Not the update anyone wanted [Update 2] When I [30 F] say “our bathroom” or “our house” etc, my husband [30 M] always has to point out that it’s *his* house etc
8KI'm shaking and crying as I write this.
I now understand all the red flag comments on my last posts. I didn't see it. I trusted him!! I'm so fucking stupid
Here's what happened: he went on a work trip this week and promised we would sort the house deed stuff when he comes back. His apology sounded genuine and I believed him as much as I could without the proof yet.
Today I just had a weird feeling in my body, his texts about work have been really update-y, like constantly telling me what he's doing or where he's going. I didn't think anything of it until earlier, when he said he was taking a nap and wouldn't be on his phone for a few hours. This is weird because the man despises naps, they fuck up his sleep and he feels like shit after.
So I checked his Google play account from our home PC, his Google account is always logged in. He probably doesn't know I know this but I can see what apps he has or recently had installed on his phone.
Why this is important: when we were dating, he had a severe sexting addiction. We broke up because of it, I had suspicions and caught him. But we ended up getting back together after he swore up and down it had stopped and even gave me permission to look at his phone whenever I wanted. I eventually stopped checking because I trusted him.
A few years have passed and we're obviously now married with a baby on the way, and I've trusted him. Our intimacy has basically died since I got pregnant but I blamed that more on myself than him because I just don't feel in the mood or sexy. He never tried anything, so I didn't have to reject him. It was just like he felt it too I guess. I thought that was normal.
So anyways I looked at his account and saw that he had all the apps he used to use for sexting installed and recently used on his phone. Snapchat, telegram, Whatsapp, Instagram, Tumblr. But the worst one, the one that broke my heart seeing, is that he has tinder installed. Does that mean his work trips he's actually fucking people? He's had a LOT of work trips the past two months since he won't be able to travel for a while when baby arrives.
I'm devastated and angry and I feel so stupid that I was making excuses for him and trying to paint him in a better light when EVERYONE WAS TELLING ME TO RUN
Now idk what to do. I want to call him and tell him I know, but the only evidence I had is screen shots from the Google play website showing they were installed and recently used. I want to get real evidence because I know he'll uninstall everything before he's back.
Part of me wants to just leave and go to my parents house 4 hours away with the pictures printed out for him to find when he gets back… But I don't think that will solve anything.
Help :/
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