know that you have experiences and things coming your way that will feel even worse than this. He’s not everything, and if he is- he will come back. If you wait and drive yourself crazy the entire year, I promise you. It will not work out. So let it be, talk to a therapist if you have to. But just know you’ll be okay. Sending you strength and love.
His sister in law and brother came to visit me across the country about two months after I moved. She had mentioned when we were alone that OG had came to their house and said he was so proud of me and everything I had accomplished in life and if anyone deserved to have a great life and experience all the joys it was me (I’ve had a crappy traumatizing lchildhood/ early adult life but I won’t get into all that— OG knows everything)
— about two years ago someone with a weird instagram username started following me and liking everything I posted, and I couldnt figure out who it was. I finally asked OG’s sister in law because it looked like a familiar landscape in the profile, she was like yeah the OG lol.
So he constantly likes everything I post on instagram and will randomly comment. But only on stuff where my current boyfriend is not pictured.
He mentioned that if I ever invited him to come see me across the country he would?
About two weeks ago he started messaging me on instagram, he’ll send me funny reels and we’ll banter back and forth. Well last week he sent me some weirdly sexual reels, and then one that said I love you at the end. I didn’t react to any of them and just kind of ignored it. As I’m happy with my current relationship. As these last two weeks have gone on, he’s been more and more persistent about talking to me and sending me things.
On a side note we have a “family group chat” on instagram and he won’t say a word or react in there but will message me separately.
It’s all starting to bring back old feelings. And I’ve noticed he will only talk to me when he is at work (works nights) and if his girlfriend isn’t around. If I respond during the day I won’t get a response until the middle of the night.
I’ve been struggling lately because he’s literally everything I’ve ever wanted. But he won’t man up and admit anything. He makes me feel like I am crazy for wanting him. But my thought process is if someone has poured their heart out to you twice, and you aren’t interested why does he keep talking to me and sending me inappropriate messages & videos?
Again, I love him, he’s absolutely someone who will always have my heart. And I can’t cut him out because of our family situation. But am I crazy? Am I reading too much into everything?
What does this mean, is he playing me, is he really not interested? I just can’t believe that 10 years in and he’s still fucking with my head if he doesn’t actually like/love me.
This is just the short overview, way too much in ten years to go into details on or even recall at this point. But I guess my overall question— what the heck should I do, do I say anything or just let it fizzle out and focus on my current relationship and try to put these feelings back to rest?
Good lord. Your mother is manipulative as heck. I’m sorry OP, but you may never see that money and I’d strongly consider going NC with mom, at least until she realises her betrayal and mistake with you and apologises. That’ll show her.
Personally me I would try talking to him and risk it. Your mental health is important. While I understand his fear and worry. I find it extremely unfair that the expectation is that you are meant to wait for whenever he feels like he is ready to talk again. Like come on its been 2 weeks already!! How you feel is important and all he is doing is punishing you for something you haven’t even done.
Talk to him. He has had 2 weeks. If he needs more then this relationship ain’t it.
We were young, 18, not sure I could have possibly known what I know now. I couldn’t have walked away over something that wasn’t even a known reality at the time,
You're oldest is 13 months, and you're pregnant with your second….in your 30s, you clearly had all the information you need, but you still decided to stay…for whatever reason (sunk cost fallacy? Blind hope that he'd magically change?)
I don’t exactly feel like I’m that much of a catch so he is probably better off without me.
How does this fit into anything? I think you really should invest in some individual and couple's counseling to figure out if you're together for the right reasons.
And yeah… did you WANT to get pregnant, or why did you decide to have a second child if you were already unhappy? And were never overly interested in kids?
Why not? Hubs as a volunteer scout leader – he was going on monthly, weekend campouts away from us (his family). Hubs did this because he enjoys camping & hiking. I don't see how its any different from what OP is doing.
I doubt i could afford a lawyer that's the honest truth. I'd really want to do what is best for the kid. At the least, i'd like her to know im alive (for now) and at least let her know who i am. I have no idea what she has or hasn't been told by the mother…all assuming the kid is even mine. I'm absolutely not interested in stripping her away from the family/person who raised her, that's not conducive to anything.
Part of me thinks “just wait until she's an adult, and if she wants to know, she'll come looking”. But also, i doubt her mother would even tell her who i am, or that she would know where to look, or more importantly, that i'll still be around in 5 years.
I mean I’m not the most hygienic of dudes but like when it’s affecting things I will absolutely do better, not to mention if it’s to keep a good woman who from reading the whole post seemed to have treated him very well idk dude I’d do anything for a girl who thought of me fond enough to buy me clothes she thought I’d like
For the record, OP, what is and is not valid in any relationship should be completely up to you. Yes, it's wonderful to be understanding and gracious, just don't let words like “proper” and “acceptable” stop you from moving on. Tons of people get stuck just coasting that way.
WE NEED TO NORMALIZE SAYING NO WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY!!!!!
YOU were too tired to go. IT WAS DOOMED FROM THE START. And granted, something could have happened to you on your way to pick him up!!!
GIRL…..JUST BREAK UP.
Date when you have the time and energy to be in a committed relationship. AND PLEASE WORK ON BOUNDARIES. Some dude not wanting to pick you up WHEN YOU EXPRESSED YOU WORKED FOR 24 HOURS STRAIGHT IS AN AUTOMATIC ???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
And why would you think that? Do you know how much a one bedroom costs in high COL areas? I've cohabitated with two partners where we both had well paying jobs and we could still only afford a one bedroom. Around here, they go for anywhere from $1900 to $3000+/mo, depending on the neighborhood.
Again, you don't know her job or where she lives, or any other context, so this is just assumption.
Anyone that doesn't support your decision is not your friend.
Maybe. It’s not likely that the next guy will love your child like the dipping guy who calls you too much. Guys do grow by the way, especially when our kids are born. We suddenly get more responsible. I’m speaking from experience. He’s probably calling you because he’s excited to make a family with you. It sounds like he really cares for you. Foster that; it’s kinda rare. He may not be perfect, but he doesn’t need to be.
If you are not living together, ghost him. Walk away and don't look back.
Stop being afraid for yourself. Be excited and know that you have experiences and things coming your way that will feel even worse than this. He’s not everything, and if he is- he will come back. If you wait and drive yourself crazy the entire year, I promise you. It will not work out. So let it be, talk to a therapist if you have to. But just know you’ll be okay. Sending you strength and love.
His sister in law and brother came to visit me across the country about two months after I moved. She had mentioned when we were alone that OG had came to their house and said he was so proud of me and everything I had accomplished in life and if anyone deserved to have a great life and experience all the joys it was me (I’ve had a crappy traumatizing lchildhood/ early adult life but I won’t get into all that— OG knows everything)
— about two years ago someone with a weird instagram username started following me and liking everything I posted, and I couldnt figure out who it was. I finally asked OG’s sister in law because it looked like a familiar landscape in the profile, she was like yeah the OG lol.
So he constantly likes everything I post on instagram and will randomly comment. But only on stuff where my current boyfriend is not pictured.
He mentioned that if I ever invited him to come see me across the country he would?
About two weeks ago he started messaging me on instagram, he’ll send me funny reels and we’ll banter back and forth. Well last week he sent me some weirdly sexual reels, and then one that said I love you at the end. I didn’t react to any of them and just kind of ignored it. As I’m happy with my current relationship. As these last two weeks have gone on, he’s been more and more persistent about talking to me and sending me things.
On a side note we have a “family group chat” on instagram and he won’t say a word or react in there but will message me separately.
It’s all starting to bring back old feelings. And I’ve noticed he will only talk to me when he is at work (works nights) and if his girlfriend isn’t around. If I respond during the day I won’t get a response until the middle of the night.
I’ve been struggling lately because he’s literally everything I’ve ever wanted. But he won’t man up and admit anything. He makes me feel like I am crazy for wanting him. But my thought process is if someone has poured their heart out to you twice, and you aren’t interested why does he keep talking to me and sending me inappropriate messages & videos?
Again, I love him, he’s absolutely someone who will always have my heart. And I can’t cut him out because of our family situation. But am I crazy? Am I reading too much into everything?
What does this mean, is he playing me, is he really not interested? I just can’t believe that 10 years in and he’s still fucking with my head if he doesn’t actually like/love me.
This is just the short overview, way too much in ten years to go into details on or even recall at this point. But I guess my overall question— what the heck should I do, do I say anything or just let it fizzle out and focus on my current relationship and try to put these feelings back to rest?
Good lord. Your mother is manipulative as heck. I’m sorry OP, but you may never see that money and I’d strongly consider going NC with mom, at least until she realises her betrayal and mistake with you and apologises. That’ll show her.
And definitely old enough to know that lieing boomerangs. Near always.
Time for “Allieturtle” to turd some boundaries on that weirdo sister.
Personally me I would try talking to him and risk it. Your mental health is important. While I understand his fear and worry. I find it extremely unfair that the expectation is that you are meant to wait for whenever he feels like he is ready to talk again. Like come on its been 2 weeks already!! How you feel is important and all he is doing is punishing you for something you haven’t even done.
Talk to him. He has had 2 weeks. If he needs more then this relationship ain’t it.
We were young, 18, not sure I could have possibly known what I know now. I couldn’t have walked away over something that wasn’t even a known reality at the time,
You're oldest is 13 months, and you're pregnant with your second….in your 30s, you clearly had all the information you need, but you still decided to stay…for whatever reason (sunk cost fallacy? Blind hope that he'd magically change?)
I don’t exactly feel like I’m that much of a catch so he is probably better off without me.
How does this fit into anything? I think you really should invest in some individual and couple's counseling to figure out if you're together for the right reasons.
And yeah… did you WANT to get pregnant, or why did you decide to have a second child if you were already unhappy? And were never overly interested in kids?
Let him break up with you. He will only become more and more controlling of you as the relationship goes on. This is not normal or ok behavior
Women want equality until they have to pay for things
Sometimes people get unlucky. That's the risk of buying a car without an inspection.
Sometimes people get unlucky. That's the risk of buying a car without an inspection.
This guy isn’t her family. His daughter isn’t her family.
Why not? Hubs as a volunteer scout leader – he was going on monthly, weekend campouts away from us (his family). Hubs did this because he enjoys camping & hiking. I don't see how its any different from what OP is doing.
also know deep in my heart that I am no longer in love with him
then that's that. that's it. it's over, pack up, leave.
And I know a small part of me wanted those things when I said I didn't
well, yeah, you blindsided him.
but I know it's for the best because he deserves a better partner in life than me.
don't do that either. don't excuse yourself by claiming to be not worthy, that helps no one, and serves no purpose.
just leave, force him to confront reality, and go no contact to allow him time to move on.
I doubt i could afford a lawyer that's the honest truth. I'd really want to do what is best for the kid. At the least, i'd like her to know im alive (for now) and at least let her know who i am. I have no idea what she has or hasn't been told by the mother…all assuming the kid is even mine. I'm absolutely not interested in stripping her away from the family/person who raised her, that's not conducive to anything.
Part of me thinks “just wait until she's an adult, and if she wants to know, she'll come looking”. But also, i doubt her mother would even tell her who i am, or that she would know where to look, or more importantly, that i'll still be around in 5 years.
Yep. He basically said “my girlfriend won’t let me go because she doesn’t like MJ”
I mean I’m not the most hygienic of dudes but like when it’s affecting things I will absolutely do better, not to mention if it’s to keep a good woman who from reading the whole post seemed to have treated him very well idk dude I’d do anything for a girl who thought of me fond enough to buy me clothes she thought I’d like
For the record, OP, what is and is not valid in any relationship should be completely up to you. Yes, it's wonderful to be understanding and gracious, just don't let words like “proper” and “acceptable” stop you from moving on. Tons of people get stuck just coasting that way.