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So what if he has a type. Doesn't mean he loves you any less. I like petite girls with long dark hair. I have dated tall redheads with curly hair and had great relationships. You probably have a thing for Chris Evens or the guy who plays Thor. Doesn't mean you are not attracted to your partner.
As for talking to other girls if he is being a wingman just comes with the job. Doesn't mean he is talking to them to bang.
Ok but no one ever said she was unattractive or lazy or miserable to be around. Overweight people can be both attractive, very active, and fun to be around.
I'm not saying she is or isn't those things, but that's a lot of unfair assumptions about someone.
She has someone else, and she feels guilty. Use the guilt to your advantage, get a divorce, and get as many concessions from her as possible. Don't be vindictive or nasty, but make sure you get everything that you can. She does not need anything she already has a new life waiting for her.
I had to work on my anger. Still do, I'm afraid, even though it's generally under control. But that's the thing–it's not okay, and it takes a lot of work to parse through that issue. If he's unwilling to do it, his anger issues will never diminish. Ever.
He needs to understand that how you communicate is just as important as the content. For myself, that distinction is lost most often when my frustration arises out of not feeling heard. After all, if my feelings don't matter to anyone but me, then I might as well register those feelings LOUDLY.
I also gave myself the benefit of doubt because I knew in my heart of hearts that I would never hurt someone, so it was easy to believe there's no real harm to yelling. But nobody knows what another person is truly thinking, and as a result, yelling is scary! No constructive conversations can happen between two people when one is in a state of fear. Your husband might be a good man 29/30 days, but that's not enough if you live! in fear and he's unwilling to address it.
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So what if he has a type. Doesn't mean he loves you any less. I like petite girls with long dark hair. I have dated tall redheads with curly hair and had great relationships. You probably have a thing for Chris Evens or the guy who plays Thor. Doesn't mean you are not attracted to your partner.
As for talking to other girls if he is being a wingman just comes with the job. Doesn't mean he is talking to them to bang.
He sounds absolutely exhausting!! I'd probably walk away. I can only handle so much insecurity before it becomes toxic.
Thank you I needed to hear that.
But those tokens of affection were supposed to add up to sex. He pretends to be friends so he can earn sex.
Ok but no one ever said she was unattractive or lazy or miserable to be around. Overweight people can be both attractive, very active, and fun to be around.
I'm not saying she is or isn't those things, but that's a lot of unfair assumptions about someone.
She has someone else, and she feels guilty. Use the guilt to your advantage, get a divorce, and get as many concessions from her as possible. Don't be vindictive or nasty, but make sure you get everything that you can. She does not need anything she already has a new life waiting for her.
I had to work on my anger. Still do, I'm afraid, even though it's generally under control. But that's the thing–it's not okay, and it takes a lot of work to parse through that issue. If he's unwilling to do it, his anger issues will never diminish. Ever.
He needs to understand that how you communicate is just as important as the content. For myself, that distinction is lost most often when my frustration arises out of not feeling heard. After all, if my feelings don't matter to anyone but me, then I might as well register those feelings LOUDLY.
I also gave myself the benefit of doubt because I knew in my heart of hearts that I would never hurt someone, so it was easy to believe there's no real harm to yelling. But nobody knows what another person is truly thinking, and as a result, yelling is scary! No constructive conversations can happen between two people when one is in a state of fear. Your husband might be a good man 29/30 days, but that's not enough if you live! in fear and he's unwilling to address it.