Have YOU EVER been walking one sole meter in her shoes?
God, lady. Yes, yes I have. That's why I'm saying she shouldn't just hope there's someone out there to help her when she moves out. I'm glad you found a network, but you were lucky. My network was stretched just as thin as I was. Picking kids up from kindergarten? That's an effing luxury, some of us actually had to work as single mothers. Can't imagine who was paying your bills.
And I didn't let my kid have sleepovers just for my own convenience. It's crazy out there, she doesn't sleep over at anyone's home unless I've known them for many years. You may have had lower standards for your kid, but that doesn't mean OP has to.
Also: her partner will be over next year, if it goes as planned. So she just needs to cover the first year.
Lol. Are you sure you were a single mom? No baby daddy covering your bills? No boyfriend paying half the rent? Because you sound like someone who had a partner helping them. Trusting a boyfriend or girlfriend to leave their country and move in is nonsense. She isn't relying on that, and you shouldn't recommend she does.
If he is a person that would cheat on you in Spain, then he would eventually do it anyway. If you break up with him only because of baseless insecurity, then you will do as in all future relationships, and end up alone.
Being in relationship means being vulnerable, this part and parcel if romantic connection with other person.
Naturally, if he has given you prior reasons for distrust it is different conversation, but I mean actual reasons, not something like he does now.
I just wanna know how you afforded laser hair surgery at 18
(I keep repeating myself . . .)
Wanna know why a 45-year old man is dating you?
Because women his age won’t put up with his bullshit.
That’s all I got.
Have YOU EVER been walking one sole meter in her shoes?
God, lady. Yes, yes I have. That's why I'm saying she shouldn't just hope there's someone out there to help her when she moves out. I'm glad you found a network, but you were lucky. My network was stretched just as thin as I was. Picking kids up from kindergarten? That's an effing luxury, some of us actually had to work as single mothers. Can't imagine who was paying your bills.
And I didn't let my kid have sleepovers just for my own convenience. It's crazy out there, she doesn't sleep over at anyone's home unless I've known them for many years. You may have had lower standards for your kid, but that doesn't mean OP has to.
Also: her partner will be over next year, if it goes as planned. So she just needs to cover the first year.
Lol. Are you sure you were a single mom? No baby daddy covering your bills? No boyfriend paying half the rent? Because you sound like someone who had a partner helping them. Trusting a boyfriend or girlfriend to leave their country and move in is nonsense. She isn't relying on that, and you shouldn't recommend she does.
If he is a person that would cheat on you in Spain, then he would eventually do it anyway. If you break up with him only because of baseless insecurity, then you will do as in all future relationships, and end up alone.
Being in relationship means being vulnerable, this part and parcel if romantic connection with other person.
Naturally, if he has given you prior reasons for distrust it is different conversation, but I mean actual reasons, not something like he does now.
TIL that in yet another measure, I am an exceptional man. I have always been a fastidious practitioner of anal hygiene.