You are not a parent and are not qualified to tell someone else how to parent. Grow up, or just leave the man alone so he can parent the way he sees fit.
Honestly, you’re kind of adorable. But I never said she would be held criminally liable. I said…. “Those are serious allegations, both of which she either knows are false or can’t prove which means so it would be very easy for him to sue her for defamation.” Even though I did mention defamation can be illegal, I never said OP could be charged or convicted of it. I stated multiple times he could sue her which would be civil court and not criminal.
this isn't a situation where you are going to a restaurant you don't like but you keep quiet because you know everyone else likes it… this is YOUR life. getting married is a huge deal and in this case, not marrying a person is also looking out for their wellbeing too. Flip the script… if you were about to get married and your SO had reservations like this what would you want them to do? Just repress their feelings for years until maybe one day the resentment builds up enough and they leave you??
Just going to say (without reading other comments) that as a man if he’s not ready now after all this time and the journey through IVF then he never will be
most alpha men do. it’s great for them to relax with their woman and not have to think too hot emotionally. because they are very active and take charge in their careers and daily lives. it’s a mental break for them to literally reset to baby mode and just be cared for…seen…listened to…simply listen and follow orders….and ultimately relax.
it could be that. it could also be a combination of him genuinely not being able to stop. sometimes I talk to people in the voice I use with my dog because I do it so often. like when the topic of my dog comes up…boom baby voice. or if I say something out loud to myself sometimes the baby voice comes out. it’s really naked to break that cycle. but maybe ask him if he has a mommy kink…but only if you’re okay with it. if it really is a turn off and you ask him…be prepared for the 50/50 chance of him saying yes. at that point it would suck if you ask him only to dump him because you might scar him and he will feel intense shame. so if you have a feeling that’s what it is- then maybe just end it so he can find his mommydom that won’t shame him…and you can find a man that’s not into that. bc that’s just sexual incompatibility.
but like I said- it’s 50/50 and only you really know. but there is nothing like a woman’s intuition so you feeling maternal means he probably has one…even if it’s just subconsciously so right now for him.
Do not move. Stay in Germany where you and your newborn have a good future. Your still young, and have a great career. He don’t get to change the plans. It sounds like his parents are influencing him.
thank u sm!! i really appreciate it 🙂 i’ll try and think it over and possibly message in the morning
You are not a parent and are not qualified to tell someone else how to parent. Grow up, or just leave the man alone so he can parent the way he sees fit.
I think you dodged a bullet here honestly. He’s kind of making it clear he really just wanted nudes.
The love of your life is a racist jackass. Please reflect on that.
Honestly, you’re kind of adorable. But I never said she would be held criminally liable. I said…. “Those are serious allegations, both of which she either knows are false or can’t prove which means so it would be very easy for him to sue her for defamation.” Even though I did mention defamation can be illegal, I never said OP could be charged or convicted of it. I stated multiple times he could sue her which would be civil court and not criminal.
this isn't a situation where you are going to a restaurant you don't like but you keep quiet because you know everyone else likes it… this is YOUR life. getting married is a huge deal and in this case, not marrying a person is also looking out for their wellbeing too. Flip the script… if you were about to get married and your SO had reservations like this what would you want them to do? Just repress their feelings for years until maybe one day the resentment builds up enough and they leave you??
Just going to say (without reading other comments) that as a man if he’s not ready now after all this time and the journey through IVF then he never will be
Depends do you like him
You know the answer.
Now you need to ask yourself if this is something you can tolerate, or if you’re going to walk away.
ooo maybe he has a mommy kink. Femdom mommy kink.
most alpha men do. it’s great for them to relax with their woman and not have to think too hot emotionally. because they are very active and take charge in their careers and daily lives. it’s a mental break for them to literally reset to baby mode and just be cared for…seen…listened to…simply listen and follow orders….and ultimately relax.
it could be that. it could also be a combination of him genuinely not being able to stop. sometimes I talk to people in the voice I use with my dog because I do it so often. like when the topic of my dog comes up…boom baby voice. or if I say something out loud to myself sometimes the baby voice comes out. it’s really naked to break that cycle. but maybe ask him if he has a mommy kink…but only if you’re okay with it. if it really is a turn off and you ask him…be prepared for the 50/50 chance of him saying yes. at that point it would suck if you ask him only to dump him because you might scar him and he will feel intense shame. so if you have a feeling that’s what it is- then maybe just end it so he can find his mommydom that won’t shame him…and you can find a man that’s not into that. bc that’s just sexual incompatibility.
but like I said- it’s 50/50 and only you really know. but there is nothing like a woman’s intuition so you feeling maternal means he probably has one…even if it’s just subconsciously so right now for him.
This is what therapy is for. To help us talk through issues and find new strategies to manage our emotions.
Halloween is absolutely a holiday that came from religion. The Christian holiday All Hallow’s Eve was grafted onto the pagan holiday Samhain
Do not move. Stay in Germany where you and your newborn have a good future. Your still young, and have a great career. He don’t get to change the plans. It sounds like his parents are influencing him.