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Thanks for reassuring me and for the bit of tough love in the last paragraph. You're right, I think I somehow subconciously try to convince myself that it might work out eventually even though there is no indication that it will. I guess I will talk to her about going back to being friends and will look for someone compatible with me
A very honest answer. As someone who used to work on some of the biggest algorithims in the world, we design them to literally send u stuff like this based on your identity, not entirely based on what you like or interact with all the time. Yes that obviously does lock you in when you interact, but regardless, algorithims are built to send you what you MIGHT like a lot. I've literally helped design search engines to send men soft core porn just based on the fact that they're men.
We live! in a society that kind of pushes these things, and brain washes the male side into normalizing porn. With men being the sexual species they are this comes along really easily. However, that doesn't necessarily mean they can't be in a committed relationship lol. In my personal experience I'd prefer a significant other that watches porn to get what I don't give them rather than goes out to other people for it.
With all of that being said though, I find the internet in general realtively unhealthy.
Dude no 30 year old is friends with a teenager for no reason.. that friendship is so inappropriate. I'm 29 i have zero in common with someone 10 years younger than me!
You really need to understand the benefits and risks of prioritizing each other like husband and wife without having the legal protections of husband and wife.
You cannot be on each others health insurance (in almost every state). You are not legally next of kin, that's a big fucking deal. Hospitals, medical decisions etc. If you make career sacrifices so he can focus on his career, you get nothing from the fruits of that labor. If one of you drops dead, that's a whole nightmare and you're entitled to basically nothing and if you do have a will, there's still taxes in there. The govt is involved in every financial aspect of life, it's delusional to reflect to exclude them from a long term, financially enmeshed relationship.
Personally, don't prioritize a man like a husband if he is not legally your husband. Do not make sacrifices for your individual future for the benefit of the partnership. By all means, live financially separate, parallel lives. Do not cosign property with him. No joint back accounts. No shared property. No prioritizing his career over yours.
But this guy is asking you to socially and financially prioritize him like a husband without offering the security and rights of a wife. You're really, really young to be prioritizing a man like a husband anyway.
If you want to continue a relationship with him, I'd say that you aren't comfortable prioritizing him like a husband at this point in your life. You don't want a ceremony to say that you will prioritize him like one without the legal protections of marriage. Then just date the guy, don't plan your life around him, don't prioritize the future of the partnership over your individual future.
Look, I’m sure this worthless turd has convinced you you can’t do any better than him. I’m a stranger on the web and even I know he’s full of shit. Find someone who values you.
Call off the wedding. You won't get any deposits back. You also don't have to break up with your lady. Just tell her you don't feel ready, and you will propose again when you are.
But really, if you need an emotional support animal, and can't stand up to your future in-laws, maybe this whole thing is more than your constitution can stand. I don't mean that in an unkind way. But it takes a certain amount of backbone to be an adult. You're still pretty young. Different people get to it in different timeframes.
So it’s OP who needs to go though painful medical procedures(since she’s described in the post that she was looking for surgical ways to fix it) and not her boyfriend who potentially has a death grip problem? That explanation actually makes more sense if you read her comments.
I think #1, if you want to continue with this guy, you need to have a conversation about the nature of your relationship. “Situationship”, really doesn't cut it especially if marriage is something being hinted/considered. Should seriously be in an actual relationship first.
#2, with the nature of his mother's and sister's affairs I think it boils down to what his thoughts are on the infidelities, which also boils down to how/when he found out about them. You say he lied to you about his mother's affair. How did you find out? Did he confess to you or is it possible he doesn't even know? Same questions in regards to his sister.
If he doesn't/didn't know, then he's not really at fault.
If he only recently found out, then there's probably a lot of internal turmoil he's going through, especially if he originally looked up to his mother and her affair partner.
If he's know for awhile, and has straight up lied to you, then yeah I'd trust your gut. Maybe there's more to the situations/affairs? Still a really bad look for him though….
I think it's worth a deep honest conversation with him about, just to see if there's something more to consider then what you already know. Regardless though, you should trust your gut.
I don’t feel like it’s fair that I have to cover up because people don’t act nice when I’m wearing a low cut shirt. WITH an outside cardigan. It’s not like I was wearing booty shorts or showing off my arms.
It sucks that no one is ever nice to the woman with the big boobs.
He says this is the way he and his friends have always hashed out issues
and yet OP said “I have been asking him to talk to his friends more and seek their advice or support on things” so I'm wondering who's telling the truth here. Rather inclined to believe OP since the BF comes across as such an AH.
Your girlfriend wants a younger man because she can control them.
Y’all are like hypnotized by older women when they act like they like you. You’re still young, don’t waste your own time trying to make something work that will not work.
The classic “find something in common”. A lot of my friends were shy until we spoke about music, art, or other things we just wouldn’t shut up about. That’ll just make her more comfortable talking to you. That’s my take
I work in a county jail and we put you with the same body parts you have. you can be full on man and your I.D say female we will put you with males. Also at the same time if you are in transition pre op and such we put you in protective custody segregation and you automictically become two officer contact for everything.
Thanks for reassuring me and for the bit of tough love in the last paragraph. You're right, I think I somehow subconciously try to convince myself that it might work out eventually even though there is no indication that it will. I guess I will talk to her about going back to being friends and will look for someone compatible with me
A very honest answer. As someone who used to work on some of the biggest algorithims in the world, we design them to literally send u stuff like this based on your identity, not entirely based on what you like or interact with all the time. Yes that obviously does lock you in when you interact, but regardless, algorithims are built to send you what you MIGHT like a lot. I've literally helped design search engines to send men soft core porn just based on the fact that they're men.
We live! in a society that kind of pushes these things, and brain washes the male side into normalizing porn. With men being the sexual species they are this comes along really easily. However, that doesn't necessarily mean they can't be in a committed relationship lol. In my personal experience I'd prefer a significant other that watches porn to get what I don't give them rather than goes out to other people for it.
With all of that being said though, I find the internet in general realtively unhealthy.
Dude no 30 year old is friends with a teenager for no reason.. that friendship is so inappropriate. I'm 29 i have zero in common with someone 10 years younger than me!
Perhaps there were an instance or two where he found out. But he never really confronted me about it…
If the coworker had a dick, would that change anything?
You really need to understand the benefits and risks of prioritizing each other like husband and wife without having the legal protections of husband and wife.
You cannot be on each others health insurance (in almost every state). You are not legally next of kin, that's a big fucking deal. Hospitals, medical decisions etc. If you make career sacrifices so he can focus on his career, you get nothing from the fruits of that labor. If one of you drops dead, that's a whole nightmare and you're entitled to basically nothing and if you do have a will, there's still taxes in there. The govt is involved in every financial aspect of life, it's delusional to reflect to exclude them from a long term, financially enmeshed relationship.
Personally, don't prioritize a man like a husband if he is not legally your husband. Do not make sacrifices for your individual future for the benefit of the partnership. By all means, live financially separate, parallel lives. Do not cosign property with him. No joint back accounts. No shared property. No prioritizing his career over yours.
But this guy is asking you to socially and financially prioritize him like a husband without offering the security and rights of a wife. You're really, really young to be prioritizing a man like a husband anyway.
If you want to continue a relationship with him, I'd say that you aren't comfortable prioritizing him like a husband at this point in your life. You don't want a ceremony to say that you will prioritize him like one without the legal protections of marriage. Then just date the guy, don't plan your life around him, don't prioritize the future of the partnership over your individual future.
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Look, I’m sure this worthless turd has convinced you you can’t do any better than him. I’m a stranger on the web and even I know he’s full of shit. Find someone who values you.
Call off the wedding. You won't get any deposits back. You also don't have to break up with your lady. Just tell her you don't feel ready, and you will propose again when you are.
But really, if you need an emotional support animal, and can't stand up to your future in-laws, maybe this whole thing is more than your constitution can stand. I don't mean that in an unkind way. But it takes a certain amount of backbone to be an adult. You're still pretty young. Different people get to it in different timeframes.
Which reminds me….OP get tested for std’s and run.
yea ur right, thx!!
So it’s OP who needs to go though painful medical procedures(since she’s described in the post that she was looking for surgical ways to fix it) and not her boyfriend who potentially has a death grip problem? That explanation actually makes more sense if you read her comments.
Makes sense yes. Thank you.
She is not using me for money. I don’t have enough for anyone to live! a good life from my money.
I think #1, if you want to continue with this guy, you need to have a conversation about the nature of your relationship. “Situationship”, really doesn't cut it especially if marriage is something being hinted/considered. Should seriously be in an actual relationship first.
#2, with the nature of his mother's and sister's affairs I think it boils down to what his thoughts are on the infidelities, which also boils down to how/when he found out about them. You say he lied to you about his mother's affair. How did you find out? Did he confess to you or is it possible he doesn't even know? Same questions in regards to his sister.
If he doesn't/didn't know, then he's not really at fault.
If he only recently found out, then there's probably a lot of internal turmoil he's going through, especially if he originally looked up to his mother and her affair partner.
If he's know for awhile, and has straight up lied to you, then yeah I'd trust your gut. Maybe there's more to the situations/affairs? Still a really bad look for him though….
I think it's worth a deep honest conversation with him about, just to see if there's something more to consider then what you already know. Regardless though, you should trust your gut.
I don’t feel like it’s fair that I have to cover up because people don’t act nice when I’m wearing a low cut shirt. WITH an outside cardigan. It’s not like I was wearing booty shorts or showing off my arms.
It sucks that no one is ever nice to the woman with the big boobs.
He says this is the way he and his friends have always hashed out issues
and yet OP said “I have been asking him to talk to his friends more and seek their advice or support on things” so I'm wondering who's telling the truth here. Rather inclined to believe OP since the BF comes across as such an AH.
Your girlfriend wants a younger man because she can control them.
Y’all are like hypnotized by older women when they act like they like you. You’re still young, don’t waste your own time trying to make something work that will not work.
That’s not unusual at all. Being exclusive in a casual relationship decreases the chances of spreading STDs.
Sounds like you either need to go to couples counseling or your separate ways.
In sorry my dude? But she is definitely cheating on you. I wouldn't be convinced otherwise without video evidence.
The classic “find something in common”. A lot of my friends were shy until we spoke about music, art, or other things we just wouldn’t shut up about. That’ll just make her more comfortable talking to you. That’s my take
that will lead to divorce, but you do you.
I work in a county jail and we put you with the same body parts you have. you can be full on man and your I.D say female we will put you with males. Also at the same time if you are in transition pre op and such we put you in protective custody segregation and you automictically become two officer contact for everything.