This sounds like you want him to know about this stuff, and want comfort from him (totally ok) but you’re afraid to tell him (understandable) so you only reach out when drunk, with cryptic texts when he can’t respond (kind of messed up and a bit manipulative). So instead, when you’re sober, ask him if you can share what you went through and how sometimes it makes you feel. Be open, authentic and honest, no cryptic or half info to try to manipulate concern and curiosity from him. Instead give it to him straight and ask him for the reassurance and comfort you crave directly. You doing that indirect shit is you constantly testing the waters if he cares or not, but actually never having the conversation.
She’s 19 and doesn’t know boundaries yet. Any”adult” woman in a committed relationship does not play wrestle with another man, period! She’s doing things with him she should be doing with you, dump her before you get cheated on (she most likely is already) or you get dumped.
I need more context. How long have you been together? What do you like about each other? What are your goals together? What are your problems that you initiate conversations about? Do you have a way of resolving problems without talking?
I didn’t need to forgive either of them. I only chose to forgive him because he was willing to redeem himself
It's her boyfriend, aka “dump him”.
This sounds like you want him to know about this stuff, and want comfort from him (totally ok) but you’re afraid to tell him (understandable) so you only reach out when drunk, with cryptic texts when he can’t respond (kind of messed up and a bit manipulative). So instead, when you’re sober, ask him if you can share what you went through and how sometimes it makes you feel. Be open, authentic and honest, no cryptic or half info to try to manipulate concern and curiosity from him. Instead give it to him straight and ask him for the reassurance and comfort you crave directly. You doing that indirect shit is you constantly testing the waters if he cares or not, but actually never having the conversation.
You need to put yourself first.
He HIT YOU! Multiple times!
She’s 19 and doesn’t know boundaries yet. Any”adult” woman in a committed relationship does not play wrestle with another man, period! She’s doing things with him she should be doing with you, dump her before you get cheated on (she most likely is already) or you get dumped.
I need more context. How long have you been together? What do you like about each other? What are your goals together? What are your problems that you initiate conversations about? Do you have a way of resolving problems without talking?
Tell her and block him
Does he complain if you post lovey-dovey stuff on your Instagram and tag him?