Maybe it doesnt have to do with your sexuality or something but I'm convinced that you are an avoidant personality type. Google it and see if the description fits you
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Male here. I am dating a woman who has a kid from a previous relationship. We have been dating since 11 months. Kids father does not pay any money to her.
She has hinted that she would be more at ease in the relationship if she was more sure of her future finances even after we part ways. She is quite stressed about that aspect every now and then and I am considering investigating what I can do to alleviate that.
What can I do to ensure that she is more secure about her financial future?
Till now I have tried to look into what kind of laws are there for Alimony and Child maintenance which might benefit her.
Thanks a lot for your inputs!
Edit: When I wrote “Alimony and Child maintenance which might benefit her”, I meant Alimony and maintenance from me and not her baby daddy.
Additional info: I have been paying for majority(or all) of her monthly expenses since the last 9 months.
Edit: I am sorry if I gave the impression that she is she is trying to get her hands on my money. What I meant was that she is worried about her financial future as a mother and has confided in me enough to express that concern to me.
Edit: is it really that bad to be willing to support her and her child? The comments in the comment section make me feel that I am maybe brainwashed by “modern” thinking (or whatever you may call it)
He burned you, and I mean singed your reputation and that of your friend so completely he sent you in a spiral of self harm and you finally managed to crawl out of it and now that you are in a better place you are thinking of taking a trip down memory lane again?
Sorry, but what part of that plan screams 'BEST DECISION EVER!!!'
Please take a moment to really think on how unhealthy your relationship was with this other person and recognize that falling back into it because of boredom is the last thing you need. if you want sex then get a toy, all the fun and none of the drama. it doesn't nag you into giving in, it doesn't tattle on your friends to make you out to be the bad guy for no reason it doesn't get jealous of the other toys in the drawer, it doesn't make you feel inadequate or like a back up plan either.
Stay away from this person, he is toxic to your mental health.
Ask her, not Reddit. But, she's not saying no to the time just the place. I think you're good
Maybe it doesnt have to do with your sexuality or something but I'm convinced that you are an avoidant personality type. Google it and see if the description fits you
Well, you need to decide what you want. 9 months is fairly new, so you bail if you want.
If I were you, I would have bailed. I ain't gonna be compared to no other girl let alone an ex. If he think she is so beautiful he can go back to her.
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Male here. I am dating a woman who has a kid from a previous relationship. We have been dating since 11 months. Kids father does not pay any money to her.
She has hinted that she would be more at ease in the relationship if she was more sure of her future finances even after we part ways. She is quite stressed about that aspect every now and then and I am considering investigating what I can do to alleviate that.
What can I do to ensure that she is more secure about her financial future?
Till now I have tried to look into what kind of laws are there for Alimony and Child maintenance which might benefit her.
Thanks a lot for your inputs!
Edit: When I wrote “Alimony and Child maintenance which might benefit her”, I meant Alimony and maintenance from me and not her baby daddy.
Additional info: I have been paying for majority(or all) of her monthly expenses since the last 9 months.
Edit: I am sorry if I gave the impression that she is she is trying to get her hands on my money. What I meant was that she is worried about her financial future as a mother and has confided in me enough to express that concern to me.
Edit: is it really that bad to be willing to support her and her child? The comments in the comment section make me feel that I am maybe brainwashed by “modern” thinking (or whatever you may call it)
Ah well. It’d work.
This chick is not your girlfriend. Refuse to ever speak to her again.
Help me understand please,
He burned you, and I mean singed your reputation and that of your friend so completely he sent you in a spiral of self harm and you finally managed to crawl out of it and now that you are in a better place you are thinking of taking a trip down memory lane again?
Sorry, but what part of that plan screams 'BEST DECISION EVER!!!'
Please take a moment to really think on how unhealthy your relationship was with this other person and recognize that falling back into it because of boredom is the last thing you need. if you want sex then get a toy, all the fun and none of the drama. it doesn't nag you into giving in, it doesn't tattle on your friends to make you out to be the bad guy for no reason it doesn't get jealous of the other toys in the drawer, it doesn't make you feel inadequate or like a back up plan either.
Stay away from this person, he is toxic to your mental health.