Is this the first he has acted like this? The only way I would stay is if he agrees to get therapy. The words alone would be deal breaker for a lot of poeple.
This is what I was going say he should be using this time learn things that can assist in a career, like it certifications or something. This dudes watching TV all day he's not 'interested in learning ' lmao
To add to all the excellent suggestions: use this as a feedback opportunity, too. If he does stuff that works for you, tell him, more of that, and if he does stuff that doesnât work for you, you can tell him âcan you go back to doing x/what you did beforeâ. Win-win since youâll both get better sex out of it.
I don't see any downside to anyone but me in this instance.
I think this is a case where it makes sense to write a letter to your friend and then burn it.
And here I am going to say something very controversial which is going to get a lot of hate thrown at me even though it's true. And I think it's at the root of your dilemma.
Your friend is no more responsible for his pedophiliac instincts than someone born autistic is responsible for their condition. This is true and people are going to freak for it being said out loud. Because they're going to say I'm excusing it. I'm not.
But your friend doesn't want to be a pedophiliac. That's the way he was made. He's defective. He still needs to be locked up because he is dangerous, and he can't control himself. I'm not excusing his behavior. If he was my next-door neighbor, I'd treat him the same way I'd treat a rabid wolf. I'd take the threat out. But he didn't ask to be this way. He was born with a curse on him. And it's kind of sad.
In our family, we will take turns every other year going to my In-laws holidays or my family, this year i just volunteered we go to hers because we have been around mine a lot lately. We asked my Wife's family if they wanted to host Christmas, and they couldn't narrow down a date and time.
But then this week they say, “oh we are going to get together this weekend”, like 4 days notice. I just said fuck it, im staying home and sticking to previous plans.
Do what you didnât do 13 years ago and tell her how you feel. If youâve been best friends for half your life, and you really want to be with her, itâs worth asking about.
Yeah, if sheâs not interested then itâll be awkward for a while. But your friendship has likely gone through much tougher times than you respectfully sharing how you feel and asking if sheâd be interested in dating.
Money is one of the biggest things that end marriages. Itâs good to know now how he will handle situations. I donât see the big deal on just paying for your brakes or fixing them myself, but your bf comes off as immature and petty.
First thing first… DNA tests all around. If she's not sure? She has reasons for that… and now you do too.
Second? Probably just take the loss and deal with being separated. Get custody of the younger one if you have too (after making sure it's yours) and then take care of the kids. let them know its not their fault, both parents love them and be their for them.
I'd say it's important to just consider the relationship over and work on being the best co-parent you can be. While keeping your kid(s) safe.
Just so you know it was about 10 years later. Granted there wasn't social media for about half that time. Yeah there was MySpace, but we became friends again via Facebook.
What do you mean she wouldnât accept you taking meds?
Is this the first he has acted like this? The only way I would stay is if he agrees to get therapy. The words alone would be deal breaker for a lot of poeple.
This is what I was going say he should be using this time learn things that can assist in a career, like it certifications or something. This dudes watching TV all day he's not 'interested in learning ' lmao
To add to all the excellent suggestions: use this as a feedback opportunity, too. If he does stuff that works for you, tell him, more of that, and if he does stuff that doesnât work for you, you can tell him âcan you go back to doing x/what you did beforeâ. Win-win since youâll both get better sex out of it.
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tell ur wife and drop the friend. and keep it pushin
I don't see any downside to anyone but me in this instance.
I think this is a case where it makes sense to write a letter to your friend and then burn it.
And here I am going to say something very controversial which is going to get a lot of hate thrown at me even though it's true. And I think it's at the root of your dilemma.
Your friend is no more responsible for his pedophiliac instincts than someone born autistic is responsible for their condition. This is true and people are going to freak for it being said out loud. Because they're going to say I'm excusing it. I'm not.
But your friend doesn't want to be a pedophiliac. That's the way he was made. He's defective. He still needs to be locked up because he is dangerous, and he can't control himself. I'm not excusing his behavior. If he was my next-door neighbor, I'd treat him the same way I'd treat a rabid wolf. I'd take the threat out. But he didn't ask to be this way. He was born with a curse on him. And it's kind of sad.
Ya, I get it.
In our family, we will take turns every other year going to my In-laws holidays or my family, this year i just volunteered we go to hers because we have been around mine a lot lately. We asked my Wife's family if they wanted to host Christmas, and they couldn't narrow down a date and time.
But then this week they say, “oh we are going to get together this weekend”, like 4 days notice. I just said fuck it, im staying home and sticking to previous plans.
Do what you didnât do 13 years ago and tell her how you feel. If youâve been best friends for half your life, and you really want to be with her, itâs worth asking about.
Yeah, if sheâs not interested then itâll be awkward for a while. But your friendship has likely gone through much tougher times than you respectfully sharing how you feel and asking if sheâd be interested in dating.
Money is one of the biggest things that end marriages. Itâs good to know now how he will handle situations. I donât see the big deal on just paying for your brakes or fixing them myself, but your bf comes off as immature and petty.
First thing first… DNA tests all around. If she's not sure? She has reasons for that… and now you do too.
Second? Probably just take the loss and deal with being separated. Get custody of the younger one if you have too (after making sure it's yours) and then take care of the kids. let them know its not their fault, both parents love them and be their for them.
I'd say it's important to just consider the relationship over and work on being the best co-parent you can be. While keeping your kid(s) safe.
Just so you know it was about 10 years later. Granted there wasn't social media for about half that time. Yeah there was MySpace, but we became friends again via Facebook.
thatâs sad
Facts
Same exact thing happened to me and my ex. I wasn't convinced but I didn't want to let him down. In case you missed that, he is now my ex.