Obviously this kind of thing is unlikely to ever get prosecuted when it’s personal phones/petty conflicts, i just felt it was an apt explanation for why this is a violation of privacy and why it’s wrong—as there’s already laws about it.
If what he says is true, he intentionally went digging through private messages he was not meant to see. There’s no changing that fact. Those messages were never meant for him, nor were they lying around to be found. He went looking.
Whether you think that’s fine or not is up to you, but if your significant other reads all your private conversations you have a responsibility to make sure you inform the people you’re talking to that your conversations are not private and he will also be reading them! It might change how much they tell you—and reasonably so.
My girlfriend and I use each other’s phones all the time and have no secrets. I have no issue with her reading anything on my phone that does not involve another person. Reading back through my private conversations without consent, however, would make me deeply uncomfortable. Not because I’ve ever done or said anything incriminating, but because people talking to me assume a level of privacy. A text conversation is just a high speed letter and it is meant for my eyes only. Allowing someone else to read it violates the trust of the people who talk with me. That’s why it’s morally wrong to read someone’s private conversations.
OP gained useful insights and (as I have said over and over lol) should break up with his girlfriend for it, but that doesn’t mean that the way he found out is a good thing or okay to do generally.
I take people’s ability to trust me very seriously and I hate Reddit’s double standard on this whole phone thing (Aka: it’s bad behaviour if you find nothing—then you’re just insecure, but if you do find something then you’re justified. It’s hypocritical behaviour so it bothers me lol). But anyways, we can agree to disagree!
Dude, you sure shes straight? Cause none of that sounds right. I have pelvic floor dysfunction with a form of vaginismus causes by my endometriosis. And nothing you said about her pt sounds right. Ive been going to pt off and on since 2019 when i need a tune up. And i have a standing scrips for vaginal valium and oral baclofen. And i know literally hundreds of other women with the same issue. And ive never heard of her claims before.
Wow. So anyone who wants a wedding is desperate? Could you be more dismissive? You have a mental health problem and SHE is the one who is the issue? Um, no.
YOU WERE ON A BREAK
Agree with you. Some people can just fuck right off.
Do not invite them. And don't let them crash either.
Seriously. Not even worth it, kid and all.
If anybody cares to know, things are going great now.
Obviously this kind of thing is unlikely to ever get prosecuted when it’s personal phones/petty conflicts, i just felt it was an apt explanation for why this is a violation of privacy and why it’s wrong—as there’s already laws about it.
If what he says is true, he intentionally went digging through private messages he was not meant to see. There’s no changing that fact. Those messages were never meant for him, nor were they lying around to be found. He went looking.
Whether you think that’s fine or not is up to you, but if your significant other reads all your private conversations you have a responsibility to make sure you inform the people you’re talking to that your conversations are not private and he will also be reading them! It might change how much they tell you—and reasonably so.
My girlfriend and I use each other’s phones all the time and have no secrets. I have no issue with her reading anything on my phone that does not involve another person. Reading back through my private conversations without consent, however, would make me deeply uncomfortable. Not because I’ve ever done or said anything incriminating, but because people talking to me assume a level of privacy. A text conversation is just a high speed letter and it is meant for my eyes only. Allowing someone else to read it violates the trust of the people who talk with me. That’s why it’s morally wrong to read someone’s private conversations.
OP gained useful insights and (as I have said over and over lol) should break up with his girlfriend for it, but that doesn’t mean that the way he found out is a good thing or okay to do generally.
I take people’s ability to trust me very seriously and I hate Reddit’s double standard on this whole phone thing (Aka: it’s bad behaviour if you find nothing—then you’re just insecure, but if you do find something then you’re justified. It’s hypocritical behaviour so it bothers me lol). But anyways, we can agree to disagree!
But first, it'll piss you off.
Dude, you sure shes straight? Cause none of that sounds right. I have pelvic floor dysfunction with a form of vaginismus causes by my endometriosis. And nothing you said about her pt sounds right. Ive been going to pt off and on since 2019 when i need a tune up. And i have a standing scrips for vaginal valium and oral baclofen. And i know literally hundreds of other women with the same issue. And ive never heard of her claims before.
Shes not into you. You need to break up
Wow. So anyone who wants a wedding is desperate? Could you be more dismissive? You have a mental health problem and SHE is the one who is the issue? Um, no.