I see, with the context, I agree with you. Get a abortion and breakup if marriage is that important to her. I still think she should keep the baby and the relationship, from the post he was seems like a good guy, why throw that away over a marriage certificate.
I have never not trusted my girlfriend and can't believe she would cheat on me but also this guy has always been really nice so I don't know why he would make this up. Its crossed my mind that he's just saying it as a way of getting back at his ex and my girlfriend I guess for the breakup but it seems ridiculous if thats the case.
Well, I think so far he kept it quiet because he likely didn't want to be the cause of all the drama because he blew up your relationship. Now that he's not dating your gf's friend he does not have the reservation anymore.
I don't think that he has any reason to lie to you about your gf's cheating. Your gf on the other hand has all the reason to lie to you.
I understand that you don't have any proof and don't feel comfortable confronting your gf without any proof. If you chose not to want to continue the relationship, then you can let her know that. There's no reason why you need to explain yourself.
Give it 1 year and review the topic again. There are both good and bad points to having kids. You two could make lists of them to discuss and come up with solutions. My hindsight review is I wish we had more close family/friends near willing to help. But seeing milestones being passed will forever be in my memories.
It's not that he isn't letting you, it is that you aren't taking it. Look, to an extent? Yes, being with your person in a shack is better than, say, having them dead. But it sounds like he is very one-sided in what he wants/will accept from a living sitaution, and is willing to snow you into accepting it rather coming to a 1/2 point with you of some type.
The comments from OP are very telling. I wouldn’t want anything to do with you either. Why did you even come here for advice? There is no echo chamber for the bs you are pushing.
I see, with the context, I agree with you. Get a abortion and breakup if marriage is that important to her. I still think she should keep the baby and the relationship, from the post he was seems like a good guy, why throw that away over a marriage certificate.
I have never not trusted my girlfriend and can't believe she would cheat on me but also this guy has always been really nice so I don't know why he would make this up. Its crossed my mind that he's just saying it as a way of getting back at his ex and my girlfriend I guess for the breakup but it seems ridiculous if thats the case.
Well, I think so far he kept it quiet because he likely didn't want to be the cause of all the drama because he blew up your relationship. Now that he's not dating your gf's friend he does not have the reservation anymore.
I don't think that he has any reason to lie to you about your gf's cheating. Your gf on the other hand has all the reason to lie to you.
I understand that you don't have any proof and don't feel comfortable confronting your gf without any proof. If you chose not to want to continue the relationship, then you can let her know that. There's no reason why you need to explain yourself.
Give it 1 year and review the topic again. There are both good and bad points to having kids. You two could make lists of them to discuss and come up with solutions. My hindsight review is I wish we had more close family/friends near willing to help. But seeing milestones being passed will forever be in my memories.
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It's not that he isn't letting you, it is that you aren't taking it. Look, to an extent? Yes, being with your person in a shack is better than, say, having them dead. But it sounds like he is very one-sided in what he wants/will accept from a living sitaution, and is willing to snow you into accepting it rather coming to a 1/2 point with you of some type.
The comments from OP are very telling. I wouldn’t want anything to do with you either. Why did you even come here for advice? There is no echo chamber for the bs you are pushing.
That was my thought as well.